Need Feedback on important marital decision

[PeterForslund]

Ok, here is my situation (sorry in advance for the length)...

I have been married to my wife for close to 2 years now and things were always good in the past 5 years that we dated and were engaged. It seemed that after we got married and started to live together there became animosity. I did some heavy thinking recently and it seems to me that all our fights were contributed to worry, doubt, and jealousy. The problem is that neither of us should have these worries because I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that we both have been faithful to each other. That doesn't keep us from fighting constantly to the point where it seems like our marriage won't make it. She thinks that she isn't everything that I want from a wife. I have always tried to be upfront and as honest as I can about my past and how I feel. I used to live the "party life" of getting drunk and sleeping with random girls at parties. I have tried to explain to her that I have experienced the whole party scene and it doesn't hold anything that I want out of life and just left me empty. She thinks that I some point I will miss it and regret settling down with her and go out and return to that life. Now with her she never experienced that life and she has told me that there are times that she wishes she would have had that kind of life, just for the experience and so that she would have no regrets later in life 20 years from now. I am the one that worries that one day we will get fed up with each other and she will go out behind my back and try the things that she missed.

The problem...

I have never really heard or thought about open marriages in the past, I always shut it out immediately because I just couldn't get myself past the thought of my wife with other men. I think I first read about it in detail here, and if I remember correctly Erin and Steve have that kind of relationship. So, I started on a long think session by myself. I asked myself why I was so jealous because everybody has these urges. After reading about how Erin and Steve made their marriage stronger doing this I got to thinking. After a long time I finally became at easy with it, I'm still a little uneasy and unsure but I have been entertaining the idea. So, today I talked to my wife and proposed that we think about it and after a good deal of thought we will talk again. We set up ground rules if we are to do this. First is that we must be honest about who we are with and what we are doing. Second is that we must be safe with what we are doing and who we are with. These are the terms as I proposed. No doubt we are both worried that it might back fire, but for some strange reason it's the crazy ideas in life that usually work, so before we go back to fighting or before we even try this I figured I would request some input.

The request...

I would like to hear from people that have tried this with their marriages. Did it work? Did it bring you closer together? Do you appreciate each other more? Has it helped you get past insecurities you might have had in the past? What were your rules for this arrangement? What are your thoughts about our situation and how this whole thing might apply to us? Anybody that has experience in this or has known someone to have tried it is welcome to give feedback, please!