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Old 08-12-2009, 06:15 PM   #1 (permalink)
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I felt this could go equally well in the Relationship or in the Fun section, but I thought the conversations might become more interesting here.

YouTube - While I was Away

The lessons I gather are not the same as his. Mine is: More often than you think, people are having a relationship with what they imagine of you. Not with you.
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Oh yes, a whole story can be going in you head having nothing to do with what is really happening. I tend to always find 10 different scenarios for something so I won't make an assumption based on anger of hurt or the "worst case"... so if he doesn't call, he was held up in a meeting, had 10 other calls, something happened to his mother/brother... (this has proven to be true a number of times) his kids have done something so he has to get over there and solve the problem.... or an emergency at work a huge bank and he is a executive manager.... if he forgets something he promised again this or that or .... and so I am not angry or hurt when he does call, or arrives late or what ever... it saves a lot of time, energy and nerves.
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I felt this could go equally well in the Relationship or in the Fun section, but I thought the conversations might become more interesting here.

YouTube - While I was Away

The lessons I gather are not the same as his. Mine is: More often than you think, people are having a relationship with what they imagine of you. Not with you.
I felt sad after watching this -- such unnecessary pain and drama. Assumption is the mother of all f**k ups.

(And yes, people are often having a relationship with their own imagination.)
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I'd say the girl was rather self-centered. If I'm worried about someone having gone missing, writing (in the third to last slide's words) 'passionate' emails won't be my top priority..
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