I really wanna improve my sex life.....

[ultimate]

Is 1 x per week a realistic goal?

What steps shall I take?

I am lousy at this area of my life. I really wanna commit to having fun relationships at this moment in time.

[Mynder]

Why don't you go with what feels natural to you?

[ssandra]

A good sex life is not about how often per week or month.. It is quality that matters, not quantity.

Before being able to give more advice I would need to know some more information...

Do you have a partner, do you live together, why is your sexlife not the way you want it to be? What are you missing?

[HCG]

It is realistic yes. Because you think so.

What steps?
- Approach women you want to have sex with !

Look at my blog I have approached 3000 women for the past 2 years ..

[aelle]

Originally Posted by ultimate

Is 1 x per week a realistic goal?

A realistic goal is one that both you and your partner are happy with.

I'd love to help, but I'll need to repeat ssanda's questions. Do you have a partner? What's your sexlife like now?

[Andyee]

attend some courses... or buy some. Maybe "Power Social skills" by Carlos Xuma or his other products. You can download the Mystery Method (pick up)

[ultimate]

Hey sorry for replying late

I have no partner.
Thats what is missing - lol

Oh I really need to improve my life

[TonyToneTone]

Originally Posted by ultimate

Is 1 x per week a realistic goal?

What steps shall I take?

I am lousy at this area of my life. I really wanna commit to having fun relationships at this moment in time.

Yes.

Get a good wingman. One that you know is having sex with a lot of women. Go out with him and see what he does. He will be able to hook you up with women. Also, it's fun to game girls when you are doing it with other people that are good at it.

Spend a few days a week going out with your wing and picking up women. See what works and what doesn't. Do more of what works and less of what doesn't.

Read some material on this stuff. I recommend Paul Janka's "Attraction Formula" Paul Janka's Attraction Formula or Paul Janka - Getting Laid in NYC - read here.. - PUA Reviews and Ratings if you don't feel like spending any cash.. Also, look at your clothes, dress, speech, stance, etc.. and see if they convey "success" to you. If they don't, and you don't know about some of this stuff, go to a fashionable clothing store and have one of the attractive women there pick out some stylish outfits for you.

[Andy4]

Hi Ultimate,

Tony's advice is spot on, learn about things from people who are genuinely good at them, a good wing man as Tony refers to it. IE someone that gets results, not just the ones that can talk a good talk.

In fairness to everyone that posted before Tony, no-one knew at that stage wether you had a partner or not.

Please dont take my following comments to be too unkind but I'm going to be frank with you.

Your join date was more than 2 years ago and yet it has taken you this long to come up with such a crucial question?

You omit vital information from your post and thus leave people guessing on how best to help you.

Okay, nobody is perfect, just ask my wife about my faults, she'll keep you talking all day and probably most of the night but don't put the cart before the horse. Without stating the obvious. Yes, to improve your sex life you first need a partner, take it one step at a time, concentrate on that.

As for improving your sex life when you find a partner, (not your life in general as you alude to in your follow up post), I would suggest the following.

AS ssandra states go for quality not quantity, if you give someone something they like, anything. Clothes, food, entertainment, SEX, they will keep comming back for more.

I believe that sex, attraction, whatever is all about foreplay, that's the turn on for both sexes, teasing each other and taking things really slowly adds to the excitement, concentrate on her pleasure first and dont rush the actual intercourse.

As for improving your life in general, again, take it one bit at a time, chunk it down and start with the easiest stuff first, but you've got the right idea a lot of general confidence stems from sexual confidence.

Good luck.

Regards, Andy.

[amj]

Originally Posted by ultimate

Is 1 x per week a realistic goal?

What steps shall I take?

I am lousy at this area of my life. I really wanna commit to having fun relationships at this moment in time.

Sounds like you need confidence. Once you have that, the women flock to you. If you know how to talk to women and are comfortable with yourself, you will get exactly what you want. Trust me

[MillenniumMike]

So here are some cheap and quick ways to get good in this area.

First balance out quantity and quality, quality will get your skills up but quantity is something that should get handled for experience reasons. You need hook ups and relationships to get a better idea of what is really going on.

Since we do not know your experience level, once a week maybe easy or super hard. Look at your past experience.

As for advice, for online stuff go to 21 Convention it has hours of speeches by the best PUA's in the world for free. Its information that would usually cost thousands. Just search 21 convention.

Hang out with the right people. Hang out with people who are good at what you want to get good at, speeds up the process.

Its quality and quantity.

[Mind Mentor]

Hi All,

How are you? I hope all's well.

I'm new to htis forum and have joined to learn alot more baout myself by helping others to learn more about themselves.

In response to this thread;

Wanting to improve one's own sex life is one aspect of the inidividual. It hsould be given priority just as much as one wanting to improve their work life of health life or even personal life. In other words; it's an aspect of the individual which makes up the whole and hence is part of personal development.

Know that the actions of an individual; be they with the limbs or the tongue: are only a mere projection of the inner thoughts, feelings and emotions. As every aspect comes together to make the individual; the term sex-life is just an expression reffering to that aspect of life. Otherwise if it really refers to 'sex-life' or even 'work-life' then why seperate them and lead 'multiple' lives?

Hence, the point here is that one needs to indentify what meaning and significance every aspect has in their lives and also how and why they come together. Therefore every aspect of the individual should work in synergy with the other.

Ask yourself; what you want out of improving you sex-life and why? Why is it you feel it may not be enough or even too much? Your sex-life is a projection of expresison and feeling and emotion you have of a situation and at a time; as a result of the combined feeling and emotions of the other aspects of your life; eg: work, relationship, study, social, etc, etc. Henceforth; if you're frustrated, angry, short-tempered then this will reflect in your sex-life with the individual(s) and even yourself. At the same time if you're patient, calm, relaxed etc then this will also reflect in your sex-life to be more positive, pleasurable and a more long-lasting relationship.

This will also help in deciding if your are to have multiple sex partners or not. Ask yourself; will you be fully content in the depths of your heart to have many partners. It may be fun on the outside; but will it be on the inside? As stated above; again if you're having multiple partners then this maybe a reflection of an internal sub-conscious unsatisfaction. Maybe? You decide!

Fellow human being; whichever you decide and are happily content with; know that YOU decided the final decsion and either way it will have outcomes; good and/or bad.

I hope this helps. If I've said anything to upset or offend anyone; I hope you can forgive me. I only meant well; for the better!

Take care and will be in touch soon.

Regards,
Mind Mentor
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