Im interested in opinions on this ....perhaps someone can help

[saintssupporter]

Im 26 year old gay guy here in Ireland. I recently met a man six months whom is five years older than me and we have a lot in common and get on well. On numerous occasions we have gone out as we have some friends in common and we have gone out by ourselves, the couple of times we have been out we kissed and I have developed feelings for the guy, its not love or anything along those lines but Im finding myself wanting to get to know him better. Last Saturday while we were out we had quite a lot of alcohol taken and I found myself kissing him again and he let me go further than normal. I said to him I want us to be more than friends, he stated he is not ready for a relationship and I stated neither was I , I would be happy with seeing him casually just so that if there is something there is can be built on. He left early as he was quite drunk and I was no better, I looked the following morning and saw I had sent him texts stating would he like me to call by, I dont want to go home alone etc. etc. I left it for a day or two and then called him to apologise if I was too much in his face and "over amorous" and to see if he still wanted to be friends however I still have not heard anything back and I am not going to contact him again as the ball is in his court. I have felt something for him in the last three months and every time I see him I am want lefting more. He has admitted himself he is a "prick tease" and that someone else better for me would come along. I think deep down I know in my heart and soul that we are never destined to be more than anything else than friends , I dont want sympathy but need somehow to clear my head and move on . I have been doing it gradually but I still find it holds me back, to the point that one particular other gentleman, whom is very down to earth and a real gent has been kicked to the kerb because of my inability to move on from wanting this particular person. Its a cliche I know but what I want to know is how do I move on from this, I know there is nothing there but how do I stop kidding myself there is !

[MiBeloved]

You can move on by better defining your own role in any relationship. If you have a vague idea, then there will be hesitancy and stalling, but if you have a clear idea of what you want in a relationship, you will see right away if something can evolve into that
But thinking that you will find the ideal situation and abandoning oppurtunies which might well evolve into or grow into something desirable is not such a good way to go about doing this.

[dirtyhive]

Nobody ever lay awake at night wishing with all their heart that they could be with someone that they knew they could in fact have at any time...

[saintssupporter]

Thanks for the input everyone. I didnt pursue the other opportunity as I felt that if I did the other person to me would never be anything than second best and this would not be fair on either the other guy primarily or me , once I have my feelings consolidated and my head clear thats not to say something will not happen with him. Im still friends with the other guy.