Blog on being in a relationship

[ssandra]

Hello all,

I´ve just recently started a new blog about relationships (not mine, but in general).

It has 3 articles in it so far, planning to add 1 every 2 days for the next 3 weeks.

Can I have your opinion on: Writing style, subjects, blog layout, usefullness etc?

Thanks in advance.

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[ssandra]

That boring is it??

(Yes, this is my passive agressive way to get more people to comment and see my blog, to get more feedback...)

[Daffy Duck]

I'm going to offer you my truth, albeit vague and unhelpful it may be.

I like your blog design. I think it's very "happy" and organized. And I like your writing as well. You're giving good advice and I like how you write. So far, nothing stands out to me as amazing or new, but nothing is being done wrong either.

So... there we go.

[Abitofzen]

I agree with Daffy, here (sounds funny saying that...)

Good layout... very basic, but those tend to be the best

Clear purpose.

Good content... but a little rehashed. I encourage you to dig a little bit deeper, or find some 'edgy' tips to throw in your lists.

A tip for yelling better, tips for using sex to transform the relationship, the art of receiving... things that virtually no one else is writing about.

Mix that in with your clearly defined blog and consistent posting, and you will have powerfully magnetic content.

keep smiling,

Ben

[ssandra]

Thanks to the both of you. I like the simple and clean layout as well.

I do have plenty more ideas and I hope/think/expect that the more I write the better it will be.

Your comments made me realise that I have been keeping a bit on the save side.. I realise that it does miss a bit of spice.. I will look for that in some future posts.. more dept and more spice.

Thanks again!

[Orecle]

i like your writing but the site feels a bit bland. it feels like just another relationship blog. i think some soft images will change the feel of the blog. since it is about love it needs too feel warm and inviting. i need to feel the website represents my need to feel loved (from a customers perspective)
let me ask you a question

who is your typical reader? wat sex? age? occupation? wat are their hopes,fears and desires. wat one secret issue do they have that you can solve but they are to embarassed to say?
wat do you want your readers to feel?
wat do you want them to do when they read your articles?
wat problems can you help couples solve that nobody else is adressing properly, cos this is wat steve does

since it is about relationships maybe an image to represent love and one to contrast the despair of not being loved

also maybe you can put a mini pic with each major point in each of your articles. i have seen a few bloggers do this and it helps cement the point

ps i have heard numourous times that websites and books with a picture of the author do far better than those with out. people like to see the person they are getting advice from

[ssandra]

Originally Posted by Orecle

who is your typical reader? wat sex? age? occupation?

Typical reader: between 25 - 50, male and female, either one or both working, occupation unimportant, but a high enough EQ to recognize trouble in the relationship if there is any.

Originally Posted by Orecle

wat are their hopes,fears and desires. wat one secret issue do they have that you can solve but they are to embarassed to say?

The want a connection, a happy relationship where they can feel well and feel loved. Secret issues can be a number of them, but it basically comes down to not feeling loved in their relationship, or being afraid (or knowing) that they don´t make their partner feel loved.

Originally Posted by Orecle

wat do you want your readers to feel?

I want them to have an aha moment with some of my articles, with others I want them to just think "hé, that´s a good idea, i´ll try that today".
I want them to read my articles and feel empowed to change themselves to improve their relationship. Can be small things or large things.

Originally Posted by Orecle

wat do you want them to do when they read your articles?

I want them to have some ideas to take home, to talk about in their relationship. Maybe even when it is to difficult to talk about it, that they can point their partner to the blog.

I want them to have some tools, reaseble, non-manipulative tools with which they can improve their relationship.
Especially men who are just not that good in all those things women like to hear, see, feel and get.
For women I want them to realize that making drama is getting you no where, and to do things that HE likes, not things that she likes disguised as a present for him.

Originally Posted by Orecle

wat problems can you help couples solve that nobody else is adressing properly, cos this is wat steve does

Although I do not do stuff just because Steve does... I do see how I need to be "unique" because that is what gets you readers.

Unlike most blogs and or relationship advice I have seen, I will not focus on manipulative behaviour or advice for people who never get mad, don´t get tired or stressed and are perfect.... It will be practical advice, tips on how to communicate, and later when I have more people comment, sometimes answer specific relationship questions.

Originally Posted by Orecle

since it is about relationships maybe an image to represent love and one to contrast the despair of not being loved

also maybe you can put a mini pic with each major point in each of your articles. i have seen a few bloggers do this and it helps cement the point

ps i have heard numourous times that websites and books with a picture of the author do far better than those with out. people like to see the person they are getting advice from

I understand what you are saying and I will look into it. For now, I will focus on the articles, I have not yet figured out how to put pictures in there. I will try and find an picture to put on with my profile.

Thank you so much for your advice and for making me think a bit more about my blog.

[Orecle]

I will post more later as i have a wedding to go to

my advice is find the 5 best and the most popular relationship authors and complete study their work.

things to look for

1. their particular selling message ie John grays hook is men and women are different. his message is in the title men mars woman venus. You might ffind it gimmicky but they are popular for a reason

besides reading other authors will give you ideas for articles

2. the way they arouse emotion and mental stimulation

3. the way they package techniques and tools ie the 4 Rs rejection, repression, etc. people seem to remember tools packaged this way. ie 6 human needs, 7 habits, 6 pillars of self esteem, 10 ways to increase......

you have to remember its not wat you know, its wat your audience can take in. unfortunattely people want to be entertained more than educated unless in dire straits

4. look out 4 captivating memorable one liners. a line that can advertise your message in anutshell. a line that SSandra can be famous for

ie awaken the giant, double your dating, men are from mars women from venus. maybe you can package some of your articles in a how to format

ie how to get your husband to kiss you 5 times a day, how to increase passion in 30 days. this way it gives specific action to wat might seem like a big mass of info

you might consider a 10 day or 30 day artiicle program where you have 30 articles and you get them to do a 10 min task so at the end of the 30 days they would have maintained a discipline that would improve their relationship. you could call it "build your love muscles in 30 days, or 30 day love habits i know its gimmicky but from a marketing perspective this is what people respond to