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07-28-2009, 07:40 PM
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 |  Why is it wrong to mind other peoples' "business"?
OK, every time I travel to the anglosaxon world (UK, USA) people tell me I shouldn't mind their business. Both as a psychology student and as a human being, I have a natural curiosity towards understanding different people and different things. Is it wrong to be curious? What do you think? |
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07-28-2009, 08:22 PM
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The point is not so much that you mind their business, but how you do. The way you do it seems to create resistance. Otherwise they would react differently, no? So what is it in your behaviour that generates these responses? |
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07-28-2009, 09:50 PM
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It's one thing to show a genuine interest in another person. That's normal and healthy behavior. It's something different to try and tell people what to do all the time (when they don't ask for your help) or ask extremely personal questions that make people uncomfortable.
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07-28-2009, 10:24 PM
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Yes, its how much you inquire and if you try to tell them what to do. I call a friend of mine "The Spanish Inquisitor" because whenever I mention someone or other I was talking to she asks me loads of questions about them - are they married, have they got kids, where do they live, what job they do, etc etc which have nothing whatsoever to do with the topic in hand and it may be the first time I met them! I prefer people to get to feel comfortable with me first without bombarding them with personal questions. Even in my line of work, I have occasionally worked with a client without knowing what gender they are - its not relevant and if they don't want me to know, they don't have to (obviously that's when we're using IM not voice methods!) |
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07-28-2009, 11:55 PM
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If you want people to respect and show understanding for your curiosity, you should also respect and show understanding if they don't want to talk about something.
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