Have you ever regreted having sex with anyone?

[Andy4]

I know that lovemaking and sex are a vital function of our society but have you ever regretted having sex with anyone.

I was a champion drinker in my youth and subsequently ended up in a lot of of female friends beds. This is not a boast but pure fact.

Most of the sex I had was good but on occasion I did regret it.

Have you ever regretted having sex with someone and if so were there any consequences.

Once the high wears off we sometimes see things totally differently.

Regards, Andy.

[Angela]

Not exactly regret, but I can see in retrospect that I could have made some decisions that would have gotten better results in my life.

[Ryan6]

Well, when there's alcohol involved - usually yes, lol.

[siryessir08]

I wouldn't say I regret anything that has happened in my life.

But I would say I've hurt a few girls emotionally after hopping in bed with them.

If I were to relive these events, I would opt out of sex with them.

[drakecatz]

When I was younger, I had alcohol infused sex with some guy I hardly knew and it ended up costing me a relationship with a guy that I was really interested in.

That was most definitely regreted sex!

[aggie]

yup

ending up being a life changing, or i should say derailing for a few years....

[Dreamline]

Regret. Hmmm. Not really. I'm not a big "regretter' in general.

Jennifer

[jamesbiz]

meh don't regret anything in life. I don't like focusing on the negatives of the past. What's it really gonna accomplish? Yeah, I know, it sounds like one of those corny things that people say. But, well it's true. I've done my fair share of living that probably would have been better if I didn't live it that way, but who's to say how your life would have turned out?

" oh if I waited for her, we would have been married and living perfect lives"

or she might have cheated on you and left you with the kids. Who knows.

If I could go back, and not have sex with my ex while she was with her new boyfriend, and subsequently get her pregnant, while having her pretend to her boyfriend that it was his kid, and only telling me about the kid after she got the abortion, because her boyfriend found out that he was actually infertile.... Yeah I probably wouldn't. Do I regret it? Hell no! Just another one of life's little experiences.

[ssandra]

I don´t regret any sex that I did have, but I do regret not having sex with one person...

It would have been just a one night stand or a few-nights-stand but seeing the chemestry we had... I wish I could have experienced it. It would have been something...

Or maybe not, and the fantasy is sweeter than reality would have been.. now i´ll never know...

[MidasGirl]

Sure. In that department, there are some situations I regret. More like I would make different decisions if I had it to do over. But that's because I went through a phase, in my early 20's that was not one I'm very proud of looking back. But oh well, it's life and I use it to reflect on what it was there to teach me. But there are certainly certain people I think of and want to throw up.

[drakecatz]

[QUOTE]Jamesbiz, your post wasn't, "just another life experience", it was a soap opera!!

[Daffy Duck]

Nope. I've almost found myself in that situation, but realized I would regret such a decision, and stopped myself from making a mistake.

[TonyToneTone]

Never. Only regret not having sex with some people.

[James81]

Originally Posted by Angela

Not exactly regret, but I can see in retrospect that I could have made some decisions that would have gotten better results in my life.

Sometimes I see some of the posts you make (which are usually pretty good) and I ask myself "Why does she water down the negative emotions she feels like that?"

I don't get how reframing your negative emotions in a more positive light helps you. To me, it seems like you lose an element of humanity by doing that. *shrug*

[jamesbiz]

Originally Posted by James81

Sometimes I see some of the posts you make (which are usually pretty good) and I ask myself "Why does she water down the negative emotions she feels like that?"

I don't get how reframing your negative emotions in a more positive light helps you. To me, it seems like you lose an element of humanity by doing that. *shrug*

almost everything has a negative light. Is it human to always put everything in a negative light then? I doubt she ignores the negative, but there is no reason to think about it. It doesn't affect her life. What's wrong with being positive, as long as you are aware? What's wrong with not regretting something that you now have absolutely ZERO control over? A regret is just a wish. And wishing involves no action, so there for is worthless. Even worse, because a regret is a wish on something that can't possible happen.

" oh I wish I didn't sleep with that person". TO LATE. Only thing left now is to either put it in the past (which is NOT regretting it) or dwell on it for ever, thinking that if you keep dwelling on it, you might not make that same mistake again, all the while being destined to repeat it over and over again just by the sheer act of thinking about the negative aspect of it.

[James81]

Originally Posted by jamesbiz

almost everything has a negative light. Is it human to always put everything in a negative light then? I doubt she ignores the negative, but there is no reason to think about it. It doesn't affect her life. What's wrong with being positive, as long as you are aware? What's wrong with not regretting something that you now have absolutely ZERO control over? A regret is just a wish. And wishing involves no action, so there for is worthless. Even worse, because a regret is a wish on something that can't possible happen.

" oh I wish I didn't sleep with that person". TO LATE. Only thing left now is to either put it in the past (which is NOT regretting it) or dwell on it for ever, thinking that if you keep dwelling on it, you might not make that same mistake again, all the while being destined to repeat it over and over again just by the sheer act of thinking about the negative aspect of it.

You can still put something in the past without having to make it seem less emotional.

For example, I can still say that I regret getting married without having that regret dominate my entire life. I can still regret getting married, but recognize that I have no power to change it. I can still regret getting married, but recognize that if I hadn't gotten married I would have these two beautiful children that I love more than life itself.

Telling myself that "in retrospect it's a decision I wish I hadn't made" doesn't really touch the amount of emotion that was involved in my divorce. So reframing it in that way really only takes away the power of the emotions that drove me then (that I learned to move past and turn into something far more positive for myself).

[BeyondtheWrap]

I don't regret having sex with anyone in that I don't regret the act or the person. However, some things about it I would like to have done differently. So I regret using a public place one time and not using a condom another time.

[aelle]

The only situation I could imagine regretting sex would be if it were non consensual, and thankfully that hasn't happened to me. As for the rest, poor decisions and fond memories alike, it has shaped me, and I like the current me. No regrets.

[Jumanji]

Well there was this one occasion I never actually got to have sex with someone which was a disappointment at the time, although because I was in another relationship afterwards I realised I would have ended up regretting it if it had happened.

Does that count?

[freddy]

I regret having sex with myself every week alone. (that counts right) I just think of all the girls I could be impregnating and populating the earth with. Seems like a waste of a good paper towel every time. I shudder every time I remember the part in the bible that say's not to spill your seed upon the ground. Other than that. No regrets

[James81]

Originally Posted by freddy

I regret having sex with myself every week alone. (that counts right) I just think of all the girls I could be impregnating and populating the earth with. Seems like a waste of a good paper towel every time. I shudder every time I remember the part in the bible that say's not to spill your seed upon the ground. Other than that. No regrets

You don't have to waste a paper towel, bro. Just go into your hand and wash it off in the sink.

[freddy]

No way. Most meals, I eat with my fingers. I'm not touching that stuff in my hand.

[ssandra]

Originally Posted by freddy

No way. Most meals, I eat with my fingers. I'm not touching that stuff in my hand.

And yet you´ll be expecting your future girlfriend to put it in her mouth, on the body, between her toes, in her hair....

Bah... men...

[jamesbiz]

Originally Posted by ssandra

And yet you´ll be expecting your future girlfriend to put it in her mouth, on the body, between her toes, in her hair....

Bah... men...

I've always wondered about that lol. The first time I got kissed after the deed.... I only realized when I got one of my hairs in my mouth, and just the hell out.... In the heat of passion, you don't think about it, but boy did that wake me up.

[kimberleee]

Regret is a harsh word.

I don't regret any of the experiences that have made me who I am today...

But I'm not exactly happy about them either.

Just gotta forgive myself for being a naive little skank... and move on with my life. ; )

[ladee]

freddy, I love your honesty.......

[freddy]

Originally Posted by ladee

freddy, I love your honesty.......

OK... But now let's hear you sex regret. Come on don't get all shy on us.

[TonyToneTone]

Originally Posted by ssandra

And yet you´ll be expecting your future girlfriend to put it in her mouth, on the body, between her toes, in her hair....

Bah... men...

Yeah but she's supposed to love it

[Andy4]

Thanks a lot guys,

Maybe regret was the wrong word but I think that was perhaps my subconcious mind working overtime, regret for me but not necessarily for you. It should have read, and I thought it did read.

'Have you ever had sex with someone you shouldn't have?'

Thanks Angela,

My case in point, you don't like the word regret and niether do I but I've had lots of them. Congratulations on your 10,000 post, just wished it had been this one but hey I'm into numbers and 9999 aint bad. take care.

I see James81 is back on form, enough said.

drakecatz,

I've done that one but the guy was a girl, you know what I mean, youth, this girl, the wrong one was so hot though, I was a complete and utter fool.

aggie,

Hope you are now back on track, I was a loose cannon in my youth, always a good salesman, one of the best, we all do something well but at times I was a complete.... The way, I treated people, good people, men and women that looked out for me at times appalled me, thats the main reason I got into PD, I was desperate to change.

Hi Jennifer,

Deadpan as ever, but hey, I know you are being honest, I like you, I told you that before, just sometimes I get such an emotion overload, I just want to tear the place up.

jamesbiz,

I think drakecatz says it, a complicated story, thanks for sharing it though. The only thing I can think of to compare to it is that once when I got dumped by someone I loved, I slept around a bit and I thought that I'd got 2 girls pregnant at the same time, as it happened neither of them were but I had a few sleepless nights, not nice, one of the girls was a lot older than me and she tried to trick me. That's life.

Hi ssandra,

There is one woman that I felt just the same as you about and we did date on three seperate occassions over a period of perhaps 5 years, it never seemed to be the right time though, the furthest we ever got was heavy petting, I just hope she doesn't surface in the future.

Midasgirl,

You are obviously not one that minces her words, do you/did you drink more than me? Just checked your location, there isn't one, so my guess is that you have got to be an English rose?

DD,

You are so perfect you could be my mother's best friend. Don't care how perfect you are England will still kick The U.S.A's backside at the next world cup, you know, the one with the round ball, no shoulder pads or soporific time outs, that's presuming you qualify.

BTW,

No big deal, as you say the other person is all important. Public places and even condoms are not important to me.

aelle,

It's always got to be consensual, that's the thrill. If it's not then I dont understand what the turn on is.

hi freddy,

The bible says a lot of things and you can interpret it any which way you choose. I am a catholic, but any man that says he has never masturbated is a liar, if at anytime in your life you can't be intimate with someone then just pleasure yourself, if you are not harming anyone else then there is no problem.

Hi Kimberlee,

I've been naive on more occassions than I care to remember, like you say, you move on.

Hi Tony,

I'll leave that one for you and ssandra to thrash out, I dont really understand who's supposed to be putting what where?

I'm just a simple lad from Manchester.

Regards, Andy.

[ang569]

Originally Posted by Andy4

I know that lovemaking and sex are a vital function of our society but have you ever regretted having sex with anyone.

I was a champion drinker in my youth and subsequently ended up in a lot of of female friends beds. This is not a boast but pure fact.

Most of the sex I had was good but on occasion I did regret it.

Have you ever regretted having sex with someone and if so were there any consequences.

Once the high wears off we sometimes see things totally differently.

Regards, Andy.

Yes, I have regretted having sex with a few. The consequences, if that is what you wanna call them, is, I just don't count them. I've done a good job at forgetting them too because I had to really think to remember them.