What is the most important thing you have learned from this forum?

[Andy4]

What is the most important thing you have learned from this forum?

I think the most important thing I have learned from it is diplomacy and empathy. Eveyone has an oppinion on most subjects and I appeciate that a lot more now.

Also, have you learned anything specifically about yourself?

Regards, Andy.

[shasah]

I was feeling that I was so alone in my problems. It didn't occur to me that there are people all over the world that can relate to the issues I am dealing with and even though I would never wish problems on anyone else, it was comforting to know that I am not alone.

I also was able to help a few people with some of my experiences and it feels really good when someone else has a realization due to something I wrote.

Last, but not least, writing my problems with the knowledge that no one knows who I am has made it easier to be honest and forthright. I almost stopped after my first thread failed miserably. I am very glad I stuck with it and would like to say thanks to all those that offer their input.

[Foggy]

Love for myself and my life.

[Andy4]

Hi Shasah,

I'm glad that things are working out for you. The forum seems to have really helped you so that is good. We all fail miserably from time to time but that is just life.

We've had a family crisis this week, our youngest cat, a blue persian called Furby got diagnosed with an incurable disease, Parvo virus. Thankfully the diagnosis was incorrect and he is comming home tomorrow, after 4 days in pet hospital. Apparantly the symptoms he had were similar to the killer disease but his illness was gastro enteritus, curable, thankfully.

It's been a stressfull week but I believe it is important to learn to cope with these kind of situations.

Keep in touch, hope your daughter is well.

Regards, Andy.

Hi Foggy,

Self love/appreciation is very important and unfortunately many people totally underestimate themselves. To give yourself a boost, try this.

Stare at yourself in the mirror for as long as you can. I do this every day whilst I'm shaving, look into your eyes, see how long you can do this for whilst repeating the following affirmation.

" I am Foggy, XYZ, whatever your real name is and be proud of who you are and all the good things that you have done/achieved."

It will give you a sense of importance and improve your self confidence.

Regards, Andy.

[shasah]

Always a pleasure to hear from you Andy. I'm glad your cat is okay!! Every day is a lesson and I continue to wake up looking forward to what will occur today. Not all days are good but they usually start good and end good for me lately. I can take that. Take care of yourself and your family.

[drakecatz]

An important thing I have learned is that if I am not open-minded about a certain subject I shoudn't get involved in it.

There is a thread in S&R that I daily wish would just go away! I don't look at it, but the title is there, and people keep posting!

Other than that, (hey I learned from it too,) I love the forums, at times I get so distracted by them. It's addicting! A lot is given and received here.

[Patriciatta]

I am grateful to have learned that my projections on others have caused my own suffering and over-analyzing monkey mind. The pointing finger has three fingers back at me - ah-ha! Can't believe it took me so long to GET. My mind is opening finally.

I am no better than anyone else. And everyone has a right to be themselves and I can mind my own business. What a relief!

[Andy4]

Hi shasah,

Cat update:-

He's unwell again, not sure what he's got this time but exhibiting flu-like symptoms, his immune sysem is very low at the moment. If not cleared by time he goes back tomorrow they are going to re-admit him. I think the bill stands at about £7-800 up to now. Insured up to 2.5k per annum. All the family are stressesd out with it and the vet is now beginning to wrankle me, ever so slightly.

He's so cute, (the cat, not the vet) he's got a little red nose from his cold, I'll stop the cat-talk now.

Glad most of your days are good at the moment. I tend to live in day tight compartments. I find that anything too far in the future just isn't worth worrying about. Take care.

Hi drakecatz,

I agree with open mindedness. It is vital but not always easy to try to keep an open mind on all subjects.

I can empathise with the wanting certain posts to go away scenario. I posted a classic about 3 to 4 months ago when I was in a really foul mood. When I'd calmed down and re-visited it I could hardly bear to read it but hey, I suppose we all get in a bad mood from time to time.

Just an aside on anger. There was a audio type e-mail doing the rounds a couple of years ago where a guy rang in to a computer servicing company's helpline and left a message complaining that although they'd fixed his computer they'd also managed to wipe 2 years worth of his work from it.

He started out really calm and articulate but slowly his anger began to mount, the recording goes on for about 5 minutes and from about half way through he is absolutely shouting and screaming down the line. it was awesome. They never did say wether they retrieved his work for him though.

Hi Patriciatta,

Yeah, I'm not into over-analysing, whenever I do indulge in it, it drives me crazy.

The pointing finger & 3 fingers back line was used by Lorraine Ireland in one of her self hypnosis CD's. I'm into meditation CDs and her's are very good.

Thanks everyone for posting.

Regards, Andy.

[KazeCraven]

You can't argue by emotion and you can't heal by logic.

Gross overstatement, but it's usually more often true than not.

[Dreamline]

Don't offer people solid medical advice if what they really want is an excuse to be even more spacey than they already are.

Jennifer

[ballhit2]

It's fun to procrastinate through helping others solve their problems.

[aggie]

i have learned a lot about people in general...

there are some people that are on the same wave length as i am...and others that i cannot relate to at all.

i enjoy the conversation, even if it gets a little heated, and need to know when to end my part of the discussion because no matter how whacked out you think someone is...they are not necessarily here to get a different perspective or advice...they just want their thoughts out there.

this is fine, but if it is extreme...i find for me it is less aggrevating to realize this and leave it alone

but it is eye opening, interesting, educational and fun for the most part

[MmeIntentional]

Originally Posted by ballhit2

It's fun to procrastinate through helping others solve their problems.

Yep I've been doing that too

However even though I don't agree with everything Steve and Erin says in their blogs, I think that this is the best PD forum I have come across.

[Andy4]

Hi KazeCraven,

Emotion is really vital to me, I'm not much into logic, I leave that to the experts. Emotion can really achieve things. Scream for something phsically or more importantly mentally and you will get it.

Hi Jennifer,

Sound medical advice i'snt always what it seems, as I said to KC I'm not much into expert oppinion. Thanks for posting, I would appreciate your oppinion on my latest dream, if you fell like posting on it.

Profound ballhit2, nice one. I love it when I say something like that.

Hi aggie,

Yeah, we all get a bit agitated from time to time and I'm no acception but calmness is everything and learning to love the forum as opposed to ourselves is important, that helps me.

Mmeintentional,

I am very outspoken but agree Steve and Erin have got this forum right, they will get recognition for it but maybe not immediately. However it feels very big and worthwhile to me. It's just a feeling.

Take care.

Andy.