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07-02-2009, 03:49 AM
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 |  how can i show my girl friend that i love her
hey everyone how can i show my girlfriend that i love her but i cant afford anything because i dont have a job atm. if any one has any really good ideas please tell share them with me. |
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07-02-2009, 04:28 AM
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You can pick up her favorite food and go have a picnic. Cheap, inexpensive, and romantic. | |
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07-02-2009, 07:10 AM
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07-02-2009, 03:58 PM
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There are many ways to express love without spending a dime. But you have to put some thought and time into it. What is her love language? what does she enjoy? If she enjoys food, you could cook a meal for her. If she enjoys walks, you can take her on a walk. I think the best way, for me, to feel loved, is for my lover to be totally present and attentive to me. To plan a day for just me... even if it's taking a walk, talking, or cuddling on the couch. Tailor the expression of your love to who she is - to her unique preferences. And just you noticing what those preferences are, that's a wonderful expression of love in and of itself. |
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07-02-2009, 05:09 PM
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You can ask her. "Hey, Brunhilda, can you remember a time when you felt really, thoroughly loved? Can you remember a specific time? Close your eyes and go back there now. What are you seeing, hearing, and feeling?" For me, hearing a special tone of voice has me feeling very loved. For some women, it's seeing something (a look on your face, words written on paper, romantic gift, etc.) And for others, it's a feeling -- your hand in hers, your arms around her, stroking her hair or face, or a massage -- that has her feeling really loved. The unmatching modalities may be very nice, but they won't have the result you're going for -- to have her feel loved. For instance, you can hold my hand and write me a letter, and I will love that very much, but my deepest love strategy won't be activated by those things -- you'd have to speak to me in that special tone to do that. It's not like a test; it's just a deep preference. |
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07-02-2009, 06:30 PM
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Just be a good boyfriend. Be a good listener -- this is huge!!! Try to find out what she enjoys doing, and then surprise her by taking her to a date there. Be giving. If you listen carefully, you can pick up on what things she's looking for in a long-term boyfriend, and then you can try to do more of those things for her. For example, if a guy gives me a good back rub, I become putty in his hands. Find out what kind of music she likes, and try to get into it so you can relate to her via music. Some people still make "mix tapes" which today could be a CD, mp3s, or online format. If it feels right, sometimes making her something (poem, song, artwork, card), would mean a lot. Remind her that she is loved & is special. Get her to realize it doesn't matter where you go out, as long as you're with her, you'll have a good time. Be there for her if she ever really needs you. Compliments and hugs are free, so give them out often. | |
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07-02-2009, 06:51 PM
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The most wonderful way I was shown how much he loves me was a walk, he showed me where he grew up..went to school.. then he would hold me for a hours and just sing to me. And then he would hold me in his arms for eternity after making love... he tells me how much I mean to him... shares everything. never ever has he bought me an expensive present. I don't need him to... we are both there for each other. No need for "monetary proof". Just pure love  |
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07-05-2009, 09:17 PM
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You could get quite creatively involved. My wife loves it when she feels as though she is being taken care of. There are many ways of doing this that don't cost much, e.g. cook her a low cost romantic meal (loads of recipes on the net), give her a massage, scrub her back or my wives personal favourite is to relieve her of a mundane task that she routinely does, e.g. housework etc. Also think about something you do naturally well or fancy trying;-write her a love song, for example. Hope this helps. |
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07-06-2009, 01:43 PM
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Teach her something you know (and in which she's interested). Teach her how to drive. Teach her a simple romantic song on the piano. Teach her to do a handstand. It provides for great moments between the both and you, and you can rest assured that whenever she does what you taught her she'll think of you. Recently, I have been teaching my girlfriend how to drive. Although it might be a bit nerve-wrecking, it's great fun. To spend time doing some activity together is always a good way of saying "I love you". Last edited by Big; 07-06-2009 at 01:46 PM. |
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07-06-2009, 07:19 PM
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Full body massage with baby oil (cheap) Cook her dinner, set the table with candles and everything Be a good listener and talker Say something to her in French Buy her a single red rose Take a walk in the park holding hands Do some housework Act like strangers and pretend your both on a first date together...roleplaying or sexual fantasies Give her big hugs Leave a little note for her (Tell her that you love her) Dance together or give her a strip tease Last edited by MmeIntentional; 07-06-2009 at 07:33 PM. |
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07-09-2009, 10:04 AM
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you don't need to prove to her that you love her by buying her gifts or doing something special. loving her is a way of doing everything you do together. it is being present with her, and being accepting of her, whatever you are doing. those are both free btw |
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