How to get a cool girlfriend at school?

[Nicketas]

Originally Posted by 00melo00

Yo guys, being on the road of a PUA (allthough my goal isn't to lay 1000 chicks) and starting (more seriously) on the road of PD I find it quite cool to know that these roads are parallel.

The thing is, when I started with the seductionstuff it was for the reason I never had a girlfriend and couldn't get one (at school). Now I go in clubs and do daygaming and saw it was actually easier to talk/vibe with girls/women and boys/men. Much easier than at school.

Unfortunately I don't have time to go do much clubbing or talking to people in the afternoon. So I thought about to go 'gaming' at school, but I reckognised that I still suck and I don't make much progress with schoolgaming too. So I was wondering how you guys did get your girlfriend at highschool (yup, that is back in the early days for some people ). Like how did you meet and how did your relationship evolved?

I know that the schoolsystem is different in every country but still I think if you guys can post some stories that it will be inspirational for me to read

Oh and by the way, girls you can reply too I think your stories will also be much of inspiration.

Its better to be natural than to try to be a pick up artist, otherwise you'll fail to attract any women who are worth while.

doctor paul has some great (free) stuff about this.

doctorpaul.net.

[Jamie]

Originally Posted by Tsuyu

I'm a sixteen-year-old high school girl, and I can tell you right off the bat that if you focus on following a set of guidelines and/or advice in order to "get" a girlfriend, it's not going to happen. Unless you do a REALLY good job of following those guidelines and make it seem totally natural, which I doubt you can since you wouldn't be asking for advice in the first place.

Someone said that you should just be yourself, and you asked, "How do you define being myself?" Being yourself means you choose not to limit and/or change your actions and simply act the way you naturally would. Being natural would definitely give you a sense of confidence because you wouldn't be worrying all the time about what others think.

But remember not to go overboard and become TOO confident. If there's one thing I really despise (and I know almost all my girlfriends would agree), it's that cocky attitude displayed by some of my male acquaintances who think that their huge, false egos are going to help them when it comes to pleasing girls.

Hey, that's really well written for a 16 year old!

I think good advice too, about being yourself, and non-contrived. In fact, I'd say PUA is about developing yourself as a person so that you can be just your natural uncontrived self around women (strong, centred, natural, powerful), rather than just flumixing along, and so impressed by the woman that you emotionally crumble, legs turn to jelly etc.

To me, the end result of PUA and PD, is to be completely natural, uncontrived and spontaneous with all people in all kinds of situations. So when I see a hot chick, I can treat her with the same common courtesy, I would a down and out on the street, or a member of royalty, to treat all people with the same dignity and respect and not give special privages to a hot chick, just because my body wants to bone hers.

I also recommend to guys, not to classify yourself as a 'PUA guy' or a 'PD guy', why put yourself in a little box like that, we're all just people. We're all unmanifest consciousness manifesting in a multitude of forms (male, female, guys who like to call themselves PUA, guys who like to call themselves PD chap).

[Michael Chui]

Originally Posted by Nicketas

Its better to be natural than to try to be a pick up artist, otherwise you'll fail to attract any women who are worth while.

Originally Posted by Jamie

I think good advice too, about being yourself, and non-contrived. In fact, I'd say PUA is about developing yourself as a person so that you can be just your natural uncontrived self around women (strong, centred, natural, powerful), rather than just flumixing along, and so impressed by the woman that you emotionally crumble, legs turn to jelly etc.

To me, the end result of PUA and PD, is to be completely natural, uncontrived and spontaneous with all people in all kinds of situations. So when I see a hot chick, I can treat her with the same common courtesy, I would a down and out on the street, or a member of royalty, to treat all people with the same dignity and respect and not give special privages to a hot chick, just because my body wants to bone hers.

To be truly natural is to be mindless, uncontrolled, unthinking. Actually "going with the flow" properly is a product of years of exercise and training.

The essence of PUA is to establish your mind in a different frame. Instead of fixating on soulmates and one true loves, you fixate on practice and technique. Eventually, you no longer need to think about it, like a child one day no longer needs to figure out how to balance themselves while walking. And at that point, you've overridden your fears and you have become a different self: a self that, naturally, is confident and attractive.

And maybe you'll meet your one true love, someday. And when you do, you'll be confident, attractive, and head-over-heels, to boot. But that's better than just being head-over-heels.

[Jamie]

Michael

Well, my one true love, is life herself. All other (human) relationships are I think, temporary, they have a start, and they have an end. The same consciousness manifesting in a mutitude of forms; you could say, relationship is incest on a cosmic scale..

Gosh, there's a thought!

[Michael Chui]

Yet another reason not to believe in true love in some distant, random woman.

And what's wrong with incest?

[sonicpunk32]

Originally Posted by Jamie

you could say, relationship is incest on a cosmic scale..

Here's another thought. It's stupid though. If that's the case, then everyone on our planet is our one true love, and we can just go up to them and start making love to them and we'd feel the same way, because we're all connected. I wonder if my mother was my girlfriend then wife in a previous life...

[Michael Chui]

Originally Posted by sonicpunk32

everyone on our planet is our one true love

What's so stupid about that? I mean, it's pithy, reductive, and utopian, but not stupid.

I forgot to mention: if Jamie is correct, it's not incest. It's masturbation on a cosmic scale. Now I advise you guys to read some creation myths, some of which like to talk about how so-and-so got horny and ejaculated, creating the world... I think that one is Egyptian.

[Jamie]

Originally Posted by Michael Chui

What's so stupid about that? I mean, it's pithy, reductive, and utopian, but not stupid.

I forgot to mention: if Jamie is correct, it's not incest. It's masturbation on a cosmic scale. Now I advise you guys to read some creation myths, some of which like to talk about how so-and-so got horny and ejaculated, creating the world... I think that one is Egyptian.

Yes! the first word that poped in to my mind was masturbation, but I was just struggling to spell it..

If you take the perspective that we're all connected to the oneness of life, or we are expressions of that oneness, then it is just a play, energy diving in to itself, constantly creating new subtle forms, like big blog of dough being needed in to a loaf of bread.

God, there's no wonder I can't get a GF, way too philosophical!

[sonicpunk32]

This is a weird thread.