What's the most important part of your relationship?

[Andy4]

I'm a guy, I admit, we are not always the most sensitive, or attentive but we do try, promise.

Girls, you are so patient with us and I for one appreciate it, I'm not the most perfect guy on this planet, but I am a big fan of the female species, My dad is a great guy, jack the lad, could charm the birds from the trees but mum was always the rock.

Us guys are trying and we do appreciate you,

I'll repeat the question to both guys and girls.

What is the most important part of your relationship?

Regards, Andy.

[marinik]

The intimacy - not only sexual - the whole thing. And the little daily rituals that keep it alive.

[Andy4]

Yes, I agree marinik,

As you say, intimacy and not only the sexual side of it is vital.

All the serious relationships I have been involved in have ended once this has died or diminished.

Hindsight is such a wonderful thing.

Regards, Andy.

[jaamkie]

sexual side is important too!! =P it's too easy to slip into routines and forget to stop and appreciate the moment, appreciate the details that make your partner yours.

[crescive]

Communication. There is nothing we don't discuss with each other, we are honest about everything we feel and we ask when we don't understand instead of jumping to conclusions. We also always tell each other how much we love and appreciate each other. We have only been dating for 4 months but we still have not had a fight yet!

[Yellow]

The fact that both of us are willing to work on our relationship. It goes down sometimes and subconscious patterns of behaviour emerge, which causes problems. But as soon as we realize what is happening, we both are more than willing to sit down and figure it out.

[nhaasch]

Originally Posted by marinik

The intimacy - not only sexual - the whole thing. And the little daily rituals that keep it alive.

*big nods*
The intimacy!

The feeling of tight closeness. The shared things between two people. Simply knowing that someone is there with me.

[tintin]

intimacy ,yes.but i also like the gaps in between the spaces that make the thunder roll!
24X7 closeness gets to me kinda.
its gotto be a balance of feasting and fasting for me.
like a rubberband thing.
dirty divine sex ..yeah that too.
and also the generosity to love a bit more ,where no tabs are being kept.

[Andy4]

Hi Jaamkie,

Yeah, nice one, Jaamkie, Intimacy is the glue of all good relationships. That sounds quite profound!. I think I'll go and write that down. Only kidding, nice to hear from you, take care.

Nice post, Crescive.

I'm envious, my partner and I are true soulmates. However, at times we fight like cat and dog. We can both argue for England. Sometimes, it scares me because I have problems controlling my temper, although I think I'm getting to grips with it, for the most part anyway.

Telling each other that you love one another is vital, I got to work this morning at 7.30 am and the first thing I did was texted my wife that I loved her, I feel a bit silly telling you this that but it's the truth.

Hi Yellow,

I agree, all relationships need work at times, The subconcious is very powerful, we are all extremely susceptable to both auto and hetrosuggestion. I personally work much harder on my current relationship than I have with ones in the past, I dont want to mess up again.

Hi nhaasch,

Intimacy and closeness,

My partner and I are very close, we are like a team, we tend to share the same emotions, there's no way one of us could be happy whilst the other one wasn't.

Hi tintin,

24x7 closeness doesn't bother me anymore. I suppose I'm feeling more content than at any other time in my life. Got to be careful though, not to become complacent. I do agree that you've got to keep injecting a spark into a relationship. Got to keep making your partner know that she is truly beautiful and special.

Thanks, again guys. I personally think that communicating like this helps us all.

Regards, Andy.

[Xanafax]

For me it's just having someone to be there for you, my girl and I have a really open relationship (as in communication) and we are always being more and more honest with each other, it works a treat.

[ns123]

for me, commitment. The commitment on both our parts to build the kind of relationship we both want - and it just so happens we want the same kind of relationship as each other. What kind of relationship? Trust, honesty, integrity, humor, support, compassion.

But all those would mean nothing if we were both not willing to commit to building it and generating it in ourselves and for each other.

added later: the sex is not bad either, but it's really good because of the above. It would be horrible without it.

[Daffy Duck]

Originally Posted by ns123

added later: the sex is not bad either, but it's really good because of the above. It would be horrible without it.

I know what you mean. Unlike many men, I just don't have an interest in sex with people I barely know. There's no connection... no nothing. I can't get aroused just because a girl is attractive and flirtatious. It may be fun but there's no real desire to sleep with the person. I'd rather read, lol.

[Andy4]

Hi Xanafax,

Good luck to FC Halifax this season, pity about Jim Vince, decent guy, hope u r back up where you belong soon.

I agree, good communication and honesty are vital parts of all relationships, take care.

I couldnt agree more ns123, my favourite words of your post are TRUST, HUMOUR and of course good SEX. Thanks for posting.

hi DD,

I understand what you mean about knowing a person properly and not just going for casual sex. Although there can be a lot of attraction when you meet new people, I think love making gets better the more you know your partner, I too am into connection, in every way, I believe we are all connected, as humans in some way.

Thanks guys, have a good weekend.

Andy.