|05-24-2009, 05:33 PM||#4 (permalink)|
Join Date: Oct 2008
The reason I asked was that on one occasion, I was involved in a dialogue with a poster, who I assumed was female. This person seemed to react in a 'feeling' way which is quite rare in males It 'felt' like a female.
I 'picked up' something about this person, and told them.
It was only afterwards that I had a niggling doubt as to their gender.
I then took the trouble of investigating it further, and eventually worked out that this person was in fact male.
The relevance of this is that I had 'picked up' something about this person, which I had assumed to be a very 'positive' thing - Unfortunately, my feelings were that, although this 'female energy' would have been good in a female, the genders have 'opposite' rules - it is not accidental that they are known as 'opposite' sexes. They are at opposite ends of the duality.
So this energy which I had 'picked up', whilst it would have been a 'positive energy' in a female, I felt was very negative for a male - Full of anxiety.
But having already told the poster that I had picked up a positive energy, it was quite difficult to know what to say!
Especially when this person replied to me at length.
In his reply, I felt that he was very 'feeling' and it felt very much like female energy, or at least, someone who communicates in a 'loving' or 'feeling' way -
and asked me questions about myself.
I decided that there were one of two possibilities - Either
(a) This person was highly developed in terms of self development, having a 'loving' attitude to everyone, male and female alike - which is quite rare
(b) This person actually thought that I was a female -
Some people might think that the slightly uncommon spelling of my name was the female version - but it isn't!
So I was in a dillemma.
I solved the dilemma by just not responding, which perhaps seemed rude, but I didn't see any 'tactful' alternative.
That's when I had the idea of stating each person's gender on their profile.
It makes a tremendous difference how you react to someone, and especially regarding PM's
Recently, there was a thread from someone wanting advice, and I wanted to answer, but I could not readily ascertain their gender, so I didn't reply.
I feel that it would help a great deal to automatically know each other's gender.
It would save having to try to work it out!
I feel that it would make a great deal of difference in how we communicate, especially regarding PM's
and most importantly, it would prevent misunderstandings!!
Also, I've learned my lesson now, in that I will not automatically assume someone's gender by the way they appear
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