what's the most important lesson you've learned to date?

[Andy4]

You know, My biggest passion in life is personal development and self improvement, Like a lot of people I've got some issues and wish I could be better in a lot of areas.

Some days I feel that I've really arrived, I feel great and think the bad times are all behind me and other days My temper gets the better of me and I'm right back to square one.

But hey, none of us are perfect,

What's your most valuable lesson?

Regards, Andy.

[funchy]

That I can't change other people. I can change myself. "Be the change you wish to see in the world."

My failure to plan, work hard, or be patient is not anyone else's problem but my own.

Love & accept myself, flaws and all. because NOBODY is perfect. We're all works in progress.

[Angela]

Originally Posted by Andy4

What's your most valuable lesson?

Tied for first place:

Everybody is exactly where they should be, and everyone is doing the best they can with the resources they have available. Including me.

The one choice you can make that will make a tremendous difference in getting the results you want is to take 100% responsibility for the results you get. Be at cause in your life.

[ttt]

The most important lesson was that you get to live what you want and not what you think you want

[Parthon]

Best lesson: Noone has a greater impact on your life than you; it's all in your hands.

[Andy4]

Cheers Funchy,

I genuinely like you, I feel you are good and give everything for your cause, that's admirable, I love film clips and my 2 favourites are;

Tom cruise getting a salute from the guy that despised him in "a few good men" and

Richard Geer scrubbing the floor and also carrying Deborah Winger away in his arms in "An officer and a gentleman"

Anyway my point is, please chill out, you are far too demanding on yourself.

Angela,

I think you know I'm a fan, great website, good professional manner, loved your post on Johnny's pick me up thing, the best on that thread in my oppinion. I wish I could make you blush, only kidding.

Seriously, taking responsibility is key, all the best teachers and avatars promote this. Once you master this you are on you're way.

ttt And Parthon echo what you say.

Watching eurovision song contest at the moment, it is crap but we are in the top three at the moment!

Take care.

Andy

[RT Wolf]

Everything is a choice and not choosing is also a choice. Responsibility is super important. If you want something to be different, take the responsibility and maturity to do it. It's generally not going to fix itself and delaying often just makes it worse.

[Andy4]

Thanks RT,

Loved the site, I think that we have a lot in common.

Lessons in life are crucial, and the most important one that I have learned to date is to look after the people that really care for you and love you.

Regards, Andy.

[jaamkie]

The most important lesson I have learned is that I can't separate myself from the world.

It wasn't just an intellectual lesson, but was emotional surrender to interrelatedness, complete with the possibility of pain, of loss, of not being in control. I'd always been oversensitive and an overthinker, often fearful of the future and mentally planning how to become independent instead of relying on others. But no matter how far I went, there was always another way someone could disrupt my ideal solitude, my comfortable isolation. I hit a point where I broke down, faced my fear of uncertainty, and somehow came out embracing my interdependence with the world and the billions of humans living together in it. My life since is the unfolding of that realization- I went from disliking public transit, imagining being trapped or infected by diseases, to choosing to ride the bus to work, enjoing the chance to encounter new amazing individuals each day; and similarly many other changes in my thinking.

[James81]

Here is a small list of the most important things I've learned to date (some are quotes, others are just lessions):

Love grows from the rich loam of forgiveness (Wally Lamb)

Be a man (Pook)

Keep moving forward (Walt Disney)

We will find strength in what remains behind

The meaning of life is to live it

It's not about how hard you can hit, but how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward. (Rocky Balboa)

Release control of the outcome

Know theyself. Love thyself. Be thyself. (<--as a long process rather than a truth)

and finally, the quote that came to me in the wake of all the destruction in my life that lifted me up:

Courage, it would seem, is nothing less than the power to overcome danger, misfortune, fear, injustice, while continuing to affirm inwardly that life with all its sorrows is good; that everything is meaningful even if in a sense beyond our understanding; and that there is always tomorrow. --Dorothy Thompson

[Andy4]

Jaamkie,

You seem rather complicated but I empathise with a lot of your views, there is something about you that I really like but I'm not sure what it is, make sense?

I'm big on gut feeling.

It's easy to overthink but I dont think it's wise, it's that nasty little voice in our heads, I try to ignore it as much as I can, I try, not always successfully I might add to not take life too seriously, a former guru/mentor of mine told me to treat life like a game. At that time in my life it really helped.

Glad your life is moving upwards, that's my main aim in life, take care.


Great post, James, I've read it a couple of times, I love quotes.

Regards, Andy.

[James81]

Originally Posted by Andy4

Jaamkie,

You seem rather complicated but I empathise with a lot of your views, there is something about you that I really like but I'm not sure what it is, make sense?

I'm big on gut feeling.

It's easy to overthink but I dont think it's wise, it's that nasty little voice in our heads, I try to ignore it as much as I can, I try, not always successfully I might add to not take life too seriously, a former guru/mentor of mine told me to treat life like a game. At that time in my life it really helped.

Glad your life is moving upwards, that's my main aim in life, take care.


Great post, James, I've read it a couple of times, I love quotes.

Regards, Andy.

Ha ha, thanks man.

[dribirut]

i try to live my life by this: you dont have good days, you make them

[Daffy Duck]

There are many good ones, but I try to remember that although other people might try to get in the way, ultimately, I am the person responsible for what I can and can not do in my life. I am self-aware. I have my consciousness. I can choose. I can be. If something is not going my way, the first thing I should do is look in the mirror.

[David Cain]

That you only ever have to deal with one moment at a time.

[Black Spring]

There's something valuable to learn from everyone you meet. Look for it.

and

"The stone buddha deserves all the birdshit it gets" -Basho

[TexasSky]

Don't let the doubters, nay-sayers, and negative minded people keep you from trying to reach your goals and your dreams.

[jaamkie]

Originally Posted by Andy4

Jaamkie,

You seem rather complicated but I empathise with a lot of your views, there is something about you that I really like but I'm not sure what it is, make sense?

I'm big on gut feeling.

It's easy to overthink but I dont think it's wise, it's that nasty little voice in our heads, I try to ignore it as much as I can, I try, not always successfully I might add to not take life too seriously, a former guru/mentor of mine told me to treat life like a game. At that time in my life it really helped.

Funny, I don't feel complicated... usually feel I'm missing/oversimplifying factors that would make average human opinions and behavior obvious rational choices instead of mostly incomprehensible to me. Maybe my writing comes off a bit analytical because I'm usually posting here as a break from coding/technical documentation?

[HoneyOat]

It's important to be more of who you are and less of what you're supposed to be.

This is something I meditate on frequently.

[Daffy Duck]

Originally Posted by HoneyOat

It's important to be more of who you are and less of what you're supposed to be.

What if who you are is what you're supposed to be?

[ShiningLight]

Originally Posted by Andy4

What's your most valuable lesson?

Life is the most fun game you can play.

[HoneyOat]

Originally Posted by Daffy Duck

What if who you are is what you're supposed to be?

Then I am jealous of you

[Eric Roosevelt]

Wow, difficult question. I think I'd have to say that one of the most important lessons I've learned is that no matter how bad the circumstances seem - no matter what's going on - you can always find some kind of joy in the moment. It may not always be the same kind of joy, or joy about the same things, but still, on some level - joy.

No matter what's happening in your life right now, you're just a few thoughts away from being in a peak state. A peak state - and peace of mind, for that matter - is always accessible to you, as soon as you take charge of your experience.

[nhaasch]

Originally Posted by Angela

Tied for first place:

Everybody is exactly where they should be, and everyone is doing the best they can with the resources they have available. Including me.

The one choice you can make that will make a tremendous difference in getting the results you want is to take 100% responsibility for the results you get. Be at cause in your life.

Those are wonderful.

[Angela]

They feel really wonderful and effective, nhaasch. I wish that everyone could feel the power and the joy of being present to those two things, even just for a moment to taste them.

I want to sing them from the rooftops.

[nhaasch]

They are now in my repository.

[TonyToneTone]

Be myself. Regardless of who's around or what's going on, stay true to my authentic self. If that's done, I can always feel good regardless of the result.

[Andy4]

dribirut,

Most intention manifestation stars echo this, even if they are having a bad day, nice one.

Hi DD,

Congratulations on becomming a moderator, I don't know how long it's been but I just noticed it today, I'm not that observant!

You, Angela and Parthon have all mentioned responsibility, that to me means it's important, check out Paul Mckenna's 'change your life in 7 days' I've read this book about 12 times, he talks a lot about happiness and taking responsibility.

David,

Again taking one day at at time is vital, I say this to myself everyday whilst I am getting showered, whilst I am reciting all the things I am grateful for. Surprisingly it falls under the letter 'O'.Again, nice insight.

Blackspring,

Good reply, to take your point a little further everyone you meet knows how to do something better than you do, interesting.

TexasSky,

I could write a book on your comment,

STAY AWAY FROM NEGATIVE PEPLE. The best piece of advice I ever listened to, great comment.

Jaamkie,

I'm sure last time I spoke to you, I said I liked you. You may not like my next comment but I've just read your latest post and if that's not complicated or analytical I dont know what is? I'm a straight forward type of a guy, and please dont take offence at this but I found your reply kind of cute, in a really nice way. Take care and please keep in touch.

Again Honeyoat,

Read Paul Mckenna, see my reply to Daffy Duck.

Shinninglight.

I agree, life is a great game.

Eric,

This is what seperates winners from losers and it's not that hard to grasp.

Thanks, nhaasch.

I too take on board all that Angela says.

Hi, Tony.

The term authentic self is one I am familiar with, if you can come to terms with your authentic self I think you've gone a long way towards self mastery.

Thanks, everyone for some brilliant comments.

Regards, Andy.