Mort Fertel's marriage fitness book

[JoePike]

Just curious if anyone has read the book by Mort Fertel called Marriage Fitness: 4 Steps to Building & Maintaining Phenomenal Love. Supposed to be an alternative to traditional marriage counseling in that it teaches you to leave past problems behind and focus only on your future together.

If you've read it (or listened to the audio CD's) I'm wondering what you thought and if you feel it helped improve your current relationship.

[Shelleysbeads]

My name is Shelley, I live in New York in USA, 3 weeks ago my marriage was on the rocks just about over. My husband and I had been going to traditional counceling for 3 months and nothing special was happening. We left feeling more empty than when we began. Being a person who won't take no for an answer or give up on something I believe in I started to surf the net. What I found was there really isn't anyone to go to for help except a marriage councelor and there isn't any one who can direct you to anything that works. Sure there are books but which one out of 1,000 books do I try.

We felt helpless, we loved eachother but for all in tense and purposes we were a couple living together who were mentally divorced. We had slowly lost our connection, our core. We would just go through the motions because we have 2 children who are still in college one is finishing up her masters and the other is a Junior at University, he our youngest was the one we worried about the most, he was the baby and the one closest to us both divorcing would put him in a tail spin and he'd drop out of University we are sure of that so we decided to stay together till he graduated than separate. Then I ran into Mort Fertel's tapes I started to read everything on Mort I could, his own story alone was one of the saddest I'd ever heard but after I read everything on him I ordered the tapes. The fact there was 100% guarantee to refund my money was the clencher.
We received the tapes lightening fast, use only regular shipping there fast enough extra shipping isn't necessary. We found a time when the children weren't around and put in tape 1, we listened shook our heads listened some more shook our heads smiled. Tape 2, we listened shook our heads answered the questions put to us smiled than Tape 3, answered questions again smiled shook our heads. Tape 4 than tape 5. We couldn't believe it we couldn't believe how simple it all was how basic. You see he takes you back to the basic's the time when we fell in love how connected we were together. You have a 14 week course and each week you add something new to the program. Instantly we both started to realize that we were disconnected and now we had to tools to use to get reconnected. Both mentally and physically we were returning to the same people we once were holding hands touching eachother 10 times a day, kissing 6 times calling eachother on our phones 5 x's each just to say I love you. It was so simple I am surprised someone didn't think of all of this sooner. He takes us back to the start a new start not the one where we had Biology on our side a new start to reconnect to who we use to be . You have specifics you MUST do to rekindle your love and it works I AM TELLING YOU it works my husband and I started being kind to eachother once again holding onto eachother in bed once again and slowly our love is returning. I too was a skeptic I don't trust anything but after we listened to all the CD's we looked at eachother and laughted and said it was there all along we just needed someone to help us get the tools to go back and start over. No dredging up the past you don't sit there and blame anyone you have a fresh slate to make new. You leave the past in the past and never bring it up again. I can't believe the change in my husband almost overnight he started to hug me again kiss me again the way we use to. Instead of silence and nasty comments he's been kind and gentle like before. Once you have fallen in love with someone that is still there somewhere way down inside of you both, you must rekindle that love and stur the fire you have inside until the flames of love infold you. Go SLOWLY don't try to get it all back in a week or two know that small changes are the best changes, because they are the ones that are pure changes of the heart changes. It can only get better from here I would recommend the CD's it works... Mort has focused on the simple,the way we use to love and the way we want to love and be loved. Love is the answer it is what we ALL want and what we all NEED/ It also focuses on other people in our lives and the attention they try to get from us that drains us. It goes through it ALL.
Get the tapes and start to repair your marriage it works...
Shelley