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Old 05-11-2009, 05:20 PM   #1 (permalink)
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Old 05-11-2009, 09:13 PM   #2 (permalink)
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Also to convince her that it is ok to tell me she's be fvcking other guys,
Why do you want to do that?
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Old 05-11-2009, 09:21 PM   #3 (permalink)
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Wow. Um, I think your problem may be bigger than you realise.

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I invited myself over to her place last night and had sex with her this morning.
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Anyway, I acted AFC by telling her today that I don't trust her because I feel she's been fvcking someone else, though we are not dating, because her vagina is loose. She felt bad and cried because she "has been nothing but faithful to me".
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I told her I had a ONS while we were not dating, which I did. Silly me!!!
Are you aware that the way you are treating this woman is extremely manipulative and controlling? You break up with her, apparently without really telling her why, you 'invite yourself' over and 'have sex with her' then accuse her of something based on a ludicrous and shaming criticism even though she is not your girlfriend, and then you try to manipulate her into confessing something by telling her you did the EXACT THING that you are accusing her of!

Honestly, I think you should let that girl go and find someone who will actually treat her with respect and love, while you work on your own control issues.
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Why do you want to do that?
We were not dating so I thought she has no reason to hide her sexual life or partners from me.
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We were not dating so I thought she has no reason to hide her sexual life or partners from me.
But you're accusing her of sleeping with other men, you're angry at her ... even though you seem to think it's okay for you to sleep with other women. How does that work?

If you two are not dating, she has no reason to have to TELL you about her sex life, not no reason to hide it from you. It's absolutely none of your business.
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Have you considered the possibility that the problem is not that her vagina has become loose, but that your penis has shrunk?
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Have you considered the possibility that the problem is not that her vagina has become loose, but that your penis has shrunk?
Ridiculous...
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Have you considered the possibility that the problem is not that her vagina has become loose, but that your penis has shrunk?
Lol.

All the best, OP. I don't think the problem is with her as much as it is with you. Good thing is you realized what you were doing wrong. But it doesn't solve the problem. I would say you let her go and concentrate on yourself. Start with why you did not talk to her openly, why you made up your mind and accused her of something without doing your research and why you didn't trust her when she told you she wasn't sleeping with anyone. If you don't, problems similar to this will keep coming back to your life.
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Lol.

All the best, OP. I don't think the problem is with her as much as it is with you. Good thing is you realized what you were doing wrong. But it doesn't solve the problem. I would say you let her go and concentrate on yourself. Start with why you did not talk to her openly, why you made up your mind and accused her of something without doing your research and why you didn't trust her when she told you she wasn't sleeping with anyone. If you don't, problems similar to this will keep coming back to your life.
Yeah... thanks everyone. I have decided to END EVERYTHING and start afresh.
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