Go for it?

[soulbreaker]

the situation:

i like this girl who's three to four years younger than i am.

she's a really sweet and cute girl, tons of fun, in fact all we do is just laugh, but she's studying abroad and will be gone for the entire summer. i'll be seeing her next semester on a weekly basis, but i'm not sure where i stand or what she's looking for in general. (don't know much about her personally, again we just have fun, that's all we really know about eachother)

my gut is saying don't wait, so i guess i should just try to ask her out on a date? if she says no move on, if she says yes then sweeeet!

i really just enjoy being friends with her too, so i'm kind of caught up.

i just hope i play my cards right regardless of the outcome.

i'm also wondering would it be abrupt to show interest now or should i wait til she gets back?

thanks for the responses.

[soulbreaker]

also, i would say we've known eachother for about a year, but we don't see eachother often.

if i do ask her on a date, what would be appropriate?

i hate making things obvious, but maybe i need to...

any ideas? i hate food dates, movies you can't talk.

i guess if i ask her to do something "datey" that would be a good signal though?

kiss on the first date? i'll just go with the vibes and if it's there i'm going in for the kill haha.

[seeker5]

Go for it now.

It's ok to be abrupt. Initiating Relationships with Openness, Honesty, and Directness

Be direct and let her know you now view her differently. I've applied some of what Steve wrote in his blog and it's being great. Just letting your friend know you're now attracted to her reduces a tremendous amount of pressure and wondering within you .

[soulbreaker]

that's the thing...i only see her like once a week, and we're usually involved with a group so she's hard to get alone.

i have her number, and will probably just call her to go do something?

but what though?

i'd want to do something fun.

i'll have to think up of some date ideas, but maybe it shouldn't even be considered a date, because if i go out somewhere with this girl and buy, that might be a little awkward if she's not expecting it.

i'm tired of being some goofy upbeat kid, i want to attract women.

i will become more successful with this over time, i know it.

but i tend to get into these binds, where i don't know how to come off.

thanks for the help

[MillenniumMike]

Say you want to hang out and not a date, there is less pressure and it is the same thing. On the openness and directness link the trick about that one is you need a good level of self belief and confidence to pull it off. There is a division of styles, direct or indirect and somewhere inbetween. How long have you been friends..... if its for a while you will be in the friend zone and that requires a certain strategy.

[Alexi]

Just ask her out, life is short. I just blew it at a gas station with some girl who I think was into me. Who flirts while filling up gas? I do.