Meeting my Neighbor, Help!

[djtaylor13]

First off, I want to personally thank each person who is taking the time to read this, and for any advice offered,

Hey everyone, first time on these forums, so I guess a brief summary of myself is in order (and what I'm asking this question). I'm 22, and I feel like I finally may be getting over my shyness/self consciousness. Had been heavy most of my life until about two years ago, when I finally decided to do something about it. Long story short, I was extremely self conscious about my weight my whole life, until right about now, when I finally realized I look much better (I'm sure some people here know what that's like). Basically, I'm just getting over some long standing self confidence issues.

To my question. I've been in my apartment building in Arlington (just moved down to work in DC) since October, and I am moving out at the end of May. By complete chance, I happened to meet my neighbor (she had her cell phone/wallet stolen, and needed a favor). From our few brief meetings, she seems like an interesting person, and I would like to get to know her better. Problem is, I never know when she is going to be around, and a chance meeting is highly unlikely in this apartment. I basically want to get a chance to talk to her, get her name, learn some more about her, and ask her if she is interested in grabbing lunch/coffee/etc. sometime. Should I just knock on her door? Thing is, I don't think she has a boyfriend, but I could be wrong. My only concern about knocking on her door is that I would catch her at an awkward moment, which could ruin any chance at a meaningful conversation. Any advice on how to get some time with her, and what I could say? I want to do this as soon as possible, because if I put it off for much longer, its just going to get more difficult.

Thanks for taking the time to read my post, just need some advice!

- Dave

[ang569]

Hmmm. I don't think I would knock on her door. Too much initial invasion. Maybe make it a point to be outside or come in about the time she does and ask her. Did she give you her cell number? Maybe you could text her.

One important thing..... When she left, did she leave anything to make you think she would want to meet up again or did it all just end with total closure? i.e. Did she say maybe we can hook up, or a hope to see you again?

[djtaylor13]

Problem is, I don't really have any surefire way of running into her. Our work schedules seem to be different, so running into her in the hall seems unlikely. The last time we talked, we continued our last conversation. I basically will have to take all the initiative here if I'm going to get a chance to talk to her. I figure its reasonable to want to get to know your neighbor (use that as a reason to start talking to her).

[SimonaRich]

I know this may take time, but you can observe the patterns of her going out and then go out at the same time and meet her by 'coincidence'.

Or just knock on her door and ask for some favour too (you can say that your hair-dryer stopped working and you need to dry your hair because you are going to some meeting so try to borrow it from her or say something of such matter so that it would sound real).

Hope that helps! Pls keep us updated about how you are doing!!!

[ssandra]

I would say just to go and knock and aks her for lunch. If she is doing things where she cannot open the door, most likely she will not open the door...

Otherwise, just write her a little note (I seem to be keep on missing you. I wondered, have found your wallet/cell phone? If you would like to have lunch or coffee some day, come knocking or call me at ....).

Don´t make to much trouble of it, the worst that can happen is that she says no, and than you are at exactly the same place as you are now...

Waiting for her to see when see comes home, making sure your scedules are the same seems a little bit... well.. creepy to be honest. Stalker like...

good luck!

[ns123]

throw a party at your house, invite her to join. If she doesn't come... plan other group activities... and casually invite her to join. If she can't make any of them, it's not meant to be.