Trouble With Conversation

[dreamtime07]

Guys, I really have trouble with conversation especially if it's with a group of friends. I really don't have trouble conversing on chat; I converse pretty well if it was on messenger.

Sometimes, when I'm with a group of friends and they are talking about something. Often times, my mind always wander off somewhere that's why I can't add to the conversation. And when they ask me a question, I'm always like, "Sorry, what's that again?" and I feel that I'm boring to talk to because my mind always wander off.

Sometimes, if my mind doesn't wander off, I don't even know what to add to conversation, because I always think that what I'll say might be wrong and I always fear that the conversation would stop because of what I'll say (It happens all the time.)


I know that if I don't have any information about the subject matter, then I don't have to add to the conversation. But mostly, I have some information about what was being talked about, but it doesn't come out of my mouth.

My friends really think of me as a quiet person, because I'm really a quiet person and I don't have much anything to say.

Sometimes, when I don't know what to say anymore. I always change the subject which I know is rude especially when they are all getting the conversation along pretty well.

But with just on a one-on-one conversation, I don't have trouble with conversation as I'm the one who always starts it.

I have made smooth conversation with a group of friends maybe about ten in my whole life which is a very bad considering every day I'm with my friends most of the time.

I believe the reason how I did it is because I mind was focused on the conversation and I have confidence. I want to always have this kind of feeling again, but I always fail as I always lose focus and confidence.

Sometimes, I feel that I'm very boring to talk to and sometimes I think that my friends don't understand me that much because I'm quiet.

Any thoughts or advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank You.

[dreamtime07]

I would want to add some more:

I also realized that when I feel that I don't care what other people think of me, then conversation would just start to be smooth sailing. I have done this only a couple of times and it was really good.

But, most of the time, I revert back to my old self of not focusing, mind always wandering about, thinking of what other people might think of me, low confidence.

I have always wanted to be myself and free. Then, conversation would just be a breeze. But unfortunately, as I said before, I always revert back to my pretty old self (mindset).