|04-18-2009, 03:32 AM||#1 (permalink)|
Join Date: Jan 2009
Trouble With Conversation
Guys, I really have trouble with conversation especially if it's with a group of friends. I really don't have trouble conversing on chat; I converse pretty well if it was on messenger.
Sometimes, when I'm with a group of friends and they are talking about something. Often times, my mind always wander off somewhere that's why I can't add to the conversation. And when they ask me a question, I'm always like, "Sorry, what's that again?" and I feel that I'm boring to talk to because my mind always wander off.
Sometimes, if my mind doesn't wander off, I don't even know what to add to conversation, because I always think that what I'll say might be wrong and I always fear that the conversation would stop because of what I'll say (It happens all the time.)
I know that if I don't have any information about the subject matter, then I don't have to add to the conversation. But mostly, I have some information about what was being talked about, but it doesn't come out of my mouth.
My friends really think of me as a quiet person, because I'm really a quiet person and I don't have much anything to say.
Sometimes, when I don't know what to say anymore. I always change the subject which I know is rude especially when they are all getting the conversation along pretty well.
But with just on a one-on-one conversation, I don't have trouble with conversation as I'm the one who always starts it.
I have made smooth conversation with a group of friends maybe about ten in my whole life which is a very bad considering every day I'm with my friends most of the time.
I believe the reason how I did it is because I mind was focused on the conversation and I have confidence. I want to always have this kind of feeling again, but I always fail as I always lose focus and confidence.
Sometimes, I feel that I'm very boring to talk to and sometimes I think that my friends don't understand me that much because I'm quiet.
Any thoughts or advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank You.
Last edited by dreamtime07; 04-18-2009 at 03:43 AM.
|04-18-2009, 03:59 AM||#2 (permalink)|
Join Date: Jan 2009
I would want to add some more:
I also realized that when I feel that I don't care what other people think of me, then conversation would just start to be smooth sailing. I have done this only a couple of times and it was really good.
But, most of the time, I revert back to my old self of not focusing, mind always wandering about, thinking of what other people might think of me, low confidence.
I have always wanted to be myself and free. Then, conversation would just be a breeze. But unfortunately, as I said before, I always revert back to my pretty old self (mindset).
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