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03-25-2009, 09:25 PM
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 |  Pushy friend, get some boundaries
I have a friend whom I've known for a little over a year. She was a good friend, when I was not in a serious relationship. Now that I am in a relationship with someone who is very important to me, I find that I am constantly having to push her away, in a way that is not required with my other friends. She asks me what my plans are and when I tell her, she invites herself along, whether those plans are with my significant other or with another friend. I don't want to be the person who tosses her friends as soon as she gets a boyfriend, but I feel like this person is forcing me to do that with her. When I do go out with her, she sometimes says things that make me think she doesn't really like me very much anyway, and that makes me want to spend even less time with her. I'm not sure what my question is. I'm just frustrated with the possibility of losing a friend, because I don't have a lot of friends to begin with.
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03-26-2009, 03:12 PM
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Seriously though, RT Wolf has a point. There's no need to associate with someone just because you don't have many other friends. As you move along, you'll realize that people come and go out of your life. If someone isn't compatible with you, why should you cling to them? It's only going to make you miserable. On the other hand, I don't advocate giving up on friends too easily. That is, if you can honestly call this person a friend. Is she? If she is, it may be worth sitting down and having an honest talk with her. Honesty goes a long way. | |
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03-29-2009, 07:55 PM
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Hi marnie, I agree with Eric R.this person is making you miserable,she is jealous of you and your relationship.Do not let her wreck it. With friends like her you dont need enemies.RT Wolf says there are 6.7 bn people on this planet,surely you can afford to bin one of them.Dont feel guity,get rid. Regards,Andy. Wealthnuggets4u-Get Rich!-In All Areas Of Your Life. |
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04-05-2009, 01:12 AM
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I feel like people on this forum are very quick to respond to get rid of friends. Try making a list of at least 10 things you like about this person. Then see if you can steer your relationship in the direction to maximize the positives and minimize the negatives.
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