She did not respond to my text

[ballaholic]

I know her through my lab, but I don't really know her that well. We got together with our lab partners for dinner after our last lab. I got her number a couple of days ago when we got together to study for our lab final which just ended. She told me she had a french exam and I messaged her last night last night in french, asking her when her french exam was. It's almost been 24 hours and she hasn't responded. Does this mean she's creeped out? It's a pretty small campus so and we're in the same program so we're bound to see each other again -- but it'll be awkward. How do I react to this?

[SupersecretIdentity]

It could mean anything. It could mean the text didn't go through. It could mean she didn't understand a thing of the message. It could mean she has just been busy and forgot to respond. Maybe her phone got destroyed. Maybe she's in the hospital. Maybe she just didn't feel like responding.

Playing the guessing game is pointless. There are so many possible things that could be going on you will drive yourself nuts worrying what might have gone wrong.

In my opinion, the best way to deal with this (and life in general, by the way), is to just go about your life regardless. Don't put your life on hold in hopes that she will respond. If you need to study for that test, or find someone else to study with, do it. Yeah, you might miss that window to study with her, but that's okay for two reasons. 1) It shows you have a life of your own. 2) If she is actually interested in you, you can always find another time to hang out.

On that note, you are shooting yourself in the foot trying to be deceptive about why you want to hang out. I'm assuming you are interested in her, but you are playing it off as "just studying". This makes you either A) look like a wuss that is afraid to just say you want to take her out or B) That you aren't really interested and actually do only want to study. Just be genuine on what you want with her.

Good luck

Edit: to answer your question directly

Don't react. Just behave as if she were any other person you didn't know well (and were not interested in). Meaning, if any other person in your class flaked, you wouldn't bat an eyelash at it. If you think she flaked on you, feel free to bring it up casually, but only if it actually doesn't bother you. The single WORST thing you can do right now is blow this out of perspective. In reality, its a fairly minor incident. There were no commitments or real time investments involved. Letting this get to you more than it should will be the least attractive thing you could do.

[Piercetheveil]

Lots of assumptions on your part. How do you know she got the text? How do you know she understood your text? Maybe she deleted it on accident. Maybe she didnt remember it was your number.

It seems you are already in attachment mind. Grasping. Holding on to. That is death before there is any life.

In short, lighten the heck up. Cool and laid back often more attractive than anxious and possessive action.

If it were me I would just look at the facts. I know I sent a text. That is all I know.

I would either blow it off or if she has a sense a humor I would use it as a way to be funny as in:

"Oh, look, I know your secret about French. Don't worry it's safe with me."

Her: "What?"

"I was testing your knowledge the other day to see if you were a poser French speaking wanna be. And don't even act like you didn't get the text."


Her: Um well uh.

"Yeah, so how did the exam work out?"

It is about having fun and connecting with people. Lighten up.

[Some Random Loser]

Originally Posted by ballaholic

It's almost been 24 hours and she hasn't responded.

OMG

Originally Posted by ballaholic

Does this mean she's creeped out?

Who gives a ****?

Originally Posted by ballaholic

It's a pretty small campus so and we're in the same program so we're bound to see each other again -- but it'll be awkward.

Will it really? Why????

Originally Posted by ballaholic

How do I react to this?

You already did. Too late. LoL

[Andrew Brunelle]

SRL, you make me laugh. You're very "in your face." You remind me of a younger me. When I was 19 or maybe 20. I got in a lot of trouble back then, and now I still have a similar personality, but it's not quite as explicit as yours.

On the note of the post, ballaholic, you should probably call her. Texting is kind of wimpy. No offense. I just think its a surrogate form of communication. Why not call her and talk to her? Just ask if she's interested in you and if she isn't, at leat you'll know. You shouldn't spend 24 hours agonizing over this. Just be yourself and talk to her. It's not rocket science.

What do rocket scientists say? "It's not like talking to women."

[Some Random Loser]

Thats how we do, Mr. B, that's how we do

[Harmonium]

write the same message on a piece of paper and throw it at her

[bunnyman]

Originally Posted by Harmonium

write the same message on a piece of paper and throw it at her

Do you like me?

Circle ONE: ... YES ......... NO

[cacheborn]

Relax, man. As everyone says, it could be a number of reasons. I don't beleive it should cause any awkward moments. Just talk to her, ask her how the exam was.

What do rocket scientists say? "It's not like talking to women."

LOL, Andrew. I imagined something like

"Houston, we have a problem."
"Relax, 13. It's not like you are asking Angelina Jolie out!"

[garentee]

If its awkward, then it is..I am learning to love awkwardness it is so much more real then pretending that everything is fine.

[TonyToneTone]

Originally Posted by ballaholic

I know her through my lab, but I don't really know her that well. We got together with our lab partners for dinner after our last lab. I got her number a couple of days ago when we got together to study for our lab final which just ended. She told me she had a french exam and I messaged her last night last night in french, asking her when her french exam was. It's almost been 24 hours and she hasn't responded. Does this mean she's creeped out? It's a pretty small campus so and we're in the same program so we're bound to see each other again -- but it'll be awkward. How do I react to this?

Don't even worry about it. She gave you the digits for a reason and also let you know in advance that she would be busy.

Bump into her, act like it's no big deal (which it isn't), come off as being playful and fun and she WILL want to see you.

PS - If you don't feel like waiting to bump into her, wait a bit and then call her up. Act like it's no big deal, be fun on the phone, make some plans, and go see her!

[nocturne]

don't wonder if the girl likes you. just try to be warm around her. you only get as much like/love as you give. see if she reciprocates, but don't read too much into it. Sitting around wondering all day will just kill you.

it sounds like you feel like you have to do something to impress her by messaging her in french or something. drop your guard and try to be real.

continue being warm and friendly around her, see if flirtatious banter develops. just keep at it!
if shes not into you move on...if she responds in kind...move forward

just move on and see how she responds...don't worry about if she's responding ot this or that.