Who here has used EHarmony.com?

[ndpistonfan]

Met my future wife on there. We're getting married on May 2nd here in the Nashville area. If you're curious you can view our wedding website at:Walton and Randy - About Us
I was just curious myself how many here have used it and what their particular results were. One reason I liked it was I knew if I, a man, were willing to jump through all the hoops to meet someone on there, I knew the women on there were serious about finding a good partner. For anybody out there who's looking for their signicant other, it's got it's advantages. By the way, I don't work for EHarmony, either directly or indirectly

[Angela Leeds]

That's sweet. Congrats!

I was on it a couple years back. Didn't care for the system -- they kept sending me people who were like *me*, rather than my complement. I got their customer support involved, re-took their quiz a couple times, never helped, eventually just canceled and I believe had my fee refunded. They also use a weird search parameter that included only population in a neighboring state with a different culture as compared to my area where I'd have had more likelihood of commonality, and there was at the time no way to fix it; don't know if they still search their matches the same way.

So for me... never met one person that interested me using eHarmony.com. But meh... when it's time, it's time, and any system can connect people who need to be connected.

Glad to hear this one worked for you! Wishing you much happiness!

[vMike]

Nice! I've never used any online dating, but maybe I should

[Montrealonmymind]

Angela is right when it's time it's time...whether it's on the internet, at a park, at a party or whatever. I mean my life was like Sex in the City before I met my guy! Literally! I was like how much can a girl withstand!! But at the same time I was not afraid of dating and meeting people and I made an effort to enjoy dating and I enjoyed the single life for what it was in general - it was a way of living. A lot of single people today complain that they can't meet anyone but they are not making any effort and they are so unhappy in their lives in general - it's annoying! Have fun!!! You only get to date once in your life (unless you get a divorce) and you are young! That is what I say! I had some horrible dates and some longer relationships that did not pan out - that did not stop me from dating and having fun? I mean that would be letting the ex's win?! Anyways...2 months after a really bad episode of getting dumped by text message!!! You know like the Carrie getting dumped by post-it note! How rude! After that "he" came along and it was instant - and we've been together 2 years and it's like I've known him all my life. The point is whatever you are trying at least YOU ARE TRYING! So congrats to you for TRYING and that it worked!

[Dan.Linehan]

eHarmony was founded in 2000 by evangelical Christian Dr. Neil Clark Warren and had ties with the religious conservative group Focus on the Family.

Ugly stuff. They don't support equality for gays, don't believe in evolution, etc.

[ndpistonfan]

While I may not subscribe to the ideology for EHarmony, I think they have a good system. I may be in the minority here, but I appreciated the fact that they weeded out alot of the folks I didn't have alot of points of commonality with. But like alot of you said, maybe I was just ready and she was just ready and it just so happened to be the vehicle where we found each other. I'd tried a few other dating sites before (Match.com, Yahoo Personals, and even Onion Personals), but didn't find the same quality of people. But then again, maybe because you pay so much to get started with EHarmony in the first place I assigned more value to it intrinsically. Thanks for those of you who took the time to look and/or reply.

[moedave5923]

I am a 49 year old single guy, who found himself divorced after 23 years of marriage. I wasn't exactly sure how to go about meeting women when it got to the point I felt like I was ready. I'm not the most outgoing guy in the world, so I thought I would give several dating websites a try.

Eharmony is by far the most organized and most selective. It has a wide range of personality types and offers a quick out if there are some you just really aren't interested in.

I personally think this website offers an excellent outlet to meet new people, especially if it's been a while since you've dated and really don't know how to proceed. The website is open 24/7, so it's there to search candidates and receive responses without me having to sit in front of the computer all day.

I'm still a bit apprehensive about the whole process, but I think that comes from my inexperience rather than any problem with the website. I'm currently getting ready to call one of my "matches" for the first time... I'll keep you updated to let you know how it goes...

David

[Curtis2011]

Originally Posted by Dan.Linehan

eHarmony was founded in 2000 by evangelical Christian Dr. Neil Clark Warren and had ties with the religious conservative group Focus on the Family.

Ugly stuff. They don't support equality for gays, don't believe in evolution, etc.

1) What in the hell does supporting evolution have to do with online dating?



2) If someone wants to single-handedly create a huge website for men and women to date, and not provide support for gays and lesbians, that is his personal decision.


Why can nobody understand that even if someone is wrong in his opinion/belief, he has a right to believe whatever he wants.

Trying to force him to support gays on his dating website would be the exact same as him trying to force someone else to fight against gays' rights. Both are equally absurd and blatantly disrespectful of everyone's right to believe what they want.

[aelle]

Originally Posted by Curtis2011

1) What in the hell does supporting evolution have to do with online dating?



2) If someone wants to single-handedly create a huge website for men and women to date, and not provide support for gays and lesbians, that is his personal decision.


Why can nobody understand that even if someone is wrong in his opinion/belief, he has a right to believe whatever he wants.

Trying to force him to support gays on his dating website would be the exact same as him trying to force someone else to fight against gays' rights. Both are equally absurd and blatantly disrespectful of everyone's right to believe what they want.

I don't think anyone would defend the idea that EHarmony should be forced to do or believe anything. However, just like it's their right to support an ideology, it's their patrons' and potential patrons' right to know what this ideology is, so that they can refuse to support a business contradicting their values. I, for one, am glad to know this information.

[90802]

Eh. I think they have a decent system, but it's WAY too expensive for what you get. Why in the hell pay $50 a month if you only get a match every month or two?

Not sure what to make of his evangelical connections. I mean, I love the music of James Brown, but should I stop listening to it because he was a major ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥? I'm sure there are plenty of online dating services that cater to gays and lesbians.

So yeah, if it wasn't so damn expensive, I'd be willing to give it another go. $50 a month? Nah ah.

If you don't want complicated and expensive, okcupid.com is pretty damn good.