The energetic component of someone being attracted to you

[seeker5]

I was wondering, when someone is attracted to you, is their energy interested in pulling you to them?

I had an experience that was interesting. I spent the evening with a group, and I felt that one girl (whom I had never met before) was energetically pulling me toward her. She didn't do anything really overt, or flirtatious, but at the time, it felt to me like she was attracted to me. I'm not attracted to her in that sense, but it was an interesting and pleasant, soothing feeling - to feel energetically pulled like she wants to draw me to her.

Part of the reason I'm asking is I've been kind of blind about noticing or figuring out if someone is attracted to me, and I've set the intention to start noticing these kind of things. So, I wonder if what I felt from her was accurate or not.

[Rose of Cairo]

Why don't you just ask her? I don't think we can tell you what she felt.

[seeker5]

Originally Posted by Rose of Cairo

Why don't you just ask her? I don't think we can tell you what she felt.

Hah! I can imagine saying "Hey I'm not attracted to you but I was curious if you were attracted to me".

I am curious to see if others have felt something similar to what I've felt.

Edit: Hmmm, on second thought, maybe it'll make a nice growth experiment for me to ask her indeed just that - with the framing of my seeking to better feel these kind of things.

[AGBourne]

Don't ask her. That is one sure way of ruining attraction by asking her a direct question about if she is attracted to you or vice versa.

Attraction is the magic that maybe happening to you and her, just let it happen. DOn't ruin it by analyzing it, but you are right be more aware of it like you have been that is a great step forward.

Also, remember that attraction is not a choice.

[cylon]

Originally Posted by AGBourne

Also, remember that attraction is not a choice.

I hope more people realize this because it saves you the time of over-analyzing. Many women will SAY attraction is not a choice, that they have to a,b,c, before they are sure if they are attracted to you. That with men, attraction is instant, with women, it could take a long time to even develop that basic sexual attraction. This puts them in the power position of course.

When a man adopts this mindset, it puts him in a mindset of having to do a song and dance to get her approval.

So if she really is interested, the guy ruins it because he mistakenly feels he still has to "prove his worth" to her, which makes him... less attractive.

And on the other side, if she really isn't interested, the guy has been led to believe that somehow if he puts on enough of a song and dance, she can become interested. Which makes him less attractive.

[AGBourne]

Originally Posted by cylon

So if she really is interested, the guy ruins it because he mistakenly feels he still has to "prove his worth" to her, which makes him... less attractive.

And on the other side, if she really isn't interested, the guy has been led to believe that somehow if he puts on enough of a song and dance, she can become interested. Which makes him less attractive.

That is good right there.

[seeker5]

Originally Posted by AGBourne

Don't ask her. That is one sure way of ruining attraction by asking her a direct question about if she is attracted to you or vice versa.

Attraction is the magic that maybe happening to you and her, just let it happen. DOn't ruin it by analyzing it, but you are right be more aware of it like you have been that is a great step forward.

I don't care if I ruin the attraction really, I'm not interested in having her attracted to me nor am I interested in anything developing between me and her. I'm just curious whether what I felt was accurate or not. I'm also curious whether other people have felt the same type of energetic pull that I described.

Also, remember that attraction is not a choice.

Oh? I think I can make a conscious choice not to be attracted to certain people that I've decided are not good for me to be attracted to. Maybe I can be attracted to someone subconsciously, but then with my conscious mind I can override it.

Originally Posted by cylon

That with men, attraction is instant,

Not necessarily with me at all times. I've felt instant attraction a number of times. However, I've also initially felt zero attraction toward a woman, and only through getting to know her by beings friends with her through a period of time did I start to feel very attracted to her and then developed an intimate relationship with her.

[cylon]

Originally Posted by seeker5

I'm also curious whether other people have felt the same type of energetic pull that I described.

Yes if you are aware of your environment, and if you've had women be interested in you before enough, you can tell the signs that a girl is into you. It may not appear she's doing anything but she is giving off subtle cues that you are picking up on, and probably vice versa.

It is said that most communication is non verbal. And that's because we've been around as a species way way longer than we've had words to communicate.

So I think the girl was checking you out and you noticed it.

Originally Posted by seeker5

Oh? I think I can make a conscious choice not to be attracted to certain people that I've decided are not good for me to be attracted to. Maybe I can be attracted to someone subconsciously, but then with my conscious mind I can override it.

There's a difference between attraction, and interest. Attraction is physical, good luck turning that off. Interest is how you think you two would get along, if you share similar values. It's easy be attracted to someone you're not "interested in".

Originally Posted by seeker5

However, I've also initially felt zero attraction toward a woman, and only through getting to know her by beings friends with her through a period of time did I start to feel very attracted to her and then developed an intimate relationship with her.

It happens. I'm talking about from a woman's perspective. Women that you don't think of "in that way", if they are interested, can be very good at working to earn your affection and interest. It's worked on me a few times, girls I didn't really care about either way, and they end up winning me over. But that wasn't really from being friends. I could already see what they were doing, they just did it consistently enough that it broke through.

But despite what many posters would say, men and women are different. We approach sexual attraction differently. A guy doing what those girls did, is USUALLY considered desperate, which is unattractive. However they may encourage the man to keep doing this, as it feels good to be pursued and desired.

But this is all based on the idea that men and women are different, which isn't a discussion I'm going to get into.

I just felt I would reinforce AG's point about attraction not being a choice. It's a mindset that can work in your favor.

[Holistic Star]

OK seeker5 I'm going to tell you a secret.

Ages ago (years in fact) I was in a club and on the dancefloor was someone I felt attracted to.

I did deliberately choose to energetically pull him towards me. I was just starting to learn about this energy stuff.

I drew him towards me without even looking at him!

After about 40 minutes or so he crossed the floor and started dancing near me trying to catch my eye.

We chatted for a bit and then went our separate ways. We both had partners and to an outside observer nothing happened. But on an energetic level it certainly did.

Afterwards I heard from a mutual friend he was asking who I was and how she knew me etc.

I can't even remember exactly how I did it. I think I just opened my chakras and put my intention on him and just thought about drawing him close.


Not something I do every day - in fact I haven't done it since, it was a bit of a fun experiement to see if it worked. Is that very naughty?

[seeker5]

That's interesting Holistic Star! That's what I felt she was doing, although it seems on a subconscious level as we sat next to each other for a good while. It wasn't anything sexual, or physical, it was just this pull energy thingy. Thanks for sharing that story

[dice]

I get the vice versa.

I've focused on some people so intensely that I've actually brought them and people connected with them into my life. Some of these people were friends of friends, others were total strangers, and 2 were celebrities: Robin Williams and Danny Bhoy.

I liked a guy who looked very similar to Bhoy -> Good energy there.

Robin Williams -> perfectly timed chance encounter in an art gallery, down to the second (the result of focusing on him since Mrs. Doubtfire and Aladdin - it takes time to catch the big ones).

I haven't met any other celebrities except those that i focused on specifically.

So the 'probability' factor is really irrelevant - I'm completely convinced that I can draw people towards me/bring myself closer to people if the focus and belief is there.

Does she sometimes mimic your posture/mannerisms/body language? thats a good sign that shes very intently focused on you.

[dice]

Originally Posted by Holistic Star

OK seeker5 I'm going to tell you a secret.

Ages ago (years in fact) I was in a club and on the dancefloor was someone I felt attracted to.

I did deliberately choose to energetically pull him towards me. I was just starting to learn about this energy stuff.

I drew him towards me without even looking at him!

crazy! I did that too, just last week actually. Eventually he came over and tapped me on the shoulder. I accidently blew him off (I figured he was playing the pickup game of 'Your very cute, give me your number, i gotta go' deal). I'm not used to being hit on by strangers so I act defensively.

Nevertheless! Quite interesting.

[Holistic Star]

it did feel naughty!

I've got a friend who amuses himself by focusing on the back of heads of strangers from a distance at busy places like stations just to watch them get confused and turn around to see what is going on behind them!

I've not managed to make anyone turn round yet. mmm maybe something to try tomorrow!

[seeker5]

Originally Posted by Holistic Star

it did feel naughty!

I've got a friend who amuses himself by focusing on the back of heads of strangers from a distance at busy places like stations just to watch them get confused and turn around to see what is going on behind them!

I've not managed to make anyone turn round yet. mmm maybe something to try tomorrow!

Hehe

I have noticed that if I'm looking at a girl I find attractive in a crowd of people, even if she can't see me from her current position, pretty soon she'll turn around and look back at me.