Looking for some asking out a stranger advice

[fezir]

I want to ask out a girl who works at one of my local Applebee's, and I was hoping to get some advice. I've read some generic asking out a stranger advice, but any specific tips for a scenario like this? Not a whole lot of room for small talk when she keeps fairly busy and whenever I'm there I'd only see her on the way in and the way out. And some additional details: I don't know how old she is, but she seems to be around my age (I'm 20) and I find this girl pretty attractive, but my friends don't seem to think so. As for myself, the closest thing I've had to girlfriend was a girl in high school who I was hooking up with for a couple months and took to prom, but we never had sex. It didn't end well since she was moving down South, and her way of saying goodbye was completely ignoring for her last two weeks here. All other times I try to ask out girls, especially in school, I fail miserably. Most recently, there was some mutually heavy flirting with a girl I work with and she had come out one night with another good friend of mine, who she told she had feelings for me; Once I finally mustered up the guts to ask her out (Christmas Eve), she told me some other guy had asked her out the night before and that they were now dating.

Now that I've written much more about myself then I originally intended, I'd love to hear some thoughts on this.

[Zerox]

Learn to observe. And I'm not just referring to this thread.

6threads below this one you have one with almost EXACTLY the same topic.

How to Approach a Stranger.

[fezir]

Originally Posted by Zerox

Learn to observe. And I'm not just referring to this thread.

6threads below this one you have one with almost EXACTLY the same topic.

How to Approach a Stranger.

I only counted one, and it's not exactly the same topic. I started a new thread because I felt like this was a special circumstance; There's not a whole lot of time where she and I can have a conversation. I was looking for particular advice for such a situation.

[bunnyman]

Originally Posted by fezir

I want to ask out a girl who works at one of my local Applebee's

I can't help thinking of Office Space. Do you like kung-fu?

[funchy]

1. You're over thinking this. Stop thinking so hard.

2. Just go talk to her. Once the conversation gets going, just ask her out. The worst she can possibly say is "no", in which case you write her off and move on.

[AGBourne]

Ok, You are thinking way too much into this. And that is what is killing you.

SHe is just a girl. Nothing special. Maybe she will be maybe she wont', but you will NEVER find out if you keep thinking about this and not do something about it.

Whatever happened in your past, its just that, it just something happened in your past. No reason to bring this up, because it is pulling you down right now. You are making all sorts of excuses of why you can't have her.

Here is what you do:

Next time you go to Applebees, go without your friends and go before rush hour, when servers aren't doing much. It is usually around 2-5pm.

Walk up to her and say:

"Hi, my name is so and so. I find you very cute. If I don't do this I would be kicking myself later. Let me get your phone number"

At this point pull out your phone and give it to her for her to put in the phone number.

Smile and say nothing else.