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Old 03-11-2009, 12:13 PM   #1 (permalink)
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Hello guys, I have met a wonderful woman the other day during a party and since then we have met a few times and got along quite well. There are a few issues: she doesn`t speak very good English so our communication is `lacking in richness` I suppose. So there is a clear communication barrier. However I do like her. One other thing - she is 29 and I am 20! But as I have said we get along well, so I hardly notice her age. Ofcourse we`ve only known each other for a week so maybe talk of intimacy is a bit too much for now! She is also oriental - I grew up in London and she grew up in China, so I think her mannerisms are different from mines. By that I mean, she`s reluctant to hug or even touch. I feel attracted towards her and well I would like to take things further but it`s difficult to read the signs. Is it the language barrier? (I am not sure) Is it the cultural barrier? (Maybe) or is it the age barrier? (could be). She has shown interest in me in subtle ways such as telling her friends the I am her boyfriend and so on (as a joke) - so I think she does like me.

I would ideally like to be honest with her and get closer but I don`t know her ideas about this. Could it be that she just wants to be friends? As I said there is a language barrier so I can`t ask straight and get an answer - I have to rely on body language and so on.... Is it too early to ask for intimacy?

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Just ask her. It would be worse if you never told her your feelings and she further develops into a stronger "friend."
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Talk to her. ^^, the direct approach works best. :3
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Just kiss her!
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Easy for you to say danas you're not the one who will waste a potential relationship by going caveman
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Easy for you to say danas you're not the one who will waste a potential relationship by going caveman
If she wants to be kissed thats fine, if not she will tell you and yoiur relationship will be as it should be....takes two to tango
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