Dealing with others' negativity re: love

[pyrogen]

How do I deal with this? This is I suppose in the category of "dealing with everyday negative people".

I am in a community of women who are single, who are not on the whole PD/LOA, and who routinely spew out negative beliefs about age and other obstacles to finding love, and talk about how hard X is and how hard Y is. I even posted that my mom - who is a first class LOA practicioner - had NO problem finding anyone at 35. She just did not experience ageism. In fact despite what everyone else said - "OMG it's so hard in your thirties" - she had a fabulous time and has been telling me that this is a GREAT time, there was just MORE to choose from in her 30s than ever before - which runs contrary to "popular wisdom", so I can only credit her LOA mojo.

Someone else however posted, "But that was then! It's all different now!".
I REALLY can't believe that it's THAT DIFFERENT now than it was then. Women have always been complaining about age.

I also mentioned that I DON'T read other people's personal ads, because it makes me feel negative, which affects my filters - due to the communities not being very LOA/PD conscious, this kind of got a "whatever". I'm almost thinking I just won't even discuss love in non-PD/LOA circles.

I know that I should just DITCH this community and ditch all my sources of slumberland negativity - I already have pretty much quit reading the news more than once a week - but it's been a great support in other ways.

[bunnyman]

+1

Seek out sources of positivity. Read, watch, and listen to people who believe what you'd like to believe.

I do not like all-or-nothing thinking, so I would reduce your involvement in this community before you DITCH it. Continue to be aware of their negativity and do not buy into it. Be aware of how it affects you.

I'm cheering for you.

[SimonaRich]

When you are happy with yourself and have a complete trust in the universe, nothing can affect you. You may be in the midst of negativity but you still remain positive. Just the matter of minding your own well-being and looking less at what others are doing.

[Mr_A]

Everyone’s attraction is subjective to how masculine/feminine they are
- A very masculine man would be attracted to a very feminine woman
- A feminine man would be attracted to a masculine woman.
Opposites Attract, majority of men are masculine beings and majority of woman are feminine beings.
Usually in the west when women get older they stop nurturing their feminine for whatever reason being her man didn’t bring the masculinity to the relationship so she picked up the slack and got masculine or she got hurt by a man and got hard and made a decision never to be that vulnerable again. Fact is the feminine radiance source comes from feeling unconditionally in the moment not matter the feeling, being fear, love, anger, hate, compassion, rage. Feeling without filtering your feelings, feeling unconditionally in the moment even it does make sense.

I’m 24 and I saw a 37 year old woman in the gym that was so radiant and attractive she just flowed, it was as if everyone was gray in the gym and she was the only colour in the room. And walking around was 18 , 20 year old women that didn’t even come close to her radiance and femininity she had to offer.

[RT Wolf]

Ditch 'em. Can't save people who don't want to be saved and there's limits to just how much negativity you can endure before you become negative yourself.

Most forums also have some sort of "Ignore" feature. You can choose to ignore some of the more negative members so you never see their posts.

[Lauxa]

Hey there pyrogen,

I'm dealing with a friend's negativity right now myself. We've been friends for a long time, but I've recently been making some big internal shifts and I'm starting to feel like it's time to move on. But the thing is, as long as this person is pushing my buttons and getting a rise out of me, I feel like I haven't learned everything this person can teach me yet.

My new idea is to focus on how I want to be in this relationship. I find my internal dialogue thinking about this person is often annoyed or scolding. Instead, I am toying with the idea of being compassionate or being a healing presence for this person. I think it's not about them, it's about you and who you want to be.

Anyways, I just wanted to bounce that idea off someone so let me know what you think!