What social or relationship issue would you most like help with?

[Cat Dancer]

I'm working on a web site (Decision Menu) which helps couples or a group of friends come to a common decision more easily.

One of my friends who tried it out said that it was "fun and made my indecisiveness easier to deal with.....heck in some cases this may help my marriage!"

Right now the site takes a generic approach to problems: you type in a question, and then you and your significant other or your friends can make suggestions and find which is the best answer for everyone. So it could be used for any kind of issue, but doesn't do anything special to help with particular kinds of issues.

So today I was thinking maybe the next thing to try with the site would be to pick a particular issue that people are having trouble with, and build a section of the site that would walk people through to finding a solution for that particular issue. (And then, once I had a section for helping with one issue working well, I could start working on another section for another issue, and so on).

So, I wanted to ask everyone, what issue or frustration are you having now with your relationship, your friends, or colleagues that you'd most like help with?

[SimonaRich]

VVVery easy answer. Just look through the threads of this forum in this section and write about the questions that are asked most.

I sometimes help people with the issues they have with their partners or family problems, but this is not my main field. However, mostly people ask about how to deal with partners that they are in love with but who drain them (mentally).

People also ask about the issues they have of letting go of the partner that is not right for them (when they feel dependant and needy).

I hope I helped you, but seriously you should look through this forum and you will find great topics to write about!

[Cat Dancer]

Originally Posted by SimonaRich

great topics to write about!

Ah, I should explain, I'm a programmer, so I wouldn't be writing about issues as such, instead the web site would help people walk through an issue in some way.

For example, let's take the first issue you mentioned, someone who is has a partner who drains them mentally. Now let's suppose there are some possible solutions to this (help raise your partner's energy level, leave the relationship...) and, perhaps, some things to look at to which will help tell you what to do (I don't know what these would be, since I haven't researched it yet... but, for example, maybe a partner who is physically abusive is an indication that you should leave, etc.)

So then, perhaps, the next question is how to get a unbiased or at least less biased look at the situation, like getting friends' input, and friends' engagement in solutions. So perhaps what the site could do is let the friends give their input (for example, "have you seen the partner be abusive?") and then give support for following up on whatever is the best action.

Which, I realize is all vague and handwavy, but I'm just starting to think about it...