Lost :S

[remoteguy]

hello everybody,

I know a girl which used to work with me, we were going out for sometime without having a clear tittle for our relationship, the when i realized that i love her.. i found that she want me as a friend,and she talks to me in a way that may not be able to promote our relation to the next level.. but eventhough she acts sometimes as if she is interested in me.. but the thing iam pretty sure of, that iam suffering and i decided to forget her.. and even to stop our frienship also, since i cant afford not being with her anymore..
if she is confused.. what do i do to make her make her mind and be with me ?? :S

HELP!!!!!

[magi13]

tell her how you feel. but be prepared to be dumped. ^,^ it's your choice, so take responsibility with the choice you choose.

1. do nothing
2. tell her
3. let her figure it out (a time wasting option)

in short, you guys better make things clear for each other.

[bluedragon]

I would focus on becoming more independent, in any case. On becoming the kind of person that would not have this problem. What would be the character traits of such a person? Which of those could you implement in your life, and you would want to do so?

[Mr_A]

remoteguy
You need to understand women; you need to learn how a masculine being loves a feminine being. You don't love her, you lust her. She can feel how dependant you are for her love and it makes her sick to her stomach. Feminine Energy is attracted to masculine energy meaning if she not attracted to you, you’re not bring the masculine energy to the table. It’s that simple.

So your question is probably how does the masculine energy love the feminine energy? First you need to know what it is to be masculine. A masculine knows himself, he has strong navigation skills, he knows where he is in life, knows where he wants to go and knows how to get there. In other words you need to know your purpose. And your purpose must be independent of her love, ill explain why this is later.
Second you need to know what it is to be feminine. Feminine Energy can be put simply as unconditional flow of emotion in the moment no matter the emotion fear, love, anger, compassion. The masculine serves the feminine by opening her up and allowing her to flow with unconditional emotion. And the feminine serves the masculine by giving him energy to move more effectively towards his purpose.
Now your purpose must be independent of her love because if it was dependant on her love she could not flow with unconditional emotion without hurting you. She would feel how weak you are because you’re dependant on her love to operate, hence she can not trust your strength and she will develop her own masculine side to pick up your slack, in the process loose all respect for you and she will loose all her beauty and radiance that the Feminine Energy holds all because you could not bring masculine energy to the table.
No wonder she is not attracted to you.

The relationship you have with this woman is closer to a son and mother relationship than two passionate lovers.

[remoteguy]

thank you all friends.. but i actually know all of that.. and iam working on it.. but iam failinggg.... i dont know how to be independent.. and have that power i should have..

[tintin]

he would feel how weak you are because you’re dependant on her love to operate, hence she can not trust your strength and she will develop her own masculine side to pick up your slack, in the process loose all respect for you and she will loose all her beauty and radiance that the Feminine Energy holds all because you could not bring masculine energy to the table.
No wonder she is not attracted to you.

thanks mr A

[remoteguy]

yeah i got the idea .. but what iam facing now is how to rearrange the whole issue... and to restart with her inorder to gain that trust we are talking about, in a way that put me in a strong place regarding a real trustfull relation..