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Bella75 · 02-11-2009, 08:15 PM

Hello
I am new to this forum and have an ongoing family problem that I need some tips on how to cope with.
Basically my parents and i (I'm now 33) are always falling out. Every year almost without doubt we have a slight disagreement then I don't hear from them for months or maybe a year. I try and ring and write to them and I get no answer or my letter or presents returned. This is upsetting for me especially as it always seems to happen over xmas every year too. I've got to the stage now where I have rung them for four months and no answer and I have lost the heart to try again as I feel so upset when they dont answer the phone or write back to me.
I have also a sister I have not seen for 10 years because she doesnt get on with my parents and last year my parents gave me her new address and Im scared to try and contact her for fear of rejection and my parents also seem to expect me to resolve the problem between them and my sister. So this burden of their battle also prevents me from trying to contact her even though I would love to see her again.
I just wish I could have a nice family that got on with each other because I am missing one of my own. Most of the time I feel I have no family anymore
and just my husband and his of which I feel i am starting to resent through no fault of their own.
Can anyone give me some advice?
Many regards

Bella

azzyboo · 02-11-2009, 08:46 PM

Hi, I'm not good on advice but have a thoughts on your situation, your parents tbh if they treat you like this its their fault not yours, I would leave them to their own devices and focus on your own family, meaning your husband and you.
Instead of resenting your husbands family why not become part of theirs it might be fun.
As to your sister well tbh what have you got to lose by contacting her right now you have not spoken to her for 10 years, well if you do not contact her it could be another 10 anyway but if you do contact her then she may welcome the contact and if she doesn't then it would be back to the way it was as if you had not contacted her if that makes sense,
see I told you advice was not my strong point merely musing

Bella75 · 02-11-2009, 08:50 PM

Thankyou azzyboo i appreciate your helpful thoughts.

02-11-2009, 08:15 PM	#1 (permalink)
Bella75 Junior Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Posts: 12	Need some advice re my ongoing family problems please. Hello I am new to this forum and have an ongoing family problem that I need some tips on how to cope with. Basically my parents and i (I'm now 33) are always falling out. Every year almost without doubt we have a slight disagreement then I don't hear from them for months or maybe a year. I try and ring and write to them and I get no answer or my letter or presents returned. This is upsetting for me especially as it always seems to happen over xmas every year too. I've got to the stage now where I have rung them for four months and no answer and I have lost the heart to try again as I feel so upset when they dont answer the phone or write back to me. I have also a sister I have not seen for 10 years because she doesnt get on with my parents and last year my parents gave me her new address and Im scared to try and contact her for fear of rejection and my parents also seem to expect me to resolve the problem between them and my sister. So this burden of their battle also prevents me from trying to contact her even though I would love to see her again. I just wish I could have a nice family that got on with each other because I am missing one of my own. Most of the time I feel I have no family anymore and just my husband and his of which I feel i am starting to resent through no fault of their own. Can anyone give me some advice? Many regards Bella

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02-11-2009, 08:46 PM	#2 (permalink)
azzyboo Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 74	Hi, I'm not good on advice but have a thoughts on your situation, your parents tbh if they treat you like this its their fault not yours, I would leave them to their own devices and focus on your own family, meaning your husband and you. Instead of resenting your husbands family why not become part of theirs it might be fun. As to your sister well tbh what have you got to lose by contacting her right now you have not spoken to her for 10 years, well if you do not contact her it could be another 10 anyway but if you do contact her then she may welcome the contact and if she doesn't then it would be back to the way it was as if you had not contacted her if that makes sense, see I told you advice was not my strong point merely musing

02-11-2009, 08:50 PM	#3 (permalink)
Bella75 Junior Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Posts: 12	Thankyou azzyboo i appreciate your helpful thoughts.

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