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02-11-2009, 06:09 PM
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 |  I manifested lots of money; what about ex-love who I originally dumped... ?
Dear users; I've manifested lots of money following Steve Pavlina... Thank you so much... Soon I will donate some of them to Steve... Now I'll dare to manifest my another desire... But I need your help... I dumped my significant one two years ago... In addition to this, it's impossible for me to contact my ex-love again (We had furious quarrels; our relationship has a notorious past  )If this world is my creation, only a reflection of my mind, so organizing it properly, that is, solving my conflicts or reconciling with them, I can manifest my ex-love... How can I do that? Sincerely... |
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02-11-2009, 06:36 PM
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You sure you want to manifest your ex-love, with all its quarrels and notoriety? Maybe it would feel better and more powerful to focus on something that works better, like a relationship of the type you really desires, freeing yourself and the Universe to serve you up the right person, whether it's this particular person or someone else? Do you think that attachment (your sense of wanting to control, dominate, be right about, or have things your way) may have been part of what had you quarreling fury in your relationship? Do you think that if you were willing to let that go, whatever it is, it would make a positive difference in your romantic relationship, again whether it's with this particular person or someone else? And finally, love is not something you have to manifest or wait for -- it's an emotional state that you can be Right Now, if you choose it. |
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02-11-2009, 06:55 PM
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Dear Angela; Thank you for your reply... I'm really not an obsessive person nor have I tendency for dominating the Reality. I transcended those type of pitfalls (maybe in the past I was like that )I think that I understand the LoA properly (It is evident that it's worked for me; I made lots of money )For now, I'm single... So I thought, one or two days ago, that I wanted to fall in love again (or maybe wanted to find it again)... And there is a special person who I never forgot... Because of my mistakes (mainly), our relationship broke into pieces  Suddenly I realized (or, especially after I've understood Steve's LoA interpretation and consequently "myself", I assumed) that I'm not that person any longer... So there is no obsession inside; I only "peacefully" want the Right Person (my ex-love )Is it wrong? |
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02-11-2009, 08:49 PM
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First question you need to ask yourself - what do you really want to manifest? Your ex coming back? Or do you want to bring fulfillment in the area of relationships into your life? The latter is much more likely to make you happier. Don't limit the possibilities so awkwardly, there are hundreds of thousands of people on earth that have the potential of making you happy. How do you do that? Describe how your perfect partner would be in every detail, physically, mentally and spiritually. Describe his/her hobbies, career, level of fitness - basically everything. The more the better. When you hold the intention, go through the list and at the end always add "or something even better" to it. This tends to keep the possibilities wider.
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02-11-2009, 09:56 PM
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Dear Ralph; Thank you for your reply... I'm really not an obsessive person (maybe in the past I was like that ) I think that I understand the LoA properly (It is evident that it's worked for me; I made lots of money ) For now, I'm single... So I thought, one or two days ago, that I wanted to fall in love again (or maybe wanted to find it again)... And there is a special person who I never forgot... Because of my mistakes (mainly), our relationship broke into pieces Suddenly I realized (or, especially after I've understood Steve's LoA interpretation and consequently "myself", I assumed) that I'm not that person any longer... So there is no obsession inside; I only "peacefully" want the Right Person (my ex-love ) Is it wrong? |
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02-12-2009, 01:37 AM
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You shouldn't try to attract a specific person into your life. First of all that person has her own destiny and desires that you don't know about. Plus why would you want to limit yoruself so much, there might be someone so much better for you out there. What I think works much better is vizualizing the particular relationship and feelings you want to attract. Vizualizing someone who will answer all of your emotional, spiritual and physical needs. After you get that, it won't really matter if you got it with that particular woman or someone else.
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02-12-2009, 03:25 AM
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Hmm...interesting! I wouldn't say there is anything wrong with manifesting a particular person as far as our intentions are genuine and harmless to the other person. I believe in letting the universe decide if its right for me or not. If you 100% without any doubt believe in your wish then the universe will certainly grant that to you. By manifesting any particular person you are not controlling their destiny either. In matters of love I believe that "If it's meant to be it will happen, just give your complete effort and attention to what you desire."
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02-12-2009, 03:47 AM
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Sounds like your ego wants to take another crack at it  If you are now the space for love, then that space will be filled, going back to a relationship that was based on egoic self concern may work, but the ego is a mighty strong factor and I wouldn't be surprised if it didn't work again. If your ego ruled supreme in that relationship and now you have your ego aligned with peace and acceptnce, I'd suspect the reunited relationship dynamic would be so different, you would notice a massive change and see it as not being the perfect relationship you thought it could truly become. I'm no expert, but if you are now the space for love, then see if you can fill that space with another, rather than one with such a strong personal history. Just my 10 cents  Judge | |
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02-12-2009, 09:02 AM
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Perfectly okay to want something. Just don't assume that you need her to be happy. Manifest what you want as a whole and fulfilled person
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02-12-2009, 10:00 AM
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How do you know that your ex is the right person? What will you do when she turns out different from the idealized version of her that exists in your mind? Do you realize that's an inevitable possibility? Quote:
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02-12-2009, 04:19 PM
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if you teach me and I manifest it too, I'll donate some of it to you! | |
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02-12-2009, 05:23 PM
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Thank you for the replies... Actually, I want to learn in what circumstances LoA allows ex-loves to come together... Is it forbidden? This is my world; my reflection... I've read all the posts that Steve has written for appr. 4 years... I've drastically changed my consciousness after that, to such a degree that, I "peacefully" want whatever I want... So after my transformation (enlightment), I got that my thoughts (vibration) was congruent with my ex-love vibration... I want to ask again... In the LoA system, is it prohibited to manifest ex-loves? AND, wouldn't it be nice to consider this manifestation as a real proof (experience) for the LoA (and subjective reality belief system)? What type of mood (vibration) is neccesary to manifest ex-love? This is my main question... 'Cause I have no doubt about the LoA... Dear MacFly; At first I started to find money on the ground... I followed Steve's doctrines properly and faithfully... Some kind of miracles started to happen... Opportunities... Courage... Extra money... There were a lot of them... And soon, I gonna become free from the capitalist system Trust yourself... I want to ask again: What type of mood (vibration) is neccesary to manifest ex-love? This is my main question... 'Cause I have no doubt about the LoA... Sincerely... |
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02-12-2009, 05:30 PM
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I think this falls under "manifesting for others". Often people want to get back because in their time apart, they forget about all the things that drove them away from each other, and begin to only idealize the other and see the other person in their best light. Then they get back together and pretty quickly it's clear that the same problems are there, and the people are the same people. If you loved him that much and he was that good for you, you wouldn't have 'vibrated' OUT of each other's experience. I agree with Angela, why would you want to return to the drama? Unless you miss the drama. The fact that he won't take your calls probably helps in that department.  Last edited by cylon; 02-12-2009 at 05:32 PM. |
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02-12-2009, 05:53 PM
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Dear cylon; Thank you for the reply... You say "OFTEN" people want to get back............... What if this is a RARE situation in which two people come together again? I saw a lot of miracles... I want to see again... I don't ask whether it is POSSIBLE OR NOT... OR RIGHT OR WRONG... This is my universe... I ask HOW (CAN I DO THAT)? Thank you in advance for your advices... They would be welcomed... |
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02-12-2009, 06:17 PM
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What I don't hear you saying is: How could I be the sort of person that would be a great vibrational match for my ex-love? What could I be generating that would be welcoming and beneficial to that person, and what could I let go of that didn't or doesn't work well? Instead, everything you've said so far in this matter is about what YOU want and what YOU intend to *get* or *have* of or from this person. That vibration doesn't feel like warm arms, or respectful conservatorship, or generosity. It doesn't feel inviting to me; it feels repulsive. One way that repellant vibe shows up is in your canned responses and apparent "deafness" to questions and statements in this thread -- it's as if you are deleting anything that comes your way that doesn't match what your existing experience. In your love life, that vibration is one that GUARANTEES that you will continue to keep receiving what you have always received -- that is, the ex-love is an ex-love. In other words, you are ALREADY NOW manifesting what you are in vibration for: you said it yourself: you want an ex-love. You've got an ex-love. If that's not really what you want, then figure out what it is that you DO want, and make an adjustment. My feeling is that you are very resistant to making an internal adjustment, and that you prefer that others do the adjusting. So my advice to you as to the mood or vibration that would make a difference here? Surrender and Acceptance. Let something in. | |
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02-12-2009, 06:24 PM
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Have you initiated any contact with your ex? I've heard of people getting together again many years later after a breakup. Are you focused on getting her back into your life, or allowing a space for her to be back in your life? Look at your intentions. Are your intentions flowing love and possibility and new patterns going forward? If you fall into old patterns you will create the same old dramas. Be the love you want to see in your life. |
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02-12-2009, 06:27 PM
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Dear Angela; Thank you for your advice... The following sentence of yours is really injustice :"My feeling is that you are very resistant to making an internal adjustment" Before I started this thread, I REALLY intended to learn my own conflicts and be guided by experienced users... I DIDN'T intend to delete or filter unmatched ideas... I'm ready to change... Like Steve, believe me, I'm very adept at changing Could you please expose some details of Surrender and Acceptance in regard to my situation?... Thank you so much... |
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02-12-2009, 06:53 PM
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For instance, noticing that you immediately feel what I said about what I feel is injustice. As if it means something about you. Notice that having that button pushed filtered out everything else I had to say to you, and that also appears to have happened with what others have said to you here. My guess is that you probably did this with your ex-love, too -- that your ex didn't feel heard the way (s)he wanted to be heard -- resisted, in other words. Surrender and Acceptance might involve taking on: "Hmm, let me look boldly for where what this person is saying actually DOES live inside me." It might take some real courage to do this, because your first instinct might be to say, "oh, no, no, no, I'm really quite flexible and not at all controlling." You might want to practice listening to us here from a position of being willing to try on our perspectives, and see how things look from there, minus resistance. Then try on some new frames for how your ex might look at things, and see what new information is available to you. Loosen up, and practice letting go of your resistance. | |
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02-12-2009, 08:48 PM
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Dear Realization Seeker Here is something practical: http://lovetactics.com/winbacksystem.php My Sister used it, bought the book, underlined half of it, at what I thought was a dead end relationship And guess what? They are getting married tomorrow morning!! Best of Luck to you |
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02-12-2009, 09:10 PM
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Dear danas, I've already used it; but it didn't work or I couldn't apply it properly... The worst thing that I face, now I can't contact with my ex again... We lost the communication... Actually my ex disappeared Lovetactics stipulate that you are in contact with ex... I need something beyond the restrictions of physics (LoA )I keep meditating to understand my inner self... |
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02-12-2009, 09:32 PM
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In that case I think firstly you have to let this go. Because part of the law of attraction is What we push away- comes to us. Thats just the way it works. What do you want now? Pleasure? Create pleasure. Have fun! Love? Give love, be love, love yourself. I personally was trying to attract someone specific until a few days ago- All this wanting- It was too much for both of us. Now Im taking a break from wanting him, and also from contacting him, and from constantly worrying about where this is going. it wasnt fun! so I decided to work on being a vibrational match for the love I want. Not the person, but the loving relationship I wish to experience... Let it go for a while, work on your vibration, and then in a month or so call her up. And be ready to accept a rejection, trusting that the best thing for you is on its way! Dont let her block you from getting it |
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02-12-2009, 10:46 PM
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Confidence, confidence, confidence. Re-read Steve's blog post on 'desire.' Think of the ways in which you manifested money and apply them toward winning this relationship back. If you and she are no longer a vibrational match then you won't come together again. Like others have said don't be attached, visualize, focus on what you want; so maybe you will manifest this relationship again in a more harmonious way or something better. Trust that the universe is ALWAYS working in your favor as it did with manifesting your wealth. If you can have financial wealth there is no reason you cannot have an abundance of love in your life whether it is from this woman or someone else or many people for that matter. Just do not be attached. Just trust you will have what you desire in its most superior form and wish all the best for her.
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02-13-2009, 08:20 AM
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Dear users; I meditated on myself and got some insighs into my own conflicts... I didn't trust my ex originally. My ex was very moddy, out of imbalance and always talking about cheating On the other, my ex was exotic due to her colourful character which I was really attracted to... I didn't have confidence enough... I used to say "She gonna cheat me; she is not trustworthy etc." So eventually we broke up... My doubts were really rational (She was highly moody)... But now, I really have great confidence in myself; I'm also almost fearless... Now I understand, I want her because of her colourful character... And I can handle with her mood changes since I know that If I beleive in myself, everyone believes in me and no one can hurt me... Compared to my past self, right now I vibrate differently; I'm free and fearless... Does it mean that I can attract her back? Sincerely... |
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02-13-2009, 01:15 PM
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I am not sure from whom I heard this but definitely on this site for sure... If you manifested a person who was your "ideal" match but the timing or chemistry was off, relax. It means there is someone else out there like her. I have had to let go of someone who is very dear to me because of her situation. I really care deeply for her but the relationship as we both seem to want is inappropriate. I know that because I have met someone who I can feel that for and have the chemistry with like I do it gives me great faith that I can find her equal or someone even MORE suited for me. Anything is possible here..I can only movee on this by doing what causes the least amount of pain for her and I .I suspect that this is true for you as well. Just because it seemed like it was good, and you have changed does not mean that it will be good now. I suggest letting go of the idea altogether(Not easy I know)and letting the universe decide. If it is meant to be, it WILL be. Have faith in it the same way you had faith while manifesting money. I have found that every single girl I have been with has been right at the time, but now, none of them would make any sense for me to be with..Of course one never knows what may happen...It may end up that someone from the past shows up and it clicks but I cannot rest my hat on it. There are 3.5 billion women in the world.. Thats a lot. My $.25
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02-13-2009, 01:47 PM
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Dear garentee; Thank you so much for your perspective... I have made miracles and want to make 'em again... (in the area of relationships)... I try to understand what mental conditions is most appropriate to manifest it... You say LETTİNG GO OF HER... You and others seem right... I will try to let go of the idea(l)... I want to share the result with you... I think "manifesting specific person" is more important than "unspecific but appropiate vibrational love" The latter is good for an LoA practitioner; but the former is miracle... I want to chase after miracles... I want to kill dragons, raise up forests... Sincerely... |
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The author apparently manifested her former love coming back into her life _and_ a new love who was seemingly a better match. Good luck and best wishes, Apollia
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02-13-2009, 09:23 PM
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I am sure if you managed to attract this girl once into your life you can do it countless times, in the end she might only exists in your reality. Pay no attention to naysayers, millions of couples break up and many of them got back together at a later date. How? By intending it, it makes them feel good imaging themselves with their former half so it comes as second nature having loving thoughts, no conspiracy, no conjuring, no LOA formulas, just the natural process of missing someone and wanting him/her back. It happens that here we call it using LOA, but in the real world people unaware of this law bring people into their life again and again just by intending it and nobody question their choice.
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