Loss of physical attraction to men

[Parthon]

Cool, what are you doing in your life to bring them into existance around you?

[Happybird]

Originally Posted by smilingaway

I found the part about women being attracted to more dominant men interesting. My boyfriend is not as outspoken as me and tends to hold back when it comes to vocalizing complaints/irritations/thoughts. I discussed this with him tonight and i found it helpful. He realizes that he needs to be more of the dominant man that is attractive to me. Instead of always letting me pick the resturant, he needs to tell me where he wants to go and that we should go there.

Aye, it's something I am working on myself, which is probably the reason I brought it up in the first place. I suppose it is more a matter of him building confidence and standing up for himself, than trying to "play" being a dominant macho.

Originally Posted by smilingaway

While I appreciate your thoughts about sex before marriage, I believe it is better to wait. It's something I have been committed to doing since I was a teenager and I want to stay committed to this goal of mine. But it has crossed my mind and my boyfriend and I have discussed it many of times.

Of course, by all means do as you feel right. Personally, I do not believe in marriage before sex since I consider sexuality an important part of a love relationship, a part I certainly would want to explore with a woman before I would marry her. Funny how people come to different ideas about things like this :-D


Good luck with your relationship-improvements!

[jaamkie]

did you consider maybe the therapy was helping and you had lost some of your desire to control, or got comfortable with your bf as an equal human, not a challenge to be teased and submitted to and controlled? If you've had an unhealthy sexual past, a period with a lack of interest might be part of your path to healthy sexuality in the future...? I'd focus on whatever else you want to do with your life, being healthy and independent, and let it come back when the time is right- particularly if you don't plan to have sex before marriage, I don't see the point of avoiding other issues by fussing about lowered sex drive. Though I agree with everyone else on here, if your body seems out of whack, check with a dr; and forums are not gonna give you the same attention as a therapist of some kind (have you ever considered a "life coach" who could help you make progress in life without having to diagnose you as having a particular psychological "issue"? cos I agree I've gone to therapists who seem content to just keep churning through the past when too much focusing on the past is part of what causes my depression.)