I do not like parties or nightclubs

[JE Gonzalez]

I always feel uncomfortable, and even when I enjoy myself I want to get out of there as soon as I can. My question is, how do I negotiate the part terrain, when it is necessary? I have no problem introducing myself or meeting some interesting people, nor I have never made a good friend at a party.

I'm just looking for a few pointers to make it more tolerable for a guy who prefers to sit at home and read a good book, watch a good movie or play a great videogame.

[dulaney0330]

I can empathize. I feel uncomfortable at parties and nightclubs, mainly because I hardly go. I bet if you went once a week for a year, you would feel more comfortable.

I have never been much of a party-goer and I don't care for clubs anyway. I think its a good thing that you are more of an introvert. Too often, doing "fun things" seems to involve clubbing and whatnot, so its to hear that you are different.

If you want to change, simply go to parties and clubs more often. Generally, the more you do something the more comfortable it is.

[Emaaki]

But when you have practiced being someone who loves a good book, or video game, well, I have especially practiced improving my mind from learning new things, those things can become boring anyway. (Clubs and parties)

Its a sad fact for me. I wish i wouldn't become bored with parties and clubs, but I just know that there are so much more interesting things that I could b doing.

[Eric Roosevelt]

Try explaining to your friends that you just don't like parties that much. Don't go to parties or nightclubs if you don't want to. If you do end up at one, the best thing to do is to relax and just be yourself. Don't have any expectations of it, just sort of dance around and see what happens. Seek out other people at the party who seem the most compatible with your style of partying. I'm no expert on this myself, but I figured this may be a good idea. Don't expect to have any fun at parties, just sort of let loose and take things as they come.

[Daffy Duck]

I'm the same way. I've been to clubs and parties with a bunch of strangers, but I have always seem to preferred to hang out with a smaller group of friends.

Clubs are like peanut butter. Not everyone likes it, and that's okay.

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Originally Posted by JE Gonzalez

My question is, how do I negotiate the part terrain, when it is necessary?

I'm just looking for a few pointers to make it more tolerable for a guy who prefers to sit at home and read a good book, watch a good movie or play a great videogame.

My question would be why is it ever necessary? I don't like clubs or parties either, so I just don't go .

[Annabelle]

It is very nice to learn there are others like me! Many years ago, while I was sweating and breathing everybody´s cigarrette smoke, I just vowed never to go back to a night club. And I haven´t.

[enyi]

Heh, so there are a bunch of us!

At one time I too dreaded parties. One day I just say to hell with it, and now I don't care what people think of me as I don't go to parties of any kind.

What I did do when I "had" to go to a party, was trying to have fun. Freak the hell out of other guests, that's fun

What do you prefer? Stay at home and learn something interesting? Read a good book? Play a good videogame? Get a good night's rest? or Smell cigars, see drunk silly people (sometimes fun I'll admit), staying up late, and be bored to death?

I'd love if people did parties where you actually did something productive and fun, like share experiences about a specific subject, play interesting games, discuss an interesting subject over a board game, watch and discuss a movie... even dance if you like that. But staying up late along with the other stuff related to "normal" parties? No.

I'd throw a party like this if I knew people who wouldn't look me weird for thinking like this way...

[transientmisfit]

Change the kind of party you go too. I hate loud, overcrowded, hot and stuffy places. I used to go anyways thinking it would get easier. Then I started going to parties where it was a group of people that get along, playing different games and having a few drinks. It's much more enjoyable then a room full of strangers acting dumb. I say try a new scene.

[Annabelle]

Once, I went to the ideal party. There were only twelve of us, we drank beer and wine, ate some cheese and bread. Started talking about how society should be organized and lots of stuff regarding how to live better. Two of the friends knew how to sing, another one had a guitar. suddenly, it was daybreak and we were really hungry, so we made breakfast. It was the best party ever. I was living in Mexico at the time, so I never saw all these people again.

[zoner7]

I can completely sympathize with you. I find it so hard to talk to people at clubs. Part of my issue is that I simply don't like the dancing.

Just go with a good friend. Talk to him for a bit. The best way to meet people, in my opinion, is simply to walk up to a random group of people and introduce yourself. Do it with your friend. Now, make sure you don't pick the wrong group of people... you easily do this. Simply look for a few girls or guys that look bored themselves and say hi. It gets easy after you get into the conversation.

If you decide that you don't like the people that you met, just tell them you need to go. Then repeat the process until you meet some people that have common interests as you and that you can enjoy talking to.