Soulmates...

[justwanttobeme]

Hi again,

It's sort of linked to my previous thread, however, i thought it might be an interesting topic to talk about?

Do you believe in Soulmates? Can you only actually say 'my soulmate is/was' when you're old and look back at the r'ships you've had? Can anyone explain what a soulmate is? Is it a spiritual connection with someone? Is it an experience of ultimate chemistry? I'm not talking about attraction as such, but a mixture of emotional connection, attraction and spiritual connection?

Happy to discuss!

[Eric Roosevelt]

If I may add some questions of my own, is it possible to consciously acquire a soulmate, or is it just something that develops by itself over time?

Also, must these very close connections be reserved for one or two people, or is it possible to have an infinite number of soulmates?

I don't really know the answers myself.

[ssandra]

Hi,

I believe in soul mates. I am married to mine.

How I know? Since the moment we have met we knew that we would be together, eventhough we both (me a bit more than him) tried to find excuses not to make it work.

In the beginning when I tried to get away from him (break up) it actually physically hurt me. Not only as if my heart was ripped out, but also as if all the nerve endings on my skin hurted...

Now, I don't try to get away from him anymore, but even thinking about getting away from him gets me the same feeling.

As well; since the beginning I have known what he was feeling even when he didn't admit to himself. If he is nervous about something I know, and I know about what. I feel him.

He feels me as well, when i am feeling something that i do not want to admit yet, often he askes "why are you feeling ..."

It is good to be with my soul mate.

I do believe you can have more than 1 or that sometimes it is better to be great friends than lovers with your soul mate.

Anybody else together with their soulmate?

[Bradshaw]

Do you believe in Soulmates? Can you only actually say 'my soulmate is/was' when you're old and look back at the r'ships you've had? Can anyone explain what a soulmate is? Is it a spiritual connection with someone? Is it an experience of ultimate chemistry? I'm not talking about attraction as such, but a mixture of emotional connection, attraction and spiritual connection?

"Oh my god! She is my destined Soulmate and my happiness and well-being depend completely on her. I am a mighty and powerful slave of her thoughts and actions. Roar. Resistance is futile. I shall suffer in the name of my limiting belief. I need you forever and always. Free will? Bah!"

Soulmates are overrated. Even if you have one.

Even if you have a soulmate and even if there is some spiritual contract that binds you together and makes you feel all mushy in each others presence, and even if the universe nudges you into each other's direction, the fact remains that when you believe someone is "the one", you are basically going to see nothing else. You have free will. The world is abundant with women. Don't try so hard that you scare her.

That being said, my soulmate is incredible. It's like one big deja vu. And we're just friends. I feel like i'm looking into a mirror. Awawa.

If I may add some questions of my own, is it possible to consciously acquire a soulmate.

Yes. Absolutely. If you attempt to attract a soulmate, then you will.

[always loved]

Here is what it is like for my soulmate and I. every day and all the time.YES it's real and there is nothing like it!


There is a powerful, instantaneous feeling that you have known the other before.
You felt an immediate and deep connection for one another.

There is an electrifying feeling between the two of you that words cannot describe.
The relationship is immediate, as though no time had been lost since you were last together.
It feels as though you had never really lived before the reunion occurred.
You feel a deep sense of sacredness and unity that you've have never known before.
It brings on feelings you never thought possible.
The two of you wish to be inseparable.
When you look into each other's eyes, time and space have no meaning.
There are no barriers between the two of you. The relationship is a totally open one.
Your conversations seem to go on forever.
The two of you have a strong urge to serve eachother in a deep and meaningful way.
You give to the other and never think of receiving in return.
There is a special sacredness to your relationship that transcends anything you've ever experienced before.
If you still have karma with your soulmate from previous lives, the two of you resolve it all with total forgiveness and unconditional love.
Neither one of you are dependent on the other for your sense of self.
There is a strong sense of unlimitedness eternity to your feelings.
Your feelings for each other are very spiritual.
There are no restrictions within the relationship. All is freedom without the need for ownership or control.
The two of you know without doubt that you have been brought together for a reason.
You do not compete with one another nor do you pretend to be other than who you are.
In spite of your sameness, there is no doubt you feel a sense of completion through the other.

Trust, patience and acceptance of each other's weaknesses happen automatically.
There is a great sense of purpose and meaning to the relationship.
Your sexuality with one another is a sacred act that celebrates the unconditional love you have for one another.
The two of you become more and more one, without losing your individual identities.
When you look into the other's eyes, you see yourself.
You experience a sense of completeness that is without comparison.
The degree of intimacy and friendship the two of you develop is without parallel.

[drakecatz]

I went to Ramtha's "soulmates intensive" in the 80's. 800 plus people were there in Seattle WA.

He spoke about the split. When the 1 became 2, male and female.

He said that most of us weren't evolved enough to be with our true soulmate. But if we are we will experience the highest highs and the lowest lows. And yes it is the deepest, grandest love there is on earth. And many times soulmates are not able to be together or stay together.

Is it true? Felt like it, and it was a great 2 days. I do believe I was with mine in the 80's, and no other love has come close to this one. And no, we are not together today.

always loved says it all in her post. Amazing love for sure.

I also believe we have many soul friends that make wonderful love relationships.

A strong likeminded joyful deepthful respectful fun fullfilling relationship is my answer to the soulmate issue. Who could ask for more?

[pyrogen]

I think of soulmates as a particular relationship/chemistry model. There are all kinds of relationships and each of these is satisfying to its proponents.

"Soulmate chemistry" seems to describe those couples who stumble into each other while being fortunate enough to have enough common language and rapport that breaking the ice is very easy, there is an instant feeling of things "gelling", and you have a lot of stuff in common with them.

It doesn't mean anything you don't want it to mean. Because you can get f***ed and left by your soulmate. One person's soulmate is another person's "gee, she's just this nice girl". Especially if the other person is someone who is very gregarious and has no trouble meeting any number of people who feel like their "soulmates".

[HappyLuckyOne]

Originally Posted by Bradshaw

The world is abundant with women. Don't try so hard that you scare her.

I agree with Bradshaw. Those who read this forum are certain kind of people (smart people ), however, don't try too hard with all the "theories" in our head that we forget to feel with our heart. Live the moments, feel the person. Don't over emphasize on "is he/she my soulmate" ... do not over analyse... just my thought

[brendannz]

Originally Posted by HappyLuckyOne

I agree with Bradshaw. Those who read this forum are certain kind of people (smart people ), however, don't try too hard with all the "theories" in our head that we forget to feel with our heart. Live the moments, feel the person. Don't over emphasize on "is he/she my soulmate" ... do not over analyse... just my thought

Yep, agreed.. Get to know her first then say she's your soulmate looking back..

[Maxwell Jennings]

If there is a spiritual aspect to reality, then technically, we're all soulmates with each other since we're all from the same energy or we're all children from the same source or creative force, however you want to describe it. If there is a spiritual aspect, is there such a state where we are ultimately partnered with only one other person -- twin flames, so to speak? If reincarnation is real, are we always given the opportunity to pair up with our twin flame and what drives that mechanism?

What if there is no spiritual aspect to anything? If that turns out to be the case, then the concept of ultimate pairing is simply a human created state of mind.

High compatibility and genuine caring for each other elicits feelings of being superbly connected on at least mental and emotional levels with a partner. We can feel completely connected to an intimate partner, to family members, friends, and even pets. However, those feelings can change and we may find ourselves feeling a closer connection to someone else or to no one.

[sk8joyful]

Always loved said:
"Your conversations seem to go on forever.
The two of you have a strong urge to serve eachother in a deep and meaningful way.
The two of you know without doubt that you have been brought together for a reason.
There is a great sense of purpose and meaning to the relationship.
You do not compete with one another. nor do you pretend to be other than who you are.
There is a strong sense of unlimited eternity to your feelings."

All these are true.

"Trust, patience and acceptance of each other's weaknesses happen automatically." <- not that, yet!

[aggie]

i have been told we can have more than one soulmate...i am inclined to believe that that is true.

i believe we can have very strong bonds with people that can be called soul bonds...some of these are not always healthy...i experienced this and even so far as to go try to go thru a spiritual cleansing to rid myself of what was termed then as a "soul-tie."

but, even though we both felt we were soulmates...i finally broke away, as painful as it was. i am very happy with the mate in life i have now and feel we were meant to be. but i still think there was a bond between me and the other person that haunts me, which i don't like...but try to put it in perspective and not interfere with my life.

[MidasGirl]

I think your soulmate is whoever you decide it to be. Obviously someone who meets your criteria for all the things that cause you to feel deeply connected with another human being.

Your beliefs determine your reality. So there will always be an abundance of soul mates. As far as romantic partner soul mates go, most of us can only handle one at a time though...........

I don't believe in soul mates from the perspective of only one person whom you were predestined to be with. But that's just me.......we choose. All the time.

[Daffy Duck]

I don't know. It's a nice idea, though.

[devildawgette]

This is the most beautiful descripton, thank you. I can wait to share this with my soulmate tonight.