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Old 01-22-2009, 10:59 PM   #1 (permalink)
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Is it possible to call yourself polyamorous even when you're not in a relationship? The fact that you're open for the possibility of having more than one partner at a time is enough, right?
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It is absolutely possible to be self-identified as polyamorous when you are currently unpartnered! Many poly people will take time to concentrate on other projects (school, parenting, solidifying current relationship) and not be focused in the least in on adding any new people to the fold.
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Of course! If you have more than one close, deep, meaningful friendship, you're already 100% polyamorous.
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Yes, it's called solo polyamory.
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Yes, it's called solo polyamory.
Or called being a player......depending on who you ask -_-
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^Exactly what I was gonna say. It's called being a player, or a manwhore. Or a slut.
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^Exactly what I was gonna say. It's called being a player, or a manwhore. Or a slut.
Now now... no need to get Puritanical.

Else we have to refer to wives as property to be fair.
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Here's what I've figured out based on my lurking the poly conversations...

In my observation:

Polyamorous does not equal promiscuous. Being poly and single doesn't mean you're sleeping with anyone. It seems to me like most polies negotiate their sex life with others as much as the more conservative of single people who still have sex before marriage (but insist on "a relationship" first).
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Being poly and single doesn't mean you're sleeping with anyone.
Thanks, that's what I was about to ask after reading the other replies.
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Is it possible to call yourself polyamorous even when you're not in a relationship? The fact that you're open for the possibility of having more than one partner at a time is enough, right?
Yes, right. Of course that's possible. It simply means that you're open to have several partners simultaneously. You can have zero partners or one partner and still be polyamorous.

It also probably means that you won't enter a relationship with someone who insists on having a monogamous relationship. Unless you're ready to give up being polyamorous to enter a relationship with this person, of course.
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Is it possible to call yourself polyamorous even when you're not in a relationship? The fact that you're open for the possibility of having more than one partner at a time is enough, right?
If you think you are then you are. ^^, Just be a responsible poly person.
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Can one be a musician if they aren't playing anything?
Some people are born with a natural ability as a musician; some develop the skills, but both are musicians regardless of whether or not they are currently playing.
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