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01-21-2009, 02:35 AM
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 |  Increased social anxiety with age?
has any one else experienced this? over the last 2 years, I've realized that I have a harder time around new people/new experiences. These days I just feel awkward around people I'm not close to and i don't know how to get over that. It's hampering every realm of my life, and I'd like to get a grip on it. Does anyone have any advice for improving your social skills in your mid 20's? I am really embarrassed about it-- I've been trying to just get out there, and force myself to go to parties and such, but it only shows my ineptitude more. I'm feeling like staying at home and not having to be confronted with it every time I'm out. Does anyone have any tips for this? |
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01-21-2009, 04:59 AM
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I've noticed that social anxiety's gotten worse with me the older I get. If you're forcing yourself to go out there and its still not getting better or in your case getting worse, than just stay in. Not everyone has to be social.
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01-21-2009, 05:10 AM
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I don't think that should be the case at all. I think social interactions will change as you age, but it shouldn't be "difficult." I think that if we run into a social stumbling block in our youth and we fail to push through it it becomes larger and larger as we get older, because the more experience you have with failing to do something, the harder it is. For example, if in middle school you stood on the side of the dance floor during dances and never got out there, it's going to be 10x harder when you're 23 and people are dancing. So, the barriers are still there, and it is still very possible to push through them, but they get bigger and bigger as you get older.
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01-21-2009, 06:39 AM
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For me, I go to these social events and focus my thoughts in positive aspects of the environment and people and be appreciative of them and smile. And things will natually flow smoothly. Remember in any event: It's not about you. Just enjoy and have fun and take things easy. |
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