Lingering Unhealthy Connection

[straysweeper]

As I seem to find myself in a better place, I find myself remembering someone from my past whom didn't treat me very well. I understand I had a lot ot learn and this connection didn't do me well, but I have felt an impulse to write to them of late as not enjoying how things ended. While having this thought I remembered how connected and attracted to this person I was, and in a way still am. I find that I haven't full let go, and I want to now.

I know I still care for them, otherwise I don't think I'd think of them a year later. Usually others can hate the ones that do them wrong, but when I'm at my best, hate isn't for people, it is for events. I want to let this go and grow beyond this, and also, not to be attracted to them anymore. In many ways I have felt that they were a soul mate, due to the intensity of the connection and at other times, I've considered them to be a sociopath and pathological liar. Hence why this isn't good for me.

Anyone know of methods or ways to tie this up?