Rude negative people at work

[Riddle]

What's the best way to deal with rude negative people in the work environment, who constasntly criticize, belittle and moan about things?

I feel trapped in a negative environment. I work part-time to help fund my education, but I feel like a prisoner. The staff are uneducated and immature. Even the managers are no better. They're rude and devious, they expect you to bend over backwards to help them out, yet they're unwilling to give you any of their time.

I'm about acceptance and encouragement, but lots of other employees (including managers) never have a nice word to say, it's always an insult or criticism. Is this normal in the workplace? Should I just try to ignore it?

[jaamkie]

It can be "normal"- there's so much variation in workplace vibes, and only so much any one person can do to change them- even management. I work in IT consulting, where they hire great people, but work them to the point of burnout, so there's a certain sympathy when a coworker develops a frustrated negative exhausted attitude.

I'd say, if you're not happy and can do better elsewhere, then move on; if you're not sure if you could do better, at least look around- either you'll make a change, or you'll see enough to realize the grass isn't always greener. Anyway try not to take it personally regardless- probably the people are no worse than average and some would be fun friends if you'd gotten to know them in that context. Instead you're spending time with fellow-prisoners who probably don't want to be there any more than you do, and are probably taking it out on anyone they can. Try to drop the expectation that all coworkers should be your best buddy- nice if it happened, but you're thrown together at random, you may or may not click, and it isn't the point of the relationship. On the other hand, do stick up for yourself to demand basic decency, respect, and professionalism- no matter what the stresses, you have a right not to be abused.

[Riddle]

Originally Posted by jaamkie

Try to drop the expectation that all coworkers should be your best buddy- nice if it happened

It wouldn't be nice, I don't want to be best buddies with these people. I only want to be treated with respect and common courtesy.

[JGrace]

Originally Posted by Riddle

What's the best way to deal with rude negative people in the work environment, who constasntly criticize, belittle and moan about things?

I feel trapped in a negative environment. I work part-time to help fund my education, but I feel like a prisoner. The staff are uneducated and immature. Even the managers are no better. They're rude and devious, they expect you to bend over backwards to help them out, yet they're unwilling to give you any of their time.

I'm about acceptance and encouragement, but lots of other employees (including managers) never have a nice word to say, it's always an insult or criticism. Is this normal in the workplace? Should I just try to ignore it?

might want to read this
What is a NARCISSIST? « Flourishing In Crisis

[Riddle]

Originally Posted by JGrace

might want to read this
What is a NARCISSIST? « Flourishing In Crisis

Why? Nice poem, but how does it help?

[AO1]

Simple solution.


Stop working there. You're the one who chooses where you work.

[Angela]

We can't see anything other than who we really are.

[SimonaRich]

Originally Posted by Riddle

What's the best way to deal with rude negative people in the work environment, who constasntly criticize, belittle and moan about things?

I feel trapped in a negative environment. I work part-time to help fund my education, but I feel like a prisoner. The staff are uneducated and immature. Even the managers are no better. They're rude and devious, they expect you to bend over backwards to help them out, yet they're unwilling to give you any of their time.

I'm about acceptance and encouragement, but lots of other employees (including managers) never have a nice word to say, it's always an insult or criticism. Is this normal in the workplace? Should I just try to ignore it?

If you see rude people around you (even if it is at work) it means that you still have negativity in you. If you let go of all the negativity you will not be able to spot negativity in others.

Negative people would never surround you if you are completely positive. As you are still negative, you are a vibrational match for everyone that has the negativity as their dominating attitude.

Try to focus your attention on positive things and try to see good in others instead of concentrating on what is wrong with them.

Separation is the cause that keeps you searching for negative trends in others.

When you understand that we are all the same consciousness, you will start looking for good features in everyone and traits that connect us.

Keep working on your personal development and if you keep at it you will eventually let go of all the negativity. All the problems will dissapear as they were never there in the first place.

[dwixi]

Originally Posted by Angela

We can't see anything other than who we really are.

Couldn't you just answer any question that is put on the forum with that?

[Angela]

Originally Posted by dwixi

Couldn't you just answer any question that is put on the forum with that?

Pretty much. Probably not the stuff about how to make brown rice. But yes, if you're complaining, if you really want someone else to change, the most effective path to satisfaction and fulfillment is to notice that you're looking in a mirror. When you change yourself, the image in the mirror looks different.

[SimonaRich]

Originally Posted by Angela

Pretty much. Probably not the stuff about how to make brown rice. But yes, if you're complaining, if you really want someone else to change, the most effective path to satisfaction and fulfillment is to notice that you're looking in a mirror. When you change yourself, the image in the mirror looks different.

That is very true. I answered it in the same way just with more words

[geekchic9]

Originally Posted by Angela

We can't see anything other than who we really are.

Mind if I make this my sig, with proper credit?

[LifeHawk]

Originally Posted by Angela

We can't see anything other than who we really are.

Angela as bright as usual. I don't know her, yet I'm madly in love with her.

Originally Posted by AO1

Stop working there. You're the one who chooses where you work.

Very true. You have the choice here. You will never change those people, so you can change yourself, or get a new job. But also remember that you will always encounter these types of people everywhere you go....until you make the change within.

[Riddle]

Originally Posted by LifeHawk

Very true. You have the choice here. You will never change those people, so you can change yourself, or get a new job. But also remember that you will always encounter these types of people everywhere you go....until you make the change within.

I feel that other employees should be more polite and give more praise instead of criticism. I have always tried to be courteous and nice to people, but I think other people with different values don't see this as endearing, especially the less refined. I don't expect others to change, just treat me with the courtesy that is every civilized human being's right.

I think multi-culturalism and the merging of classes has brought with it some problems. People are forced to interact with others who hold completely different values, which have been skewed by our confusing pop-culture. Managers are all about performance nowadays, employees are seen as an expense, not an asset (in retail anyway).

I am too sensitive really, I shouldn't dwell on these things as much. I can only control my own conduct, other people don't have to fit in with my values.

[JGrace]

Originally Posted by Riddle

Why? Nice poem, but how does it help?

It helps to know that the person who delivers the insults
is just NUTS and to not take it so personally.

[Angela]

Originally Posted by geekchic9

Mind if I make this my sig, with proper credit?

I would be honored. Actually, I'm pretty sure I stole it from somewhere.

[Angela]

Originally Posted by LifeHawk

I don't know her, yet I'm madly in love with her.

The feeling is mutual.