Curious why this has happened

[azzyboo]

Ok so, for a while now I have been intending a new partner, anyway a few months ago my perfect man arrived in the form of an old aquaintance, we were bought together in a great mystical way too much to be coincidence but too longwinded to explain, safe to say that I know he is meant to be the one and I really do mean this from my heart I am truely in love with him. I know he likes me too as he has actually told me this. The trouble is he is married and that is where I have hit a full stop, we both know nothing can happen but yet the chemistry between us is electric every time we are around each other so much so that I am surprised no one else has mentioned anything.

So I find myself sitting here filled with curiosity and the hope that some of you may give me some advice, why would the Universe finally bring me my soul mate
and practically pull out all the stops out to convince me he is the one then throw in the curve ball that he is married ?

The situation as it stands does not make me sad in fact it fills me with joy that I have finally been shown my soul mate. Don't worry I am not going to pursue him or anthing I am just going to sit back and go with the flow and be grateful that I have him in my life if in no other way than a friend.

But ahh the big but! I am very curious as to why the Universe works like this so any help and advice would be great

[ns123]

it may be that he is NOT your perfect man, but that you must learn something from him in order to ready you for your perfect man.

The biggest mistake I ever made in my was this one guy I dated in HS and college. He was so horribly wrong for me - even though I was with him a long time, I would have never married him. But, the universe was saving me for my now husband... who I dated after Mr Wrong. Mr Wrong taught me many things, and because of what I learned from him, I was ready for Mr Right when he came.

So, it could be this guy is not Mr. Right, but really Mr. Teach-Me-Something so that your real Mr. Right will show up when you've learned.

[azzyboo]

Thanks for your reply and yes I could see that this is totally possible but for all the signals and just the way I feel about him its just so strange because he just does not fit my usual type I have never even remotely considered any man older than me as patner material. Guys are usually my age or younger dd's dad is 7 years younger than me, this man is at least 10 years older than me and I am no spring chicken lol.

I don't know its just so strange but every bone in my body tells me he is the one. He hugs me and it is like time just stands still and that I am in the most perfect safe place I could ever be and I never want to leave.

Like I said just going to go with the flow right now, I am in a good place at the moment where I feel so settled and happy with my life. I think the place I was in this time last year by now I would be crying my eyes out and wailing woe is me, but right now in this time and place I am just so happy he is in my life and I don't feel loss because I can't have him I just feel content to know him.

But curiosty had me wondering why the Universe bought him to me this way.

[Griffinzen]

Question: Do you believe there is more than only one soul mate for you or possibly many?

Perhaps this man is just one of a few - or many soul mates for you...

Either way he is in your life for a reason. Accept his coming into your life with gratitude and let go of the need to know what may become. As always everything is working out just as it should - go with the flow!

Now... (being a man myself) if he's having some of the same feelings you are - and he's not totally happy in his marriage... well lets just say things could get interesting. Be honest - your VERY much into him right now - you've already emotionally put yourself out there. I'm sure he's picking up on that... Those hugs of yours sound very interesting - I'm sure your giving off some real energy...

Glad to hear your in a good place right now. Use that to your advantage and keep a little distance. You get too close and you won't see or think clearly - trust me...

I've been in your shoes. Honestly - it sucks. Keep the faith. The universe will most likely handle this much better than we could ever have guessed. Stay open to what may come. Get excited about it. Perhaps one of your other perfect soul mates is just around the corner...