Women.....

[roxanne]

I am a female 24 yrs old. I find it incredibly hard to make female aquaintences. I have a few but it seems almost impossible for me. Any tips?

[Angela]

Hello, Roxanne. My name is Angela, I am female, and I'm pleased to make your acquaintance. See how easy that was?

I think it's time for a new story, because "I have an incredibly hard time and it's almost impossible" is a self-fulfilling belief -- you keep it true by believing it's true. I recommend the book, The Astonishing Power of Emotions for help in adjusting your belief, and gaining power in the area of meeting people, making friends, generating love, and being happy, satisfied, and fulfilled. If you're into that sort of thing.

Best wishes, and welcome to the forums!

Lot of love,
Angela

[lifetimelearner]

welcome aboard

sorry I am no help
I can only tell you my experience -

I have always had more male friends due to my tomboyish nature
but the female friends I did have I could not find a common ground with them and therefore the friendships did not last

I guess as is with any friends you have to find common ground -interests etc

but also I highly believe in the vibes people give off
and 99% of the time I am right


how about any groups you might want to join that have to do with your interests -that's a good way to meet people
and make new friends ,maybe ?

[roxanne]

I guess you are right angela...I need to be more positive when I am in situations where I meet women. And lifetime learner I think thats what my problem may be... kind of tomboyish....I look very womanly but my mind suffers from uncontrollable logic. I guess I have to create another self fulfilling prophecy..."I find it incredibly easy to meet women" or I could use the secret...." I have so many female friends" I posted the thread because I work in a small office with 20 other women and 2 males. This is great except for the fact that I am the youngest one here. None of them seem to bond with me or see me as an aquaintance. Sure its work, but when you see that most of them are friends, it makes me wonder whats wrong with me. I am a mature young lady...and I speak to everyone and I am nice....so I can only conclude that I am not likeable by women, i dont seem to have problems befriending the males and earning thier trust...

roxanne

[magi13]

Making friends is all about taking the first step and willing to get hurt in the process. ^^ I wish I can tell you how to do this, but you have to trust your gut instincts about people. It'll just happen, so do not be afraid to make friends.

Give and take. ^^,

Good luck.

[lifetimelearner]

Originally Posted by roxanne

I guess you are right angela...I need to be more positive when I am in situations where I meet women. And lifetime learner I think thats what my problem may be... kind of tomboyish....I look very womanly but my mind suffers from uncontrollable logic. I guess I have to create another self fulfilling prophecy..."I find it incredibly easy to meet women" or I could use the secret...." I have so many female friends" I posted the thread because I work in a small office with 20 other women and 2 males. This is great except for the fact that I am the youngest one here. None of them seem to bond with me or see me as an aquaintance. Sure its work, but when you see that most of them are friends, it makes me wonder whats wrong with me. I am a mature young lady...and I speak to everyone and I am nice....so I can only conclude that I am not likeable by women, i dont seem to have problems befriending the males and earning thier trust...

roxanne

seems we are a lot alike in this aspect
I have worked with men and I have worked with women
I prefer men
no secrets ,no jealousy,no envy
hmmm
guess I can't help if I am in the same boat
sorry

[Angela]

Hey, Roxanne -- why not give The Work of Byron Katie a try, I think you might find it really helpful.

[cookie5]

[QUOTE=lifetimelearner;286505]welcome aboard

sorry I am no help
I can only tell you my experience -

I have always had more male friends due to my tomboyish nature
but the female friends I did have I could not find a common ground with them and therefore the friendships did not last

QUOTE] I'm with lifetimelearner on this one too although I'd like more female friends I kind of get killed out if is so overly the top girly. the good thing about male friends is they dont take so long to get ready! oh and they pretty much don't ask how they look in something!

[funchy]

Welcome! I'm female, too.

Why do you feel it's hard to make female friends? Is it hard to meet other people your age? Or hard to meet those with similar interests? Or ???

[roxanne]

I find it hard because it HAS been.. I live in Puerto Rico, so my experiences may be slightly different from others who live in different places. This may not be the deciding factor in whether or not I make friends, but when i lived in the US, it wasn't so hard... not being a crybaby by any means, i get along fine without them, sometimes i miss bonding with females, it's just nice. I make the first move most of the time, and I guess I dont come off as trustworthy. I appreciate all of the comments and advice, (such a great forum). so far the only women I have met here in PR have been through craigslists... lol but i cant complain. I will continue to put myself out there in hopes that I will meet someone like me.

roxanne