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Remorse · 12-24-2008, 06:30 AM

I have ALWAYS been considered as an outspoken opinionated extrovert, but recently I have been drawing away. I like to be alone or with people I have never ever met. I only have a few of what I would call "good" friends.

Also, I can't seem to fit in with my age group. I am 17 (18 in about a week) but I can't help but get along better with adults or kids. I find the people around my group are usually trivial, melodramatic, and occasionally just plain annoying. I expect and look fondly on that in children, but when I find in my own group it annoys me.

I know these problems exist even in adult life, but I dunno, it is just something that kills me.

Is it normal that with new people and a few good friends that I am explosive, but unless I am with them I draw as far away as I can?

I used to be a lot more outgoing when I was pretty (-20lb.s ago) but lately I just don't want to be around people...

Any advice?

Jarrod · 12-24-2008, 06:43 AM

I don't see anything particularly wrong here.

Our tendencies can change over time and I think this is never more evident than in people between 15-30.

Do you see it as a problem that you act differently with different groups of people? Or that you believe the behaviour of kids should be different to that of people your age?

Remorse · 12-24-2008, 07:11 AM

I see a problem in my not being able to fit in as an extrovert or an introvert.

Jarrod · 12-24-2008, 07:13 AM

You don't fit in when you are an introvert?
You don't fit in when you are an extrovert?

OR

You don't fit into the category of being an introvert or an extrovert?

Which is the problem?

Brutha · 12-24-2008, 11:48 AM

Perhaps you simply need to be around different kinds of people in your free time.
Maybe join a toastmasters club?

sbdiane · 12-24-2008, 06:37 PM

Extroverts recharge by being around people and introverts recharge by solitude. It has nothing to do with whether you are outgoing or like your peers. I am outgoing but I cannot function without a lot of solitude.

At your age you start to grow apart from your friends. Nothing wrong with that. Just start exploring your interests and meeting new people.

12-24-2008, 06:30 AM	#1 (permalink)
Remorse Junior Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Posts: 14	Extroverted introvert? I have ALWAYS been considered as an outspoken opinionated extrovert, but recently I have been drawing away. I like to be alone or with people I have never ever met. I only have a few of what I would call "good" friends. Also, I can't seem to fit in with my age group. I am 17 (18 in about a week) but I can't help but get along better with adults or kids. I find the people around my group are usually trivial, melodramatic, and occasionally just plain annoying. I expect and look fondly on that in children, but when I find in my own group it annoys me. I know these problems exist even in adult life, but I dunno, it is just something that kills me. Is it normal that with new people and a few good friends that I am explosive, but unless I am with them I draw as far away as I can? I used to be a lot more outgoing when I was pretty (-20lb.s ago) but lately I just don't want to be around people... Any advice? Last edited by Remorse; 12-24-2008 at 06:36 AM.

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12-24-2008, 06:43 AM	#2 (permalink)
Jarrod Senior Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Australia Posts: 541	I don't see anything particularly wrong here. Our tendencies can change over time and I think this is never more evident than in people between 15-30. Do you see it as a problem that you act differently with different groups of people? Or that you believe the behaviour of kids should be different to that of people your age?

12-24-2008, 07:11 AM	#3 (permalink)
Remorse Junior Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Posts: 14	I see a problem in my not being able to fit in as an extrovert or an introvert.

12-24-2008, 07:13 AM	#4 (permalink)
Jarrod Senior Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Australia Posts: 541	You don't fit in when you are an introvert? You don't fit in when you are an extrovert? OR You don't fit into the category of being an introvert or an extrovert? Which is the problem?

12-24-2008, 11:48 AM	#5 (permalink)
Brutha Family Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Berlin, Germany Posts: 8,749	Perhaps you simply need to be around different kinds of people in your free time. Maybe join a toastmasters club?

12-24-2008, 06:37 PM	#6 (permalink)
sbdiane Senior Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Posts: 300	Extroverts recharge by being around people and introverts recharge by solitude. It has nothing to do with whether you are outgoing or like your peers. I am outgoing but I cannot function without a lot of solitude. At your age you start to grow apart from your friends. Nothing wrong with that. Just start exploring your interests and meeting new people.

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