I've now assaulted several old ladies!

[seeker5]

I have now successfully assaulted several old ladies! Assaulting old ladies is a concept I got from reading Rose's post How to Connect With Strangers. It's about adopting the mindset of believing everyone I haven't yet met as a friend, not as strangers, and practicing it by approaching old ladies with that mentality.

A number of days ago, I found myself sitting in an doctor's office. I saw an old lady talking to probably her teenage grandson. I realized then that since I read Rose's article on that, I hadn't really come across old ladies, and here was a great opportunity for me to assault an old lady. So I started to think of her as my friend, and I interjected myself in and ended having a great conversation with her, with her telling me so many great things. She probably did 70% of the talking, but it was great! It was funny to hear her talk of the days when the Mafia owned the Las Vegas Casinos and how much it was better then then now with the corporation owning the Casinos!

Then recently, I went to a meetup.com group that was a dinner party at a restaurent. There were 70 people scheduled to be there, and I didn't know a single one. On the way, I focused, as I almost always do since I read Steve Pavlina's book, on feeling connected to everyone and added the part from Rose's article that everyone was my friend and that I'd have a good bit of fun. When I got there, I realized the crowd wasn't as young as I thought, with maybe me maybe being one of the youngest, although I think there were a few other people in their 30's. Now that I'm back in school as a graduate student, I'm quite used to being surrounded by people younger then me. At this dinner table, I ended sitting at a table with several older ladies around me - the grandma types. I was bummed out for 30 seconds, feeling so young and out of place. Then I remembered Rose's article, and decided to assault those ladies.

So I assaulted those ladies, and ended having a great time! One of them was so damn energetic and so damn fun - she seemed like a 20 year old in how much energy and how much laughter she had....!! It was so fun - that one lady and I were joking so much and we bounced off observational jokes on each other so well. I also ended talking another good bit with another guy too in his 40's or 50's and it was great - he talked about some fascinating stuff. I had a great time, people would be passing by and I felt like everyone was a friend, and I treated them as such.

I got home and as usual (since my focus on this started a few months ago) after a social event I write my post-analysis of what happened so I can pick up what went well (so I can reinforce what I did well), what I learned, and what I could have done better (So next time I can try that). While writing my post-analysis, I realized "wow", I didn't feel the single bit nervous, and had absolutely no apprehension going there, and even when I stood there wondering where to sit among all these so-called strangers. It didn't feel strange for me to sit among "strangers" there and ask if I could sit next to them. So I really got a lot out of thinking of everyone there as friends on my way there.

So I had an evening of a lot of laughter and I really enjoyed it, in part to the concept of assaulting old ladies.

[FrogNettle]

ha this is great! I was just wishing that I could hear more of your stories when I noticed the link to your blog. It brings me comfort to hear of good things happening for good people.

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That's GREAT!

[Interpreneur]

Get some help you a**hole!!

[Interpreneur]

Just kidding. I actually read the whole thing. Good for you!

[seeker5]

Originally Posted by Interpreneur

Just kidding. I actually read the whole thing. Good for you!

Hehe . I thought the title might be a fun one to have

[Rose of Cairo]

I've wanted to reply to this for too long now.

I'm so happy to hear, Seeker. Thank you so much for trying it out.

Originally Posted by seeker5

While writing my post-analysis, I realized "wow", I didn't feel the single bit nervous, and had absolutely no apprehension going there, and even when I stood there wondering where to sit among all these so-called strangers. It didn't feel strange for me to sit among "strangers" there and ask if I could sit next to them. So I really got a lot out of thinking of everyone there as friends on my way there.

How great!

See, that's why I always say it's all a matter of mindset. Once you have the right mindset, connecting with strangers simply isn't scary anymore. It just flows out of you naturally.

Thanks.

[sk8joyful]

Originally Posted by seeker5

I have now successfully assaulted several old ladies! Assaulting old ladies is a concept I got from reading Rose's post How to Connect With Strangers. It's about adopting the mindset of believing everyone I haven't yet met as a friend, not as strangers.

So I assaulted those ladies, and ended having a great time!
One of them was so energetic and so fun - she seemed like a 20 year old in how much energy and how much laughter she had....!!
I also ended talking another good bit with another guy too in his 40's or 50's and it was great - he talked about some fascinating stuff.
I had a great time, people would be passing by and I felt like everyone was a friend, and I treated them as such.

It didn't feel strange for me to sit among "strangers" there and ask if I could sit next to them.
So I really got a lot out of thinking of everyone there, as friends on my way there.
I had an evening of a lot of laughter and I really enjoyed it.

Gee,
you could easily make a Fun Friendly habit of this, and live... like the rest of us

GOOD for you!!