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12-22-2008, 05:10 PM
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I have bought a beautiful diamond pendant necklace for my wife for Christmas. I'm very excited! It's the nicest gift I've given her in years. She's well overdue (I'm a putz). (I'll bet she gets mad at me for spending the money) But I am having a bit a hard time deciding when to give it to her. We have several celebrations with friends and family, that I'm sure she would like to wear it. But I would have to give it to her on Tuesday evening. Our first party is Wednesday brunch. Then it is off to Church at 5:00. Our second party is Wednesday Night. Then Thursday morning is just us and the kids in our jammies. (pretty much all day) I don't want her to think I'm giving it to her her for my own benefit of her showing it off. I'm not trying to show off. I wouldn't mind giving it to her on CHristmas morning. But then she might say "I could have worn this to the parties!". If I give it to her oin Tuesday, she could say "You're giving it to me early so I can show it off to your family." Plus, there are her church friends, whom I have been embarrased in years past by my lack of gift giving abilities. It would be nice if she could wear it to church. But again, there's the showing off thing. If I wait till CHristmas morning, she could still wear it to church next sunday. Same goes with future family get togethers. It's not like this is the only chance she'll have to wear it. I hope she wears it a lot. Ladies, when would you prefer it? Also, any thoughts on how mad she'll be about the money? We can afford it. Heck, it wasn't THAT expensive. You'd spend more on a new TV. Diamonds are forever! |
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12-22-2008, 05:21 PM
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I think the best circumstance would be to find a way to carve out a bit of quiet time late tonight, have a glass of wine together with soft lighting/candles, and then give it to her with words about how much she means to you (and not mentioning anything about when to wear it, just that you wanted to give it to her in a private less hectic kid-centric time than Christmas morning). As a single gift, in a private moment, relaxing together, and expressing what you mean by it, it is much less likely to elicit an immediate negative reaction than if it seems like an unemotional extravagant waste thrown to her in the midst of a kid-centric morning with gift wrap flying and presents piled high. The fact that you're giving it to her before Christmas eve events is just a lucky bonus.
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12-22-2008, 05:27 PM
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I second the idea of giving it to her early. Personally, I don't feel to compelled to give gifts simply because it's Christmas, so getting the gift early wouldn't matter to me, the thought behind the gift would matter more. I think it's really great to see a guy that really puts a lot of thought on how to express his love for his wife the way that you are Mark. And I wouldn't worry too much about the money either. A diamond is something that won't lose value like a car or a television will. Good luck and have fun! |
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