Best place for a first date

[Brutha]

What do you think happens to be the best place for a first date to start a highly conscious relationship with that person?

[seeker5]

Originally Posted by Brutha

What do you think happens to be the best place for a first date to start a highly conscious relationship with that person?

Well, the first date of the highest conscious relationship I've been in involved both of us putting a green wig on and walking around the city, and even at one point sitting in an empty water fountain.

[garentee]

Always been a big fan of the hike in the woods etc where the only distractions are things of great beauty... My favorite was the last first date I had... We went for a hike on a sloppy and rainy day with our dogs and got totally soaked and really had an amazing date... unfortunately we both had things we had to deal with and had to stop seeing each other.. not to say that we wont start up again.. only time will tell.

[RT Wolf]

My bedroom.

[evevera]

Originally Posted by RT Wolf

My bedroom.

hahahaha

I always thought highly conscious meant your mentality then where you are. So therefore it shouldn't matter where you are or what you're doing as long as you can talk and focus on one another.

[AO1]

Do an activity of some sort. If I was on a 'date' with a highly conscious person I'd skip all the movie/popcorn/restaurant rubbish (societal conditioning) and launch straight into deep, meaningful conversation - a sequel to a challenging, courage building activity (rock climbing, mountain hiking, walks in nature etc.)

I don't even know if 'dates' would exist between highly conscious people or if they'd be coming from that frame at all. One who lives in the moment is abundant in creative self-expression; you'd simply be sharing this with another.

I wonder what Steve does when meeting new people. hmm.

[oBakasan]

. If I was on a 'date' with a highly conscious person I'd skip all the movie/popcorn/restaurant rubbish (societal conditioning)

"Oh hey, how about we go sit in a dark crowded room for two hours while being dead silent and watching someone else have a really great time? Then I'll take you to this nice place where a guy who gets payed 8$ an hour will make us a meal and we'll pray that he hasn't sneezed in it. So what'da ya say, I'll pick you up at 8?"

Yeah, I can't actually see that happening.

But if I accept that I don't want to go out on a "normal" date, then what else is there left for me to do? I don't really go out much in the first place so I don't know of any interesting places that I could visit. Would anyone have any suggestions?

[Brutha]

I don't really go out much in the first place so I don't know of any interesting places that I could visit. Would anyone have any suggestions?

Yes, that's basically the reason I started the thread.

After you have meet someone that you like somewhere and wouldn't see them again if you just go on with your daily life, inviting that person to do something with you seems to be the next step.
Of course you don't have to call that next meeting a "date" but you still somehow need to have something concrete in mind when you pick up the phone to meet again.

[Kazeko]

Slow dances 4ever....

The only great place for a date is a place where you can dance together slowly. This is the one and only choise - believe me and save yourself lots of time and effort. And if you both drink - a moderate amount of chapmagne makes miracles. And don't forget flowers

[jaamkie]

bookstore bookstore bookstore! Best of all, a funky used bookstore full of random conversation starters and quiet enough to hear each other talk.

[RT Wolf]

I tend to schedule a low-committment, low-risk coffee date at some starbucks to get to know the other person a bit. After that, depending on the weather, I like taking walks such as around interesting areas, in parks or along beaches.

[SilverFirePrime]

If there's a shopping area around with a variety of really unique stores, there's loads of different conversation starters possible.

[DerekH]

Originally Posted by Brutha

What do you think happens to be the best place for a first date to start a highly conscious relationship with that person?

Go to a place/ do an activity that you enjoy!

[RT Wolf]

If you've never been rock climbing, then maybe you can go together. If either of you've gone before and the other hasn't, one can teach the other, or both can take a quick class together. Again, this has to be decided on a case by case basis, different things work for different folks in different times. A bike ride would also work.

I have another reason for suggesting physical activity: the physical state of arousal is about the same for a huge number of activities, such as sex, a fight, being in danger, etc. According to one theory of emotions, we attribute emotions to physical states based on our cognitive assessment of the source of those emotions. So, she and you may then attribute your physiological arousal for arousal for each other. This may not be somin you do on a first date, but its a great way to keep the "fire" burning in a long-term relationship.

You can find research on that here:

Misattribution of Arousal - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

[Rose of Cairo]

How about a simple walk in some nice place like along a big river? This way you'd have peace and room to talk a lot. Or just invite her to hang out at your place and maybe eat something together or watch a movie. IMO home is the best place to talk and get to know each other.

I'd personally avoid shopping and crowded places, I can't imagine having a meaningful conversation in such stressful places full of background noise and other distractions. But that's just me.

[Xanafax]

Hey Rose, cool suggestion. I am thinking of asking this girl out soon. And the whole idea in my head as been somewhat powerful for me.

I have never asked a girl out before - and I am 17! How scary, so I thought, right well...I am not doing it over MSN, and TXTing is just tacky, so I will do it in person.

As soon as I thought that my stomach dropped and I knew I had found a worthy short term goal, a chance for some real character building.

So I think I might ask her out to - weather permitting - come for a walk with me this weekend. I know a lovely spot which you get to by walking along this woodland path, it's out of the way so few people go there, and the spot looks out across the valley I live in. It's a wonderful spot perfect for some alone time - or time with a girl

Wish me luck everyone, I am personally scared witless haha. x

[danas]

Originally Posted by Rose of Cairo

IMO home is the best place to talk and get to know each other.

Yeah but from my experience home is also the place where things could get carried away too soon for a first date.... Ive never had a guy come over on a date and not try to get me into bed by the end of the night, I mean not forcefully of course, I can always say no, but Ive experienced that things can move too fast on the home front so I prefer to wait if I really want to get to know this guy.

I dont mind what I do,as long as we can hear eachother speak.
I personally love walks, but also sitting somewhere can be nice too.

[ellie]

Originally Posted by Rose of Cairo

How about a simple walk in some nice place like along a big river? This way you'd have peace and room to talk a lot.

Yeah good idea, and if it doesn't work out you can just push him/her in the river

Na a nice walk somewhere (love the beach), bookshop or a nice cafe. Personally I would do, what you enjoy doing by yourself normally.

So walking and cafes are my type of thing, so I would hope my date would enjoy the same type of thing

[Plato]

Something that involves some kind of physical activity is always awesome. One of the coolest "dates" I've been on was when a travelling fair ground was in town... nothing like bumper cars for bonding!

But really my best advice is to know your city. I think I know my city well but I'm still always discovering new gems in hidden locations I didn't know about.

Further considerations:

What are you interested in? What is she interested in? If you have shared interests that's often a winner. Also, what time will you be meeting? For how long? What kind of mood do you want?

What are your intentions for the meetup? You need some idea where you're going. From this you'll derive a lot of clues for what is best.

[TonyToneTone]

Wherever you are going to be the most at ease and have the most fun. Where do you enjoy going? For me it's clubs. For others it's the park. Go wherever you can really be you.