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Dutch54 · 12-17-2008, 12:43 AM

There is this beautiful lady that works as a pharmacist at the grocery store. She is usually working with other people around her. 1) how is isolate her from the others to talk to her and 2) what the heck to say to a complete stranger when you have no inn. I have gotten RX filled there in the past and have made small talk about the RX but that's been it. And 3) what is she has a boyfriend.

LordSappington · 12-17-2008, 02:10 AM

Why don't you just walk up to her and say, "Hi. I've seen you around, and I think you're cute. We should get some coffee some time." You don't need to isolate her. You just need to get her attention. If she has a boyfriend, she'll decline and you'll probably be a bit embarrassed, but say, "He's a lucky guy" and walk away. Of course, I'm way too much of a wuss to do this myself, but one day, I'll gain the courage to just do what I've always wanted to do without any fear of the pretty nominal negative consequences.

JimOfferman · 12-17-2008, 07:36 AM

^ What he said!

TonyToneTone · 12-17-2008, 09:19 AM

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Originally Posted by Dutch54

There is this beautiful lady that works as a pharmacist at the grocery store. She is usually working with other people around her. 1) how is isolate her from the others to talk to her and 2) what the heck to say to a complete stranger when you have no inn. I have gotten RX filled there in the past and have made small talk about the RX but that's been it. And 3) what is she has a boyfriend.

LordSappington is right, you don't need to isolate her.

Just walk up and say "Hi I'm Dutch54, I see you here every time I fill up my RX prescription. I always think how gorgeous you are and would like to know if you'd like to go grab some drinks sometime".

Some girl was working at the Coffee Bean and I walked in, started some small talk, and got her number in front of her coworkers. One of the guys working there came over and stood by where we were talking (out of her view) bc he wanted to see how I was doing it. As I was getting in the number he was shaking his head yes in approval to say I did a nice job.

And to answer your 3rd item, what if she doesn't have a boyfriend? What if she is just waiting for you to ask her out?

funchy · 12-18-2008, 09:22 PM

Depends what prescriptions she is filling for you. "Pharmacist: is it true this Viagra will work for hours?"

But seriously: just go ask her. Start up some small talk. See if you can direct the conversation to some common element, then suggest going out to do that together? Or get her talking and then acknowledge she is at work by saying "hey, I'd like to hear more about it but I can see you're getting busy. Can I come by for you after work and we can talk more over a cup of coffee/tea?"

How about this to get her alone: wait till she hands you the medication and then talk in a hushed voice and say "there's something private I needed to know. Can you step aside <look at her coworkers> for a moment?" She won't resist because you might be asking a personal medical question. Then immediately ask her out. This way you're not getting her in trouble for socializing while working.

If she has a boyfriend, she'll say so, but you'll never know until you ask her.

Good luck! Please let us know how it goes.

Jacen · 12-19-2008, 02:14 AM

I would suggest LordSappington and TonyToneTone's posts over funchy's. By a lot.

brandongilbert · 12-19-2008, 04:17 AM

Ask her if she is on facebook or myspace?

You can just say you are looking to network and keep in touch.

Ninfoboo · 12-19-2008, 06:58 PM

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Originally Posted by TonyToneTone

Some girl was working at the Coffee Bean and I walked in, started some small talk, and got her number in front of her coworkers. One of the guys working there came over and stood by where we were talking (out of her view) bc he wanted to see how I was doing it. As I was getting in the number he was shaking his head yes in approval to say I did a nice job.

Ha, that's awesome. I haven't done anything like that since my teens, and certainly wouldn't have the guts to do it today (asking someone out in front of a group of people, that is). Makes it all the worse if you get rejected.

TonyToneTone · 12-19-2008, 08:19 PM

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Originally Posted by Ninfoboo

Ha, that's awesome. I haven't done anything like that since my teens, and certainly wouldn't have the guts to do it today (asking someone out in front of a group of people, that is). Makes it all the worse if you get rejected.

Thanks Ninfoboo. Your response put a smile on my face.

If I get rejected and people see me, I simply smile at them and shrug my shoulders in a "what can you do?" type way while lifting my hands up. Most people say things like "At least you went for it" and almost ALL guys respect the fact that you tried. Even the women are usually impressed by it.

RT Wolf · 12-19-2008, 08:31 PM

Why are you afraid to do this? Remember, the only way to get rid of the fear is to face it and do it. You'll grow stronger and courageous in the meanwhile.

While you're at it, think of it this way: if she rejects you, or even if she humiliates you, it has very little or nothing to do with you-you. She doesn't know anything about you yet, for christ's sake. She may have a policy against going out with customers, or she has had prevous bad experiences with guys who wear grey (I'm not kidding about this). It doesn't mean she's rejected you, simply that the value you can provide and the value she's interested in are incompatible. You may be concerned about not doing things right, and if you don't do things "right" you won't get the girl and then...what? you'll blame yourself? you'll be fine either way and you'll gain more experience either way. Buck up and find someone else.

BTW, being rejected in front of a group isn't so bad. Don't make assumptions of what's going through their heads either. It might be "what a loser" or it might be, "boy, I wish I had the courage to do that", and in either case, it has nothing to do with you, it has to do with their standards and their judgments.

So, just do it! Good luck!

evevera · 12-21-2008, 08:59 PM

Wait for a time when there's not many customers... only you... go in with something, make sure you get her to serve you. Start up a conversation... keep the conversation going even after you've paid and all that. As you talk, remember body language, lots of smiles and then ask her if she would like to have a drink with you because you would like to get to know her more. Say she's interesting and you just had to ask. She'll be flattered.

Don't think about it, just go with the conversation and then do it. GL!

Michael Chui · 12-21-2008, 09:24 PM

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Originally Posted by funchy

Depends what prescriptions she is filling for you. "Pharmacist: is it true this Viagra will work for hours?"

Just say no to Pick-up Lines.

TonyToneTone · 12-22-2008, 01:53 AM

Have you asked her yet?!?!?!?!?!?!? Just go for it!

Dutch54 · 12-22-2008, 02:07 AM

Today was the day, but she was not working. Will try again M/T.

TonyToneTone · 12-22-2008, 02:11 AM

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Originally Posted by Dutch54

Today was the day, but she was not working. Will try again M/T.

Sounds good. You can get her!

Ezekiel2517 · 12-22-2008, 05:19 AM

Do not get hung-up on any one girl! Instead focus on stepping out of your comfort zone. I believe that everything is pre-determined so if this girl is meant to be with you it will happen; if you're not meant to be together there's nothing you can do to make it happen. Just give it your best shot! If it does not work out with this girl it's because she's not the right one for you.

TonyToneTone · 12-22-2008, 03:02 PM

Something I wanted to add in. Have fun with this. Don't think of it as some job you have to do. Go and enjoy yourself. You are meeting a new person for the first time. It can lead to a million different beautiful things for you.

12-17-2008, 12:43 AM	#1 (permalink)
Dutch54 Junior Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Posts: 3	Asking out a complete stranger There is this beautiful lady that works as a pharmacist at the grocery store. She is usually working with other people around her. 1) how is isolate her from the others to talk to her and 2) what the heck to say to a complete stranger when you have no inn. I have gotten RX filled there in the past and have made small talk about the RX but that's been it. And 3) what is she has a boyfriend.

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12-17-2008, 02:10 AM	#2 (permalink)
LordSappington Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 166	Why don't you just walk up to her and say, "Hi. I've seen you around, and I think you're cute. We should get some coffee some time." You don't need to isolate her. You just need to get her attention. If she has a boyfriend, she'll decline and you'll probably be a bit embarrassed, but say, "He's a lucky guy" and walk away. Of course, I'm way too much of a wuss to do this myself, but one day, I'll gain the courage to just do what I've always wanted to do without any fear of the pretty nominal negative consequences.

12-17-2008, 07:36 AM	#3 (permalink)
JimOfferman Family Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: The Netherlands Posts: 1,823	^ What he said!

12-18-2008, 09:22 PM	#5 (permalink)
funchy Family Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: east coast, USA Posts: 1,628	Depends what prescriptions she is filling for you. "Pharmacist: is it true this Viagra will work for hours?" But seriously: just go ask her. Start up some small talk. See if you can direct the conversation to some common element, then suggest going out to do that together? Or get her talking and then acknowledge she is at work by saying "hey, I'd like to hear more about it but I can see you're getting busy. Can I come by for you after work and we can talk more over a cup of coffee/tea?" How about this to get her alone: wait till she hands you the medication and then talk in a hushed voice and say "there's something private I needed to know. Can you step aside <look at her coworkers> for a moment?" She won't resist because you might be asking a personal medical question. Then immediately ask her out. This way you're not getting her in trouble for socializing while working. If she has a boyfriend, she'll say so, but you'll never know until you ask her. Good luck! Please let us know how it goes.

12-19-2008, 02:14 AM	#6 (permalink)
Jacen Junior Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Posts: 11	I would suggest LordSappington and TonyToneTone's posts over funchy's. By a lot.

12-19-2008, 04:17 AM	#7 (permalink)
brandongilbert Senior Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Louisville, KY Posts: 152	Ask her if she is on facebook or myspace? You can just say you are looking to network and keep in touch.

12-19-2008, 08:31 PM	#10 (permalink)
RT Wolf Family Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Toronto, Canuckland Posts: 1,737	Why are you afraid to do this? Remember, the only way to get rid of the fear is to face it and do it. You'll grow stronger and courageous in the meanwhile. While you're at it, think of it this way: if she rejects you, or even if she humiliates you, it has very little or nothing to do with you-you. She doesn't know anything about you yet, for christ's sake. She may have a policy against going out with customers, or she has had prevous bad experiences with guys who wear grey (I'm not kidding about this). It doesn't mean she's rejected you, simply that the value you can provide and the value she's interested in are incompatible. You may be concerned about not doing things right, and if you don't do things "right" you won't get the girl and then...what? you'll blame yourself? you'll be fine either way and you'll gain more experience either way. Buck up and find someone else. BTW, being rejected in front of a group isn't so bad. Don't make assumptions of what's going through their heads either. It might be "what a loser" or it might be, "boy, I wish I had the courage to do that", and in either case, it has nothing to do with you, it has to do with their standards and their judgments. So, just do it! Good luck!

12-21-2008, 08:59 PM	#11 (permalink)
evevera Member Join Date: May 2008 Posts: 41	Wait for a time when there's not many customers... only you... go in with something, make sure you get her to serve you. Start up a conversation... keep the conversation going even after you've paid and all that. As you talk, remember body language, lots of smiles and then ask her if she would like to have a drink with you because you would like to get to know her more. Say she's interesting and you just had to ask. She'll be flattered. Don't think about it, just go with the conversation and then do it. GL!

12-22-2008, 01:53 AM	#13 (permalink)
TonyToneTone Family Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Posts: 1,040	Have you asked her yet?!?!?!?!?!?!? Just go for it!

12-22-2008, 02:07 AM	#14 (permalink)
Dutch54 Junior Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Posts: 3	Today was the day, but she was not working. Will try again M/T.

12-22-2008, 05:19 AM	#16 (permalink)
Ezekiel2517 Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Posts: 52	Do not get hung-up on any one girl! Instead focus on stepping out of your comfort zone. I believe that everything is pre-determined so if this girl is meant to be with you it will happen; if you're not meant to be together there's nothing you can do to make it happen. Just give it your best shot! If it does not work out with this girl it's because she's not the right one for you.

12-22-2008, 03:02 PM	#17 (permalink)
TonyToneTone Family Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Posts: 1,040	Something I wanted to add in. Have fun with this. Don't think of it as some job you have to do. Go and enjoy yourself. You are meeting a new person for the first time. It can lead to a million different beautiful things for you.

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