what do men find really UNATTRACTIVE in women?

[hopena]

Forget it.

[funchy]

Originally Posted by SuavePlaya

women that act like men...

Forgive me for what might be a stupid question, but what do mean by this?

[SuavePlaya]

I realize that many women when they were younger were tomboys. It's a major turn off to me when I flip on espn and my girlfriend is more excited than i'am or knows the whole yankees roster. I feel like i'am hanging out with another dude. I like women that don't have alot of trouble walking in high heels. These are just a couple of examples. BTW I'am not a big fan of keira knightley's body, she got a really really skinny frame.

[dwixi]

When girls act like there better than boys

[RT Wolf]

This thread could be a massive self-esteem hit for women reading it. I'm curious why the OP started it? Perhaps everyone would like to share what they do appreciate in women?

I know I've often compared myself to any standards for male attractiveness anytime has mentioned it, so I thought I'd pop in and point out a few things:

1. There is no one metaphysical criteria or judgement for "attractive" or "unattractive". I disagree with posters who phrased their preferences as absolutes. That is, "high heels are unattractive" makes a global statement about high heels. On the other hand, "Heels turn me off" states a preference. I find this with movies, too: "This movie is fantastic!" rather than "I really enjoyed it!". I've often found bad movies a lot of fun (Wanted, for example) and disliked good movies. Nothing wrong with that, its just preference. So, if you feel that you're unattractive based on some criteria posted here, consider that there are many, many other guys who would be attracted to the way you are. An example of a 180 degree difference is in this thread. Consider this: a number of the women considered the most beautiful women around have at times been told that they are unattractive and felt self-conscious about it. Beauty and unattractiveness truly are in the eye of the beholder, and that means that they often have nothing with you or your features, even if they are judging "you".

2. A lot of the guys I know make a distinction between finding someone physically attractive and wanting to have a relationship with them, even though the two do affect each other. So, when you ask for what is unattractive and list mostly physical attributes, the assumption is that attraction is mostly based on physical features. I will not deny that physical features are important to me, but as others have pointed out, this is often overridden by personality, habit and attitudes. I've been there. A woman who I found attractive, I saw her smoking and my attraction went to nill. Another time I was talking to a very pretty young woman and I mentioned something off the beaten path, like wanting to go polyphasic or vegetarian and she gave me a fear-based response and my attraction instantly went to zero. There are guys who love smokers and would get along with someone at their level of courage, but that's not for me. So, I kept looking and found my gf of 2 years and we're happy as can be.

[robc]

I think this post was started in response to the other thread on what women find unattractive in men.

Women with very low self-esteem would be a major one with me.
Women who actively seek external validation from other men, thrive on it and when they don't have it appear miserable, useless, sad, etc.

Women who exude male energy as opposed to exuding female energy, that would be a major turn off for me too. Being a man and being with a women who exudes more male than female energy is just not comfortable, it almost feels competitive.

Women with a poor sense of humor, can't laugh or smile regularly - that just isn't fun either.

That's a few of them, there may be a few more.

I'm sure the same can be said from a woman's perspective, just switch a few words above and I'm sure this resonates with women as well.