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Ttrimm · 11-30-2008, 03:25 AM

My 7 year old son Dylan only spends his time 'alone' in his room seriously. He doesn't have any friends. He only once had a friend- but his friend got another better friend. He's filled with stress now. He only works on paper now writing blank words and doesn't even care for lunch. Is this a behavorial problem?

Pegasus · 11-30-2008, 03:39 AM

Why did his former friend no longer want to be friends with him? Is he good at sharing? Can he express his needs appropriately?

Does he go to school? Are there any neighborhood kids he can play with? Can you sign him up for any activities (sports, art classes, etc.) in which he can learn a new skill and interact with other kids close to his age?

Ttrimm · 11-30-2008, 04:02 AM

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Originally Posted by Pegasus

Why did his former friend no longer want to be friends with him? Is he good at sharing? Can he express his needs appropriately?

Does he go to school? Are there any neighborhood kids he can play with? Can you sign him up for any activities (sports, art classes, etc.) in which he can learn a new skill and interact with other kids close to his age?

I signed him up for martial arts class and he found a person who's just like him, but lives far away he has to take the train to get to martial arts class everyday.

Our neighbours have a 5-year-old child. They want to play, but since our neighbours own a restaurant, our neighbours' child needs to be the parents' assistant.

He's also in hockey class and he met a professional who's eight but he has class everyday, bowling, football, skating, art class...

He has a crush on a girl student in his school, but she needs to take care of her cats.

A guy in his martial arts class loved him, but my son doesn't like him..

WHAT CAN I DO???

spookie149 · 11-30-2008, 04:40 AM

Could you bring him to any groups where he might have a chance to interact with other boys his age? If you're religious, Sunday school? Or something else other than hockey? Do you have Big Brothers in your city? Maybe they could help?

Ttrimm · 11-30-2008, 05:06 AM

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Originally Posted by spookie149

Could you bring him to any groups where he might have a chance to interact with other boys his age? If you're religious, Sunday school? Or something else other than hockey? Do you have Big Brothers in your city? Maybe they could help?

I tell you we don't have big brothers OR stupid church sunday blah school dopey, the ONLY thing he's interested of is hockey, paper throwing, swimming and martial arts!! And he doesn't even want to go to a group! Don't you understand?? Read the whole message!!!!

spookie149 · 11-30-2008, 05:11 AM

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Originally Posted by Ttrimm

I tell you we don't have big brothers OR stupid church sunday blah school dopey, the ONLY thing he's interested of is hockey, paper throwing, swimming and martial arts!! And he doesn't even want to go to a group! Don't you understand?? Read the whole message!!!!

Sounds like you're pretty upset. If he doesn't want to do anything, doesn't want to talk to you, and seems to be acting out of the ordinary maybe it's time to bring him to a child psychologist? If he doesn't feel comfortable talking to a stranger then maybe even you just talking with one might shed some insight on how to handle it.

seanner689 · 11-30-2008, 02:02 PM

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Originally Posted by Ttrimm

I tell you we don't have big brothers OR stupid church sunday blah school dopey, the ONLY thing he's interested of is hockey, paper throwing, swimming and martial arts!! And he doesn't even want to go to a group! Don't you understand?? Read the whole message!!!!

7 year old son at the age of 15, moms are getting younger and younger.

Husband needs help

I swear ... It's got to have something to do with the hormones they put in animals these days.

Dorothy Lite · 11-30-2008, 04:06 PM

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Originally Posted by Ttrimm

I tell you we don't have big brothers OR stupid church sunday blah school dopey, the ONLY thing he's interested of is hockey, paper throwing, swimming and martial arts!! And he doesn't even want to go to a group! Don't you understand?? Read the whole message!!!!

Wow, if your son is the same as you seem to be in that post I wouldn't want to play either.

Ttrimm · 11-30-2008, 04:15 PM

Okay, so I know you're BEGGING me to take him to some blah group, but I just won't and he doesn't even want to go to some blah dopey group. ALL HE WANTS IS MARTIAL ARTS AND HOCKEY

Dorothy Lite · 11-30-2008, 04:23 PM

Well, if that's what he wants why don't you just let him have it? I think it's wrong to try to force someone to play with others if he does not want to. It sounds like you're the one who has a problem not your son.

Ttrimm · 11-30-2008, 04:37 PM

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Originally Posted by Dorothy Lite

Well, if that's what he wants why don't you just let him have it? I think it's wrong to try to force someone to play with others if he does not want to. It sounds like you're the one who has a problem not your son.

I DO NOT have a problem and I DID send him to martial arts and hockey class you don't understand it's the stress' problem!!!

Holistic Star · 11-30-2008, 04:45 PM

I'd be stressed too if my mother shouted at me the way you shout at people in this post. Perhaps you need to learn to express your views a little more calmly especially when people are trying to help you.

Anyway isn't 'Dylan' your 10month old who only ate a banana in three weeks.
Need help for my son

Something smells off, and it isn't the fruit.

btw did you really give birth when you were 8?

11-30-2008, 03:25 AM	#1 (permalink)
Ttrimm Banned Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Burnaby B.C., Canada Posts: 54	need help for my sons social skills My 7 year old son Dylan only spends his time 'alone' in his room seriously. He doesn't have any friends. He only once had a friend- but his friend got another better friend. He's filled with stress now. He only works on paper now writing blank words and doesn't even care for lunch. Is this a behavorial problem?

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11-30-2008, 03:39 AM	#2 (permalink)
Pegasus Senior Member Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: USA Posts: 263	Why did his former friend no longer want to be friends with him? Is he good at sharing? Can he express his needs appropriately? Does he go to school? Are there any neighborhood kids he can play with? Can you sign him up for any activities (sports, art classes, etc.) in which he can learn a new skill and interact with other kids close to his age?

11-30-2008, 04:40 AM	#4 (permalink)
spookie149 Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 66	Could you bring him to any groups where he might have a chance to interact with other boys his age? If you're religious, Sunday school? Or something else other than hockey? Do you have Big Brothers in your city? Maybe they could help?

11-30-2008, 04:15 PM	#9 (permalink)
Ttrimm Banned Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Burnaby B.C., Canada Posts: 54	Okay, so I know you're BEGGING me to take him to some blah group, but I just won't and he doesn't even want to go to some blah dopey group. ALL HE WANTS IS MARTIAL ARTS AND HOCKEY

11-30-2008, 04:23 PM	#10 (permalink)
Dorothy Lite Junior Member Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Berlin, Germany Posts: 15	Well, if that's what he wants why don't you just let him have it? I think it's wrong to try to force someone to play with others if he does not want to. It sounds like you're the one who has a problem not your son.

11-30-2008, 04:45 PM	#12 (permalink)
Holistic Star Family Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 1,611	I'd be stressed too if my mother shouted at me the way you shout at people in this post. Perhaps you need to learn to express your views a little more calmly especially when people are trying to help you. Anyway isn't 'Dylan' your 10month old who only ate a banana in three weeks. Need help for my son Something smells off, and it isn't the fruit. btw did you really give birth when you were 8?

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