Over-thinking something to where you feel like you can't say it anymore

[KeithHandy]

I've noticed that if I think about something too much before I say it to someone, it becomes much harder to say. Almost impossible. Sometimes if I forget about it for a while and then it pops back into my head, I can get another shot at saying it, but until then I've blown my chance.

This happens even in low pressure situations. It doesn't have to involve people I'm attracted to, people I admire, or people I want to make a good impression on. It can be an innocuous statement to somebody I'm perfectly comfortable with. Normally I just say things to people as they pop into my head, which makes me seem like I have no inhibitions. But if I come up with a good idea for something clever to say, and I have to wait a period of time before saying it for any reason, often times I have to discard it and just revert to improvising.

What do you do when you've "built up" or "over-rehearsed" something? Do you say it anyway, and run the risk of looking unnatural and suspicious? Or do you have a way of bringing it back down to earth and then just saying it?

[Alvin]

I hypnotise people.



Seriously though, when I was learning the NLP language, hypnotic and Speed Seduction patterns, I'd often fumble up when talking or stumble without knowing what to say.

Still happens!

I recognize that learning how to be eloquent is a continuing process. Sometimes you fumble and through fumbling, you learn how to recover with grace or avoid repeating your mistakes.

A lot of people fumble too, you just might not have noticed

[moviestar]

I know exactly what you mean. Sometimes you have a line to say, but you think the time isn't right so you hold on to that line in your mind. You rehearse it in your mind a couple of times but each time the fear of saying it grows.
The only solution I have for this is to prevent it. Stop over-thinking. The only good moment to say anything is the moment it comes up in your mind. If you catch yourself failing and over-thinking stop doing it and refocus on something else, don't cling to that thought.
Hope that helps, sometimes helped me.