I have acne, therefore no guy will ever like me

[lightthecandle]

It is true, isn't it?

I'm 23 and still breaking out.

[Lisa McGregor]

when I was 23 I also had a problem with acne and felt the same as you do. There is a pill called Diane which you take everyday like a birth control pill. It regulates your hormones. It really works and it will change your life. Don't waste any more time, sort it out immediately.

good luck
love
Lisa

[jtracy]

I find it hard to believe that no guy will ever like you because you have acne. That's fatalistic and negative thinking (that probably attracts guys who don't like you because you have acne). If you have a good enough personality and character, I don't think the guys will be looking at your acne too much. Ones who do are pretty shallow and you don't want them anyway. I know of a woman who has no legs and she's not only married but has a little girl now. While you could try drugs to treat the acne too if it makes you feel better (my daughter used Accutane and that seemed to help but I don't think you could take it if you want to get pregnant anytime soon), it would be at least as useful to focus on growing yourself and feeling good about yourself. That's what's more likely to attract a good guy in the first place.

[Eisho]

Originally Posted by lightthecandle

It is true, isn't it?

I'm 23 and still breaking out.

Of course guys will like you and love you. And remember, guys have insecurities too.

Stop dwelling on such thoughts and start doing something about your skin condition if it bothers you so much. Do some research and try different things until you get the result you want.

Cheers,

Eisho

[LordSappington]

Ask yourself this question: if someone gave you a magic pill that made your acne disappear overnight, do you think guys would now like you?

I suspect you would find something else that would make you self conscious, making the acne just the symptom of a greater problem involving your body image. Of course, do whatever you can to rid yourself of the acne, but also consider why you're so self-conscious in the first place.

[spookie149]

When I met my boyfriend last year he had really bad acne. The kind that causes scarring. That didn't stop me from falling in love with him!

[missing]

Originally Posted by LordSappington

Ask yourself this question: if someone gave you a magic pill that made your acne disappear overnight, do you think guys would now like you?

I suspect you would find something else that would make you self conscious, making the acne just the symptom of a greater problem involving your body image. Of course, do whatever you can to rid yourself of the acne, but also consider why you're so self-conscious in the first place.

agreed. I also think "lightthecandle" should consider the role that advertising plays in shaping how she feels about her appearance. If the problem gets extreme than it should be managed but I'm not getting that vibe here. But she does seem to post a lot about how she is concerned over her appearance, which tells me something else is going on.

A little acne is not a big deal. In fact I find blemishes on a woman to be attractive. I don't want to be with somebody who looks perfect, like she stepped out of a glossy magazine. Those girls tend to looks like ghosts or aliens, not humans.

[pyrogen]

That's great news.

Why? Acne is a physical symptom of a health thing that needs to be addressed. Your body is trying to tell you something.

Think on the bright side: zits are not some major relationship-stopping/ending issue like baggage, an addiction, a psycho ex, or kids. And other than zits, there's less that can be potentially a nonstarter with you at 23 than there is, say, in your 30s.

Since you DO have acne, though, acne is often a symptom of other conditions such as PCOS, and you can end up with scarring, you should get a full physical with blood panels to rule that stuff out.

If you are having a problem with your physical body, you should not even be concerned with whether or not your gender of preference finds you attractive.

You should be concerned with figuring out what's wrong with your physical body and addressing that.

If you're healthy, chances are you're attractive too.

Meanwhile, there are some good concealer makeups out there, but you shouldn't use them all the time because they might make your zits worse.

[seeker5]

Originally Posted by missing

A little acne is not a big deal. In fact I find blemishes on a woman to be attractive. I don't want to be with somebody who looks perfect, like she stepped out of a glossy magazine. Those girls tend to looks like ghosts or aliens, not humans.

Same here.

Lightthecandle, glad to see you're analyzing your thought patterns and realizing that simply because you have a thought and belief, that doesn't mean it's true. In fact, it could be very much untrue.

[Doku]

When I met my wife, she had acne. Still does... 12 years later.

[CAlex6977]

Personally I think acne is increased due to the foods you eat. I think maybe you should take a look at your diet and you may be able to reduce your acne. You should want to make it better for yourself not for guys. Good luck with you endeavor!

[m18pak]

Lightthecandle, there is nothing wrong with your appearance: you are scarred on the inside.

[Squid]

I am 25 and have had acne since I was 10.

I know what horrible damage it can do to your self esteem. The face is the first thing people see, it is the first part of you that makes a visible impression on a person and when it is covered in weeping sores and scars it is damaging to your ego and to your attitude.

If you have decent health insurance I would recommend a dermatologist. I'm finishing my last month of Accutane and I have never felt better about my skin.

Acne is not usually related to diet unless you only eat cheetos all day and drink sugar. It is generally a result of over productive oil glands. There are ways to help control it. See a doctor if it bothers you. As you age your skin will not recover from blemishes the way it used to and it will scar your skin very badly.

[backpocket]

From what I've read in this thread, the more accurate belief would be "I have acne, therefore guys will like me."

[bluemoon]

I'm 23 and still have acne sometimes... I try not to pay attention to it. And my bf seems to like me fine.

A lot of your posts here seem to gravitate towards perceived problems with your appearance and self-consciousness. Maybe it would be helpful to examine why you dislike it so much, rather than how to "fix" these things.

Also, on the other thread you said you were 21. Here you're 23? How old are you for real?

(My profession kind of hinges on good attention to detail, haha)

[ar81]

Originally Posted by lightthecandle

It is true, isn't it?

I'm 23 and still breaking out.

There are beauties, hidden behind acne.
If guys do not like you, too bad for them.

Acne comes from too much stress and hormonal changes, usually.
If I was you, I would care about managing stress, not about guys. You are too young.

In developed countries, getting married after 30 years old is fine. There is no hurry to live things too soon. Do not try to rush adulthood. There will be plenty of time for that.

[hithere]

Originally Posted by lightthecandle

It is true, isn't it?

I'm 23 and still breaking out.

That's not true! I like a girl with acne.

It's not the face that matters, it's how you use it.