HELP! Angsty teenager sister :S

[dice]

My sister is the absolute epitome of teen angst. if there was a picture in the dictionary next to the word, it should be hers.

Dont get me wrong, I'm always looking for the good side of people and I hate to be pessimistic (irony!) - but she worries me. alot. and I don't know what to do.

she's in grade 11. usually by that age people have grown out of whatever hormonal discharge clogging their brains. she's always scowling, materialistic, obsessive about her possesions, she steals, fakes illnesses, hangs out at the mall all day, swears constantly, is constantly pissed off at the entire world, is failing school and working harder to make excuses. Listens to marilyn manson and ozzy. loves animals, buys a lot of them for the novelty, maybe bragging rights (hamsters, fish, cheap stuff) neglects them and leaves someone else to be responsible for them. She tucks that person away sometimes and is polite to family members and people she respects, but can never stop blaming other people for her problems. screams at my mother for "stealing her clothes" to "put them in the wash"

It's completely ridiculous stuff.

She has an easy life. Never been beaten or bullied, she has a few friends (who i think are like minded), parents are supportive and extremely lenient. neither spoiled nor deprived. theres no outside cause.

We grew up in the exact same household, but our mindsets are POLAR opposite.

the thing that bothers me most about this - and the thing i am most ashamed of in the entire world - is that we live in the same house but haven't talked for years. when we were 6-7 we got along really well, she was the most adorable little thing and i don't understand how it happened...

I literally cannot find it in myself to talk to her. She turns any innocent bit of communication into a fight or a blame game, so i've just given up.

Today it really started to bother me - some friends have seen her and started commenting openly on the same things. She is extremely angry - but has nothing to be angry about.

It doesnt affect my life directly, but it pains me to see once good people walking around so spiteful about life.

I hope it will resolve itself, but its only getting worse.

I might suggest to my parents to send her to a bootcamp or something to make her appreciate life a little more,

anyhow, i've dealt with the situation by just accepting her, and ignoring her, and getting on with life.

can anyone relate?

[Alexjstrandberg]

I didn't have the exact situation but something similar. My brother and I used to be very close until he started to develop an ego to cover up his insecurities. It took time but I eventually accepted his decision to put distance between me and my family.

I realize that people who are stuck on their paths don't change unless they want to. They are addicted to their situation in a sense. No amount of telling them what they are doing is hurting those around them. They need to learn and understand what is going on for themselves. They need to hit rock bottom before waking up.

By the way, calling your sister angry is not being pessimistic, it's being honest. You can see the good in everyone (which is a great trait to have) but you need to be clear about what they are doing.

Pessimism only happens if you judge someone or something, if you add a good or bad label to it. For example, you call someone who is overweight fat. There's nothing wrong with that because they are in fact fat. It's a bad thing only when you judge them and feel superior to them in some way.

Positive thinking doesn't mean you disregard the truth all together.