|11-02-2008, 02:33 PM||#1 (permalink)|
Join Date: Oct 2007
What to do when your Spouse meets the Ex again
Here is one of my recent blog posts, and I just hope it can help spouses somehow.
What to do when your Spouse meets the Ex again by Angel Cuala
It is common to most married couples to have previous relationships before they got married. But what if your spouse accidentally crossed paths with the former sweetheart again? Then, you learned that the Ex is not yet married and still available. The problem is you seem to lose your good physique while the former sweetheart looked better than before. Suddenly, the Ex becomes your neighbor or will be your spouse’ office mate. You will start to be insecure, and you will be scared of what might happen next. So before making any stupid action, I suggest you view the tips below and hopefully can clear your mind.
Do not be naive
Acting like a child will not help. Do not show any sign of insecurity because it will distract your feelings. You may not notice it but one day, you are getting paranoid about it. It is normal to be jealous a bit, but you should not get carried away. Do not be judgmental on what you will see. If you want to clear something, ask your spouse lovingly and talk about it calmly. Communication and trust always go together.
Maintain your composure
Of course there will always be a chance of infidelity. It may even be with another person. Do not to act silly in front of the Ex just to prove that you are the spouse. Your hubby might notice your sudden change, and it may be the cause of misunderstanding. It is best that you relax your mind. Then, be sure that you always look good.
Enjoy your status
To minimize your doubts, enjoy your status as the spouse. You have all the right to feel secured simply because you are married. If you see them together, do not show off or be conscious about it. Act naturally as if they were not former lovers. Never do something that might harm the former sweetheart. But as the spouse, it is important to know where they will go and what they will do.
To reduce the possibility of being cheated, increase your effort to have a healthier marriage. Use your ability to do everything to make your spouse be always loyal to you. Have more quality time with your spouse and make the most of it. If the former sweetheart will have a chance to see you, prepare for it. The Ex should feel that your spouse married the right person.
Be a friend
To erase your fear, why not join the ride? Although it will make you feel weird at first, but befriending the Ex is a good idea. By doing this, you may feel safer and might realize that there is really nothing to worry about. Take is as an advantage on your part to learn more things about your spouse. You may even be surprise that the former sweetheart can also be your friend. After all, past is past and you are now the present.
Fear is only in the mind. Be your best, and you will forget it.
Article Source: Father Blogger dot Com
|11-02-2008, 07:15 PM||#2 (permalink)|
Join Date: Nov 2006
Location: Berlin, Germany
I really don't think that it should change something. Fear is not helpful.
Insecurity is the last thing that you would need in a situation like this.
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