How shall I approach this problem..?

[Muzzinho]

Hello everyone. I am 20 years old and I have recently been having a few problems with my mother. She feels that I am not contributing to the household financially as well as in many other ways. She feels that she does all the work, cooking, cleaning and so forth. And she doesn't like the fact that I am unemployed and not studying. I told her that I am seeking a job and that education, at the moment isn't right for me, but maybe later on in life. However she still says to me that I am failure and I have to "do better". It doesn't help that my dad treats her very badly and is hardly present in our family life. My younger brother, lives alone and has work as well as my older sister. Both are working and living on their own; while I am unemployed and still at home. She says that every-time she nags me she is just "trying to help", but everyday she keeps calling me (literally) a "failure". I want to live alone and keep her at a distance but financially I am unable to do so and if I go out and rent it is very expensive and not a wise idea; london is very expensive. What is the best way to deal with something like this?

[Rose of Cairo]

Hey Muzzinho,

I'm too tired right now to write something smart to you. Just wanted to let you know that I'm sending much Love your way. You'll find a solution

[seanner689]

It sounds like she wants you to

1. go to school (not happening), or get a job
2. Help out around the house.

so i guess one solution is:

1. find a job (you're looking, which is good), and possibly start chipping in once you have one ... and

2. do some cooking / chores around the house and keep it tidy (which is pretty much standard for most people whomever they live with, working or not)

in my own experience, tidying after myself and being out of the house for most of the day lead to a happy coexistence with my parents. if you think that you'd rather just move out, then i guess you need to start making some serious cash.